General Chat

Brenda, I know it's tiring but you wouldn't have him go without his food would you ? You know you will do all you can to keep Dan comfy. I am glad you have the company of your son even if he is using the computer a lot it's still good to have someone to share the worry I expect.

I hope a good hospice can find room for Dan soon where he will have more peace perhaps and will be happier to eat their food without being coaxed.

Thinking of you both, take care love,

Lizxxx

Not managed to get on here for a few days as son from Oz has been using computer a lot for his work,.
Dan is up one day down another.
Still drifting in and out of consciousness.
Talked to Macmillan nurse yesterday and hope he can be transferred to a hospice soon.
Can't complain about the nurses though,they are all very good,but it's not the one to one care he had at home.
I find it tiring at the hospital every day,but he won't always eat his food unless I coax him and the nurses haven't got the time..

Doesnt this prove how tough the human body is? Brenda, you are a marvel. What wonderful women we have on here, much more inspiring than the celebrities we hear so much of. Thinking of you and hoping all will turn out as you hope.

Didn't realise you had another son in Oz Brenda. What a lot of people visiting, it's lovely if Dan recognises them and glad he was eating after the scare he gave you but it must be so tiring for you.
You deserved that brandy, hope it helped you sleep and today Dan will be stronger again

love
Lizxx

Wishing you a restful nights sleep Brenda. xx

B renda you too need rest and care. Thoughts are with you, take care.

Was going to have a bit of a rest today,as son from Guernsey was coming,but hospital phoned to say we should come in as his sats were very low.When we went he was asleep all the time and hardly breathing.
Came home afternoon and son went back and he was sitting up having a cup of tea/So we went back and son was feeding him macaroni cheese.He took a cup of tea from me,but none of us knew if he recognised us.
Grandson coming tomorrow and son from Sydney(not the one in Melbourne Liz who lost his wife last year) will be here on Sunday.
Dan has given me so many scares,particularly this year,but he keeps fighting back.going to bed early tonight and just had a brandy!!

Brenda you Dan & family are still in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs to you all xo

Brenda, I am glad Dan ate some breakfast and hope other family members can persuade him to eat when they visit. You must rest so you don't end up in the next bed at hospital!
I wondered if your son would come from Oz to see Dan, you will be pleased to see him too I expect but it will be hard for him to visit hospital again after all he went through with his poor wife not so long back.

Hope the care package can be organised soon and Dan will fight back some more

love
Lizxx

Brenda, i've been having a little think about your Dan, (whilst sending him comforting hugs and courageous strength), and i reckon he thinks that if he eats when you are with him then you will be more reassured that he is more settled when you go home.
I am pleased that your family are able to be with you at this time, and i am sure that they will not be expecting you to be waiting on them hand and foot.
Gentle comforting hugs for you xxxx

Brenda, good to hear that he is eating something. Do you think he is refusing food because he doesn't want to be there and is sort of sulking to punish you? Maybe because he is not thinking straight. When you feed him he feels safe and in control. Hope the food builds up his strength now.

I am still thinking of you and Dan. Best wishes to you both, and to your family.

Huia.

Dan was more sleepy today,I didn't go in till midday,but they told me that he had eaten some breakfast.I am now really tired and will have to leave it to the staff to feed him.Daughter and s.i.l are here tonight,and another son tomorrow,and the other flies in from OZ on Sunday.They will have to sort themselves out as I.m not here as I usually am to wait on them!!!
Still talking about palliative care....so fingers crossed.

Dan was more sleepy today,I didn't go in till midday,but they told me that he had eaten some breakfast.I am now really tired and will have to leave it to the staff to feed him.Daughter and s.i.l are here tonight,and another son tomorrow,and the other flies in from OZ on Sunday.They will have to sort themselves out as I.m not here as I usually am to wait on them!!!
Still talking about palliative care....so fingers crossed.

Brenda, when my OH went into hospital to be assessed for permanent care he got it into his head that they were trying to poison him! He wanted to go home but I said I had only just arrived and it was lunchtime. We sat at the table and when they brought his meal he just looked at it. It was a pasta meal and I said that it looked nice. He kicked me under the table. I then reached over and took a piece of pasta and popped it in my mouth. He looked horrified but when I didnt drop dead on the spot he then started eating! Perhaps Dan's brain has gone a bit strange from the lack of oxygen and he is thinking they are trying to poison him, which is why he will only eat the things you provide. Perhaps you could try the meals that the hospital provides for him and comment on how lovely they are.

Just a thought.

Huia.

Brenda, that's great news, I hope your feisty man will continue to eat and gain some strength to fight on. I reckon you have spoiled him so he will only eat when you say so or maybe you just know what he likes best and how to encourage him.

Glad you got some rest and hope you will continue to get support and some good sleep knowing Dan is being cared for. I know it's hard that you have to go in and feed him but at least if you can sleep at night without listening out for him, it's a help, I expect.

Keep being positive and know how much we are all behind you both

love
Lizxx

Been all day at hospital...but...although he was refusing food and medication he ate a brioche roll i'd taken in,ate 1 sausage with half a scoop of potato and banana and custard.Drank some tea and later lucozade then for supper he had a small portion of soup 2 small portions of lasagne and a small tub of icecream.
Hard to believe when he's not eaten for over a week.The thing is though that he won't take it off the nurses,only me!!!!Where's my respite!!!

Seriously though I'm amazed and feel a bit happier tonight.He seems to be getting some fighting spirit back....watch this space.........

Brenda, so glad you managed to get some sleep, maybe when Dan see's you looking a little refreshed today on your visit, he will feel encouraged to have a cup of tea with you.
Thinking of you both. xx

Read all your support posts...thank you everyone.
Had a good nights sleep as I was exhausted with them all here.
S.i.l doing a bit of gardening and cleaning gutters out while I'm at the hospital.Dan had a peaceful night,but wonders where everyone has gone!!
going soon and maybe I can persuade him to eat and drink a little.

Hope you have been able to sleep Brenda and having some company and someone to do little things for you will help a bit as you go through this difficult time.

Have been thinking about you and hoping Dan is comfortable and peaceful.

Lizx