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I think most men revert to childhood and want their mum when they're ill. Luckily my OH doesn't get ill often either.

Sue xx

Soooo familiar. Do not get me wrong, my OH is an amazing man, but the first sniffle and I know I am in for a rough ride. Luckily he does not get ill much.

Gail

Well Gail - apparently I get a cold but OH gets the flu. I have an upset tummy - he gets gastro enteritis. I have a headache - he has a migraine. Sound familiar? lol

Sue xx

SueMaid, it is like when you both get the flu at the same time.
Him "You did not get it as bad as me",
Me "Why not!!!"
Him "Cause I had to go to bed for two days and you did not"

No I did not, WHY, cause he had MAN flu, that's the difference, and a very serious illness as well. :))

Gail

"Oh, I play nursie of the variety you see in S&M movies. ;)"

Really Janey - tell us more;-)

Glad the op's over with but now comes the hardest part. Looking after a MAN who has just had a medical procedure. Tough work - you may need more than a piece of 4x2.

Sue xx

Instructions: You bet he would do the same again, then expect me to nurse the bruises and scrapes from the fall. No sympathy from me on that one. Not when you tell them to stay put all he will get is "I told you so".

When will your No 1 be home? I now think they should remain in hospital as long as possible.

Mine has to have an op on his arm again soon, when he gets home, he cannot do anything for himself, not even cut his food. So I now have two nelson knives and he WILL use it this time, I am not cutting his food or will put up with the excuse that I am used to it and he does not have to get used to only using one limb. They really are another species.

Gail

Oh, I think the BP thing would have sorted it out, because yes, this was just the initial workup when he arrived on the ward. There would have been more when he got into pre-op, at least. They were to have 30 minutes' notice of when he was going down, and something was to happen then, blast, I forget, but that would have been when the dilator was done again, and I'm sure the blood sugar and BP. (That's right, the dilating drops, because they'd had to send to the pharmacy for both them and the insulin. It was unusual for them to have an eye case on the ward, because regular scheduled surgeries are done at a whole separate facility.)

He is extremely skinny (isn't that just special), and I think the machine's cuff simply didn't fit on that one reading. She did it manually then and got the high one. (Me, on the other hand, I have no BP at all when they do it manually ...)

I was sure glad he wasn't the John Smith with the possible pregnancy. Not just him being lousy mother material -- I would have been embarrassed beyond belief to have to admit the moron in question was my moron!

Ignoring instructions -- I'll bet yours would behave just the same way the next time. ;)

Don't they need to be treated like a teenager?

My OH was very ill last year, came on very suddenly, piled him in the car and drove to hospital. I said I will get you a wheel chair, as you cannot walk in, left him in the car and went to get said wheel chair. Nurses asked what is wrong and symptoms, stated I think he has a kidney stone lodged. They stated that was up to the doctor to decide. He was grey and sweat pouring off him. He decided he was capable of walking, while I was getting the wheel chair, he collapsed on the way, he is a very big man in height and weight, so two tiny nurses trying to get him in the wheel chair was comical to say the least. Doctor arrived very quickly, and full examination later, his diagnosis was, "he has a kidney stone", well yeah I knew that, I too can google, plus his dad had kidney problems as well, OH has to have tests every year for kidneys, so have googled extensively on said disease. So drips and injections and enough morphine to put him off his face for 24 hours and he was home that night. No more problems of signs of stones since. At least the doctor did acknowledge to me that I was correct.

I must add that taking one BP reading as normal is not normal, I know with OH they were doing BP ever five minutes after his arrival at hospital, due to the pain it was high, and had to settle back to his normal for 4 hours before being let home. Due to the medication it ended up too low. So if your No 1 was going for an op, why were they not monitoring his BP consistently.

I also do not think he is ready to be a mother! He need to look after himself a bit better first, like not ingesting anything when going for an op. I must say though I have been tempted to tick that particular box just to see what the reaction of medicos would be. Whenever I have an X-ray, they ask me that question and I still get the giggles at the absurdity of it.

Gail

Oh, I play nursie of the variety you see in S&M movies. ;)

He can be such a moron. Let's pretend the BP reading the nurse took in his room that gave him 119/something was actually accurate. When the one the doctor took 3 hours earlier was 161/something. And the one in the ER last night was similar. And the one I took 6 weeks ago when I had the home gadget on loan was 154/something. And when I showed it to our mutual doc she said Yes he needs to come in. And he hasn't.

No, let's just let the nurse think his BP is bang on "normal" when he's going for surgery in a couple of hours. Let's not remember we nearly died of DKA a year ago when hospital people ask about medical problems. Let's decide that "no" is the right answer to the surgeon's question whether you've had anything to eat or drink this morning, when you had a cup of coffee before leaving home and have just downed a bottle of diet coke at the hospital. Heck, let's not think to ourselves: I'm probably going to be having surgery, I shouldn't be ingesting anything anyway.

Eeeeeeee. So I follow him around treating him like a teenager and shaking my head silently when he gives these stupid answers and then giving the right answer when the asker looks at me. That's why *I* filled out his history form on the ward.

I was tempted when I got to the "is it possible you're pregnant?" question ...

Last year, when he was just recently home from the diabetic ketoacidosis episodes, I got a call from the MRI clinic at that hospital. He was there for his MRI. Odd, I thought, he didn't say anything to me about having an appointment for an MRI, but whatever. They'd tried the cell phone number he gave them for next of kin but it was wrong. I don't have a cell phone, but whatever. So they'd called me, and they wanted to review the medical history questions, because he'd answered that he might be pregnant. I hadn't thought he was that moronic, but he might be that careless, whatever.

