General Chat

Jules, as Bridget (Spanish Eyes) says, it may well be woth your while to copy any letters to the local paaper, or in fact write to them of your circumstances. I am sure people don't realise how the army treats its dependants in this situation.

Hi Jules
Glad you have one less thing to worry about.

If you had needed the drops they are no problem. My OH has been using them for about 18 years and putting the drops in is no hassle - just a couple of seconds per eye as part of the morning clean-routine. That is a lot less than applying mascara.

I hope you get sorted soon.

Jules, please keep popping in when you can so we know you are ok

Lizxx

Hi Jules,
just looking in to see if theres any news. Keeping everything crossed for you and Buddy.

Cath xx

Plus see if you can get an "Attatchment to Earings" sorted out to enable you to pay expenses etc.**M**.

Thinking of you Jules, especially as today is Bidding Day.

You say that your husband has told the army about the situation. Have you informed them too.
You don't know what kind of a spin your husband may have put on it. I reckon it is well worth letting them know the facts from your point of view.
Also a remimder of your difficulties would not go amiss. Sometimes shouting loudly works!

As Spanish Eyes has said, send copy of letter to local newspaper, M.P. etc. And make sure that the army know that you have done so.

Citizens Advice is also a good idea, they can be very helpful. If they can't help you, they may know a man who can. You really need an advocate who knows the ropes.


Good luck,
Tess

I am so sad that your terrible circumstances have not yet been resolved. If I lived near you I would say stay with me for a while. I am truly amazed at the Army approach or should that be lack of help and approach.
May I suggest that you write to them, afterall you are still an Army wife and copy the letter to your local newspaper, your local council, the MP for your area, and anyone else you can think of.

I will search on the ineternet for you to see if there is anything else you can do.

Have you been to the Citizens Advice Office, be strong, do not give in,

Please can you send me a message so I know which area you live in, I used to be very involved in local governments some years ago.

Enjoy your sisters company


Spain 10.14 hrs

Morning Jules......so sorry to hear the latest blow for you. l wish l could help you.

Take care and keep positive.

love jude xx

Good to see that your sister will be there for you Jules.

So hard for you, but keep positive that things WILL turn out OK for you and Buddy.

Gwyn x

I didnt sleep to well last night, Kept thinking about being in a hostel....I wont be able to see local MP for at least a couple of weeks....

My sister is coming to stay from saturday until tuesday, that will be nice as im not coping very well at the moment...

My dad was fuming when I told him, he said it's not right that a disabled person should be put in a hostel...

Jules x

In our area no matter what the situation the local MP will not get involved!!!!

BUT may be worth a try x army wife may help .....Bl@@dy terrible how we treat army families !

I find it unbelievable that the army accepts your situation Jules, and the council's attitude also makes me angry. I do so hope that you will find somewhere soon. Of course he is claiming he is skint, that way he won't have to part with any money.

Oh Jules my heart goes out to you. It would be easy for me to just say stay strong but I now it's not that easy. Try and show your horrible ex you are better off without him, selfish pig. I hope I'm not speaking out of turn but he needs a slap. I hope you and Buddy are re-housed soon and don't have to be parted again.
<3 and ((((hugs))))

Cath xx

Thay run a bidding system in Edinburgh, and it seems a stupid way to work

Jules, please stay strong and positive that you will get somewhere where you can keep Buddy and won't end up homeless. Have you tried contacting your local MP for your area, he may be able to pull strings.

My son wanted a flat some years back when he was about 19 or 20. He kept going to our council and they said No everytime but then on one visit he saw a drunken man carrying a can of cider who was insisting on being housed as he had been thrown out of a homeless shelter for being drunk.
He was offered a flat! My son made a fuss and got in touch with Charles Clark who was then his local MP. CC made contact on my son's behalf with a housing association and within two weeks my lad was offered the flat he has now. My lad quoted the Equality Charter.

Make a noise, make a fuss, contact your MP and possibly your local newspaper! Maybe then you will be heard.

Will try and call you as soon as I can, have your new number now.

take care, stay strong, do not let things get you to places you have been before, don't let Pat win.

love and hugs
Lizxxx

It looks like I will be seperated from Buddy again...Poor little man doesn't know whats going on...If i'm in a hostel I don't know how long I will be without him again.....This is really making me sad.....

Jules x

Jules, really sorry to read your last posts. Do hope that something turns up out of the blue for you. I presume Buddy is your little dog, so hope that you will not have to be separated from him again.

I cannot understand this bidding business, as my stepson in Newark was rehomed by the Council recently. He has lived on benefits for years, and always lands on his feet.

Thinking about you.

Angelsong

You're not moaning Jules.
So many people rooting for you to get settled somewhere very soon, and tomorrow is another day. I'm sorry Buddy can't go with you, and I think it's disgraceful to be put in this situation when there are young people, druggies and other unmentionables, who have never contributed to the state, get it all laid on a plate to them.
xx

Hi

I have just been to see the lady at the council, she has said that once I put my homeless app in on 31st May I won't get put into the highest band until the 2nd week in July!! Not forgetting i have to leave here by 25th June...
She also said it is highly likely that I will be put in a hostel and I can't take Buddy with me...I will have to pay for my furniture etc to be put in storgae, which is about £90 a month...

I don't know why I bother, I fell so down now, just when I thought things were looking up I get a kick in the teeth...She also said when i'm in the highest band that it could take upto 4mths plus to be offered a place.....

I know what hostels are like as I had a couple of friends stay in them, most are full of drunks and druggies!!! I so can't wait NOT....

Sorry to moan..

Jules x

Hi SpanishEyes..

The army know everything as he was the one that informed them... I haven't heard from his unit or the army unit welfare officer..They said they would ring me but never did...I want to get away from the army as it hasn't done me any favours...

He has had my mobile cut off now and hasn't paid BT, sky or tv licence etc...He owes them lots of money....He txt me the other day and said he was skint!! £33k a year and he's skint!!!
He told me to move out and I stood up to him and said I will move out when I am ready and not when you tell me!!

I now have a new mobile number so he can't contact me anymore....

It will be bidding day on Thursday so lets hope there is something for me as I don't think I can carry on the way I am for much longer...

Jules xx