General Chat

and anyway does someone really think that if supercrutch posted a thread on 'chat that said

hello friends who know my family tree drop me a line I have some questions to ask you

somebody would report the thread ?? :-S

I must say I never met people like that on the 'help' boards when I was posting on there before

but there have been a lot of reported threads this week for people posting duplicate threads is what it seems to be anyway .... that seems to be one person doing that and none of the 'regulars' seem to be too impressed ......

~~~ waves to supercrutch~~~~~

'cos I can't do posh pictures and emoticons.

Susan ( numbers ) I think we may have crossed, I did yes get myself muddled :-) more used to the 'help' threads

I quoted what supercrutch did say up above now

please don't say I misquoted when I just got muddled, it isn' t hard to do right ? and I am a newbie on the 'chat' board ! :-D

I still don't understand supercrutch, if someone saw you were posting for help on 'Gen' does that mean they never look at the 'help' boards ? and if you know who knows your tree and who to ask for help about a particular thiggn why not just send them a message ? :-S

it does come down to it looking 'cliquey' to a newbie .... trust the newbie :-)

I'd say Chrissie that within the parameters and T & Cs set by GR , the site is what ever one wants it to be 'for'?

If I choose only to ask friends to help, it is in no way being unappreciative of all the other helpers on the site, nor bothering them in any way I shouldn't think lol.

I don't feel 'slighted' if someone says to me "I am getting help from a friend , so yours isn't needed, but thanks" . Why should they not do so, they may prefer to do it here rather than FB simply because they have their tree details to hand on here, something they wouldn't have on FB. :-)

Cooooeee Gwyn :-D

Some of us who've been on this site for ages do like to chat to others who we know, but in reality there are many who I only 'know' on this site, not real life. That doesn't stop a bit of friendly banter with those one feels would be OK about that.
I never use Facebook, so am glad of a board to talk about all subjects, not just our researching.
Some people on GR have become friends and it's good to meet up and chat with them in the real world, when possible

I knew nobody on the site when I first joined in, ( well I didn't think I did until Hayley re found Daff for me after so many years)


Gwyn

I don't think you have quoted that right Chrisie, If you are speaking of my thread, that is.

I don't remember anyone saying they only want to do research with their friends. Please don't misquote....tis not fair.

if anyone would like to read the correct version, please see my thread.

And as for face book.

what has that got to do with anything?...

No I don't just want help from my friends I want help from those that know me and have some knowledge of the complications in my tree. That includes quite a few GR members who have helped in the past but they are not 'friends'.

I would assume if they saw I was posting for help on Gen, they would jump in and offer to help then I'd send them the query.

Simples.

I' m sorry I got myself very confused ......... it was what supercrutch said in this thread .........


'Chrissie, I am at a stage in my research where I generally need someone to trawl newspapers (Susan with #s) does that for me as she has full editorial rights to my main tree. Other members have the most personal information that helps them to help me and that I wouldn't want posted on a public site.'

but the 'chat' board is a public site .......... so I don' t understand ....... :-S :-)

I don't ever ONLY want genealogy help from friends...BUT the 'experts' on finding ancestors ( including me) still haven't found my long lost gt auntie...so I'm prepared to try anyone ;-)

well the newbie has a mystery I do have to turn my attention to , a professional genealogist coudln' t solve it :-)

I think you are missing what I am saying about Facebook .......... some people are saying in the other thread that they want help for their family history questions _only_ from their friends ......... and I don' t think that is what the Genes Reunited site is for whether it is the 'chat' board or the 'help' boards or what have you ......... that is why I said that if people want family history help only from their friends maybe Facebook is the place to go ;-)

and...lots of people don't LIKE facebook lol, I am on there but don't really 'use' it, and when someone does start to chat to me there I usually miss them 'flashing' until they have 'got bored and gone home' lol.

Lets face it,,,,,,it only looks cliquey because these days all that seems to be left still is those handful that have been around for a few years and aged with the site.... :-) :-) :-) :-D

Chrissie has dashed off for now but I'm sure she'll be back.

Referring back to her comment re. facebook. Frankly facebook has nothing to do with it, and half the people on my list over there are people who I first discovered here (before facebook lol), anyway.

But really, think about it, could you expect people who know each other, or have chatted together for a long time, not to chat to each other on general chat in case someone might think it's cliquey?

If this were a pub, and a stranger walked in, would the chat stop, would everyone go rushing up to greet the stranger, or would there be just a cursory glance and carry on the chatter, and if said stranger says 'good evening' give a friendly and curteous reply?

In other words, newbies...come in and say hello. nobody knows you're there until you speak. :-D

You cheeky madam and don't call me Suepig (I have just been checking old thread..lol)

*climbs on commode*

I dont know about new blood a pulse would do...** Looks @ SUe and Uggers ** <3 <3 <3

*nods head in agreement with our Rose*

I think most people on Chat Chrissie, talk to anyone who talks to them lol, some get on as passing acquaintances, some as people who are on the same wavelength when it comes to humour, or debates, some who have met once or twice, and some who have known each other years on and off the boards.

Whilst it's always nice to be with a group of friends you feel comfortable with, it's also nice to have new people joining in to put fresh ideas, or their own slant on things :-)

I see a newbie ( only 16 posts ! ) has replied in her thread where I was getting tangled up in old baptism records and joking with the other 'helper' who was straightening me out .......... so I must be off !

I don't want to restrict my chat to FB because I have very few friends on there for privacy control.