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Julia never put this thread up to cause bother
she put it up out of genuine concern

she hasnt named the person so why give her bother
she is a nice friendly person who never causes upset

so come on folks give her some respect
she wouldnt be saying this happened if it never

Kay ???? I have done the first part, but do not know if it has worked. But do not know how to change my user name
Many Thanks
Julia in Derbyshire

PS, have just clicked on my own name, as if to send myself a PM, and it has taken out my maiden name and my DOB, so it has worked. Never had to do this before, so unsure of how to do it. I will still sign my posts as Julia in Derbyshire, so everyone know it is still me

Julia

Your surname is still visible. I have removed my surname from 'My Account'. But I can no longer see where to change my board name - perhaps someone else can tell you how to do that.

~~Julia.

A surname appears when clicking on your board name.!!!.

go into your account and replace the G with a dot or single letter then again in username click save ...that way a surname will not show anywhere.

I have twice typed out a reply to the dounbting thomas female on here, and my internet connection has broken up and the reply not posted.
So here is the shortened version. In no way, is this my fault. It is down to GR putting my private deatails in a position for all and sundry to access it.
And yes, I do expect GR to do something about it.
I do not believe that one female can spout such ideas about another, because above all else, the one thing I am is honest, and my integrity shoul not be called into question on this.
Good Morning from a very,very irate
Julia in Derbyshire

Actually Uggers, I tend to agree with you. I was going to post yesterday but never got around it. I'm not saying that Julia's fears are unfounded but we don't know the context of the emails.

I agree with Janey that the information on here is too revealing.

That is an easy question Janey but an irrelevant one to my mind. Someone I don't know has posted a thread saying accusing someone so far anonymous of doing something. That's not something I like pronouncing judgements on and am merely expressing my surprise that other people feel so comfortable doing so.

Minnie, try reading the "Privacy Policy" published by this website.

Easy question, Uggers.

Is the conduct described something you can envision yourself doing?

Supplementary:

If so, in what circumstances?

As I mentioned, I have done it once. I had to put an end to the online stalking -- across half a dozen sites -- that the individual was engaging in. I and another person whom she had harrassed to a somewhat lesser extent put our heads together and followed the breadcrumbs she had left around the net. She persisted in following me and posting quite horrible things about me on several discussion boards. My colleague and I tried to get across to her that *we knew who she was*, which meant we knew everything about her, but she paid no heed. I had to threaten to publish her personal details, and offer a hint to her surname that no one else would have understood but she could not have failed to understand, before she grasped the situation and finally, and permanently, stopped being anywhere that I was.

I cannot imagine any situation, not one, in which I would spend the time it takes to find the information that Julia has described about a total stranger, and then send it to that person. I cannot think of any reason, let alone a good one, why I would do that.

If you can, do please tell us.

Julia - you gave GR your name! They didnt pluck it out of thin air.

What action ar you waiting for them to take? please give yourself a ficticious name, or at least a made up surname

Just to get the record straight, I did not put my name on here, GR did.
And despite my messages to them yesterday, they do not appear to ha ve taken any action, and I have not heard from them
I will return to the thread later, when I have read everything that has been posted.
Julia in Derbyshire

It is interesting Janey, isn't it. It would appear - in this case - that the men are less likely to jump in with the mob without seeing anything for themselves.

Actually, I wondered at Julia doing that too. Perhaps she has just realized the problem.

But no, it isn't people's own doing that they are laid open to this at this website.

It is the doing of this website.

I've been posting about this constantly for a long time here. But there are new people paying their fees hourly, and other users have no way of alerting them to this appalling violation of their privacy.

I had used internet discussion boards for over a decade when I started using this one. When I filled out my account details -- using my real name because this is, after all, a *family* history site, and also one where I had to pay by credit card so I assumed my details had to match -- I had not the first clue that my name would be on display. I didn't use the discussion boards until I'd been a "member" for some two years. It simply never occurred to me, when I did, to wonder what my username was going to be (I had not been asked to select a username when I registered), or to click on my own name to see what it said.

When I twigged to this, and it took me a while, I was aghast. Fortunately, when you change your account details, the change automatically happens in the contacts list of everyone you have communicated with.

,,,and still Julia leaves her suname on here. WHY?
why put it at all?

I know you dont chioose your surname, butif you have an unusual one watch where you put it.

People are only laid open to this sort of stupid action by their own doing.

I'm sorry for Julia- clearly its scared her.

It is rather interesting that the two people questioning the negative interpretation / putting a positive slant on this incident are the men.

Why would this individual want to be doing Julia this favour? Nothing in the context suggests this. Sorry, that's just dumb.

What could possibly *not* be sinister about a total stranger hunting you down on the internet and letting you know he's done it?

I speak from experience. I tangled with someone on line about 10 years ago -- an unpleasant, unbalanced person (as one never realizes until too late). I'd given out too much information about myself -- certainly not my name, but I had mentioned the city I live in.

Next thing I know -- shortly after this individual accused me on the internet of having hacked her computer and threatened to shoot her children -- she is announcing that she has been on vacation in Canada (I later hunted *her* down in self-defence, and she lives just over the border in the US) to attend a touristy festival event ... that takes place six blocks from my home. The tale made sense, because the nature of the festival coincided with an activity in which she had been mildly well-known and was her current occupation. Whether she was really there or made it up to send me a message, I don't know. Either way, I spent several days in not so mild terror at the idea that she and the very unpleasant people and organizations she was associated with might have identified me and pinpointed my location.

People don't go hunting other people down on the internet and letting them know it to be "helpful".

is it possible that he was actually doing YOU a favour by showing you how easy it is to get that kind of info.
as david has said we dont know the quality/content of conversations you have had, so is it also possible that there is nothing really sinister in his actions?

Bob

Can you tell us who it is? ,.......Just so's I don't get intimidated by said person.

It is not expressly threatening to do the searches the individual in question has done and report the results to the subject.

It's quite obviously creepy.

And it exposes the privacy violation this site is responsible for, and demonstrates the risks it creates for paying users if someone with malicious intent does use the personal information the site deceitfully (and I think illegally) discloses.

No disrespect intended to you Julia but I don't know how anyone else is able to comment on it unless they've seen all the correspondence between you both - there are two sides to a story and I've seen people jumping in on this sort of thing before only for it to be a misunderstanding.

Daff, there are plenty of female cowardly bullies who resort to threats!