General Chat

My sister had a disabled badge on her car for a year.
It wasn't for her, it was for my brother in law.
He had good days & bad days. Nothing wrong with his legs, he was naturally thin, sometimes he could walk perfectly well for a while, then get really tired.
My sister only had that badge for a year -- the year my brother in law spent dying of mesothelioma.

No doubt he was 'judged' as he got out of the car.

I have a friend who has MS. She has many good days and a lot of bad days. On her bad days - they can hit without warning - she needs crutches. On her good days she can outwalk me. She has a disabled sticker for her car. She uses it when she needs it. There are times when she is in pain but looks able-bodied to anyone who doesn't know her. She has had people speak very rudely to her at times but she no longer feels she has to explain herself to anyone.

I hope John takes the points, but sadly I have my reservations. :-(

As he's pointed out several times in the past 'It's all water off a duck's back' :-|

He will not Wend because of biggotry
Sadly some people just see the first thing in front of their eyes and have neither the brain capacity not the intelligence to actually see

Sue, I have a nephew with MS (and is also employed).
Anyone passes comment on him - I'm afraid he tells them EXACTLY where to get off!!

Maggie - my friend was employed until last year when she retired. She worked part-time but that was usually a 32 hour week. She just ignores people's comments now. I noticed a young man getting some bags out of the back of his car which was parked in a child friendly bay. Someone made comment to him and he pointed out his wife waiting nearby who was stood with a toddler and a set of baby twins. The person was a little red-faced but didn't apologise.

All I will say on the matter is never presume

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This thread was begun by somebody who is in the category you mention. A person fully entitled to park close to a store and fully entitled to not be jostled by the able-bodied.

I have made some observations. Trying to support what he said. I may have been wrong about this man tonight. But I don't think so and I would bet a lot of money that he was able-bodied and selfish.

We have had threads on here about people glaring at someone who looks 100% fit but has an entitlement to a parking bay etc. I know people do get upset. I don't usually. I didn't really this afternoon. I doubt anyone disabled wanted his parking space today.

Or if you do presume & are wrong at least apologise (being optimistic!)

My daughter has MS as many of you know, she won't even apply for DLA let alone a blue badge cos she feels it would be giving in to her illness. I wish she would!!

Anyway, what really gets up my nose is the 'cash point cripplies' who are obviously unable to park their car anywhere other than a disabled bay in order not to wear themselves out by walking to the hole in the wall. No badge...no shame!

why do you doubt any disabled person would want that space today?
Or is that another of your sweeping ill-thought statements?

'cash point cripplies' :-D

we have "newsagent cripplies" here, running in for a paper!

A lesson to us all never to judge.

We have Chipshop Cripplies too :-D ;-)

I find "the glare" quite amusing...especially as sometimes it comes from a neighbouring parked up Blue Badger.

Oh to be such a better person as to judge others...maybe they should bring in "crippile" levels? :-|

Ways of assessing cripply levels when I was young was helping the elderly across the road, helping the blind similarly in days when you saw very few guide dogs and giving up your seat on the bus.

The "elderly" were often younger than I am now, so I expect I would fit into one of those levels. I am pretty sure I could get a card if I wanted one. But am equally sure some of us entitled to cards would not suffer too much if we parked at far end of car park and showed a bit of sympathy for those who really need a bit more help.

Tesco car park was pretty empty, Errol. So we could all park close to store today. Nobody was parked in any of the disabled bays that I can remember - except your pushy friend who I (and those with me) felt on balance did not need to park there..

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my lovely OH had a blue badge for the last few months of his life - he looked absolutely fine - no outward signs at all that he was close to death - never ever judge someone using a blue badge - they may be just like him

Oh dear John I have only just caught up with this thread. I really do not like your description "Cripply levels" it is so inappropriate and degrading towards disabled people. I have to say you do use some very offensive terminology, Please think for a moment of the impact they may have before you post your thoughts and commments.

Normally I'd be outraged at privately employed car clampers, except for the one occassion at a shopping mall.

A large 4 x 4 was parked in a disabled bay.
It wasn't >>>displaying a blue badge.<<<<
Serves them right to come back to a clamped vehicle

The bays in this particular mall are larger than the average, the size of the vehicle v the normal bay width was not an excuse.

Surely the point of John's observation were that there didn't appear to be a Blue Badge on display?

As for wayward trolley -
Of the 3 supermarkets we use, 2 have coin operated trolleys.
The third one tends to have their trollies returned to the correct place, although I must admit to doing a quick sort out if different sizes have been launched in any old how!

At least one employee who collects the trollies has Asbergers, which is on the Autism spectrum. As I knew him while he was at school, he said that he prefered that to being put on the Till as he had less contact with the general public.