General Chat

that' s it TootyFruity - perception even if not fact :-)

when you want to get newbies to join in it;s perception that does matter !

I said auf wiedersehn why am I still awake ??

I often wondered it people who was not very confident to just jump in and add to threads used the term cliquey .. :-D

Hi Sally are you the same who uses the FB page?

Susan with numbers it's not cliquey by intention more because everyone has been talking to each other for so long that a familiarity has evolved in a natural way. It's more perception than fact.

only if a persons level of comprehension is askew. My threads have never ever been cliquey......should I feel insulted that anyone could ever say such a hurtful thing? The casting of aspersions......the hurt felt by my little heart

Yay though I walk through the valley of wombles
I fear no wombling

(0h whoops....I was being so silly there for a moment....)

nah......go ahead....my blood is not red.....it is blue :-D :-D

Chrissiex now I understand. However, if anyone just wants their friends to help then as you said earlier, why not just post on the Finding Ancestors board and invite your friends to do the lookups or put up a general help request for friends to send pm for information on a request for help. Not everyone likes fb and I can understand why.

In response to Rambling Roses original question, yes we could do with some new blood but the bigger question is how are they going to be attracted?

It's only cliquey if you let it be i think, me i will perfectly happily trample in with an opinion wherever it isn't sought :))

Confidence? arrogance? lack of conformity? or am I just friendly like a big bouncy labrador puppy with a waggy tail ...everyone is a friend till you kick me :)

Hello TootyFruity :-) if you read Susan ( numbers) 's post 'what I miss' you will have a better idea of what I was talking about maybe, I did get quite muddled trying to keep track of two threads at once and that is my fault. I was talking particularly about people wanting to get help from 'friends'.

I don' t want to repeat myself ... again ... but I think that kind of thing does make the 'chat' board look cliquey to newbies .....

I honestly think that any more comments on the subject would best be written on the other thread. I and others have already put our views on it and I find that many of the queries or points have already been addressed,especially those of Chrissies posts. Rose was asking a different question and it is only fair on her to be allowed to get the answers she was expecting. IMO


Tsk Rose........it took me ages to write that..... :-P

No need for any apologies for going off topic :-D I do it all the time ...

Kay

I think the object of that thread is that the title is seen by other members mainly newbies.

If no one posted on it, it would disapear off the board not to be seen

jax

Rose, you have too much time on your hands lol

(no relation to any of them BTW)

Susan with numbers, I think the purpose of all the boards should be adhered to, but then again I do like order and structure. My boss would say practically OCD.

Sorry Chrissie I misunderstood your original facebook page comment but even if we all chatted in a private area on facebook then this board would be redundant. I quite like having a board where everyone can chat in an informal way.
I would say, don't give up on this board and continue to post. Although there are many opposing views it would be very boring if we all agreed. I think it only appears clique because everyone has been posting for a very long time and that what happens when you get to know each others quirkiness.

Sorry Rambling Rose for going off topic

But are new/er members getting confused whats permissible on the boards,,,,,,we have a board that was intended to ask not to post about the same person more than once,,,,,,,yet 20+k posts later its a general chitchat thread.surely all that chitchat shouldnt be on the help board as thats not what its intended for,,,,,,,,,its just an observation on my part and theres no complaint,as said an observation...

Teresa, totally irrelevant but I'm just having a little game with your 'research names'.. using the surname with a first name to make someone famous lol... eg

Jim Lovell
Inspector Morse
Tom Baker
Robert Duvall
Eric bristow

Sorry you think that my opinion is silly'......I am also sorry that you feel peeved at me enough to say so.

Now me.....I don't think your opinion is 'silly'. You had a valid point and expressed it......but I do wish you could have stuck to the same thread as where the subject started......sheesh.....my head is getting so in a word spin.

I will probably need to have a lay down.

by the way,

I have helped many a time on the trying to find boards, as have many of us.....tis not an elite club. Some comments tonight have made it look as if there is a split between board members. This isn't so.....not in my eyes anyway....There are lovely people on all the boards......It's just that now and then there is a difference of opinion......If that makes my opinion silly....Well....so be it! :-D

that' s ok Rose, I know what I mean :-)

So long, farewell, auf widersehn goodnight !

Chrissie, I don't think anyone on any of the boards ONLY wants to speak to their 'friends'... if that were the case they wouldn't pay the subs for the privilege of doing something they can do for free lol

Me, I'll talk to anyone and everyone, until and unless they give me good reason for not wanting to :-D

Chrissie, every forum I belong to for my various interests and hobbies, ALL have a general chat board, for just that, and lets face it, it is through conversation that we make friends, be it online or in the real world.

General chat is precisely what it is, chit chat about anything.

On one forum I belong to, there is a section called 'The Flusher' where you can have a good rant about things too, the flush it once it's done by deleting the thread. Some of the rants on there are sooo funny they have me in stitches.

I think the majority of people on ALL the boards are very nice :) and very helpful in getting the newbies to the best place to find the info they need. ( I do usually direct newbies genealogy queries away from Chat as they tend to get 'lost' if the board's moving quickly lol not that it does that much these days).

I have seen a number of long-time members from the 'help' boards come over here of late and join in the chatter :-D (Tooty Fruity being one of them lol) and very welcome they are too.

Susan 'invade' all you like lol

Night ladies, sleep well all xx

come on friends, don' t you see that when I say 'Facebook' I am just meaning somewhere _private_ where this is a 'public' place in that it is for all members of Genes and not just for people to talk to their friends ? :-)

I think it really is a little silly to talk about 'chat' on help threads as if people should not chat with the people who ask for help and with the other people helping ............. I thought we were supposed to be friendly with the people who ask for help ............

really am getting confused ........ shall proberly just stay with helping on the help boards .......

but I will recommend that newbies who ask for help remember to check out the 'chat' board and join in the chatter :-D