Anyway, a few questions later, and it transpired that they had a different "John Smith" at their clinic, and had been sent the wrong file!

Well that was a relief. I wasn't at all sure he was ready to be a mother. ;)

Oh Janey, so sorry for No 1 and the op, but you can make me laugh, though no laughing matter.

Recently my MIL was ill, mainly because of her high blood pressure and meds which needed to be changed, and lack of oxygen. She was seeing things out of the corner of her eyes, one worse than the other, also hearing things. Well she did not have her hearing aid in so problem solved when finally hearing aid was inserted into her ear. Docs wanted her in a nursing home. I asked these medicos "Do you know what a floater in the eye is?" The looks I was given were astonishing to say the least. So off to the eye specialist and guess what, floaters! Also very bad, one so large that when she bent her head down it landed on her cornea, and vision vanished. Docs thought she was losing the plot. She is saner than me.

So maybe the British Columbia 2x4 could be used on the laughing receptionist.

So glad you will now be able to play nursie. I really cannot imagine you in that role. :)

Gail

Oh, Janey, what a 24 hours you had. Hope he continues to get on ok.

Gwynne

And the good news is -- he's back in his room as of midnight (15 minutes ago from time of this post); nurse Julie Ann called to tell me. He was a long time getting out of recovery because of, yup, high blood sugar readings.

He's been eating and excreting and all the good stuff, and is feeling fine. Because his eye is still frozen, of course! Once that's over, they'll turn him over to me. Lucky me.

The optician, who has now retired, knew my parent's optical history too and said I didn't need any treatment as there was just a slight tear (I think that's what he called it) and it could mend itself. He just wanted to warn me that if I saw lots of floaters or anything untoward to get help immediately and explain what he had found. He only saw it when he examined my eyes even more thoroughly after I mentioned I sometimes seemed to see or sense a bright flash to that side when walking in a dark area, it was as if there was a light reflecting on my specs or something shiny nearby but only a tiny flash, almost easy to miss.
My Dad went to him for a routine check up and he asked Dad how long he hadn't been able to see out of one eye, Dad hadn't realised he couldn't till then lol (He was in his 70's) Seems Dad had had a vein or something burst behind his eye, he hadn't noticed so it had dried up and caused him to lost the sight in that eye. Hence me constantly winking to check both eyes are ok! I will be careful, don't worry. Don't fancy turning into a pirate at my age!
Not a flattering look. The hair loss was enough but that's been growing back since the vit d jab.
Lizx

It's one of those things that you hear about vaguely -- and then when it happens to you (or your powsslq), people who've been there just start coming out of the, er, woodwork. ;)

Like that cone biopsy business.

I guess for you it's a matter of the risks of surgery vs the risks of leaving it alone. The surgeon today told No.1 he had to explain the risks before having him sign the consent, but this one was a no-brainer (as he put it). No surgery, and your eye shrivels up and dies, and they give you a nice eye patch to wear for "cosmetic reasons" -- i.e., so you don't scare small children and dogs. ;)

You do be careful now!

At least you can't say life is dull Janey!
Hope all goes well with your powsslq and he isn't too bad a recuperating patient!

I was told a couple of years ago my retina was slightly detached at one small point and if ever I had a problem to go straight to a and e, which was why I was worried when I had the fall on the ice before Christmas but every day I wink with both eyes alternately to check all is ok and so far, yes. Last eyecheck in March didn't show any further problems but will steer clear of any planks, cedar or other.

Lizx

even rotting cedar must be good for something?!

What, not volunteering to stop by and dismantle my decks? Even that fine cedar of yours rots eventually. ;)

A working holiday. Good for the biceps and the soul!

lordy Janey

you two don't do things by halves do you?!


But that's quite incredible service. Wonder if we'd get it that fast here in BC???


I had cataract surgery in 2001, done 6 weeks apart. Everything went swimmingly, and changed my eyesight from coke bottle thick lenses because I was so short sighted to long-sighted, and needing glasses only for reading ............. and eating meals!


I've been lcuky so far (touches wood quickly!) ..... no glaucoma and no retinal problems.


Hope the surgery goes well for him, and that you survive the next 4 weeks or so without needing that BC cedar 4x4 plank


We'll be coming in your direction in December again ....... so I could throw another supply off the train if you like :))))


take care ............... and get your nose down into that work


It's my government you know!




sylvia

Ah, I meant to say that.

At risk for cataracts to start with: diabetic, heavy smoker. For me, it seems to be: female, brown eyes, some heredity maybe. We both got cataracts before 55, which is early, statistically speaking.

Retinal detachment is a relatively common post-cataract complication. I was lucky I didn't get it -- most of my vitreous fluid was floaters, I'd say; I was looking through a swamp for two years after the original surgery. The floaters can damage the retina. I just had scar tissue, which was removed. (But I got glaucoma from the steroids used after the surgery.)

So he won the lottery, I guess.

Cataract surgery just isn't the miracle treatment / walk in the park "they" seem to like to tell us it is. Apart from the surgery itself (which was hell on wheels for me both times, although for almost everyone else it is fairly easy), there are loads of possible complications and I think people should be made more aware of those possibilities, myself.


... I know nobody would think it might be from being hit upside the head with a 2x4. ;)

How did he get a detached retina, I wonder?