General Chat

Sorry to hear this Ann, but hoping for the best however..... don't really know what to say that could be of any use.......just thinking of you and your family.....x sally

Ann, thank you for the update. I'm sorry that the news isn't good.

Please give my best wishes to your son and his family.

Sallie.

Just heard from son, doesn't look too good I'm afraid. This is what he wrote.

"Apparently the form of stroke he had with internal bleeding in the brain is rated 1 thru 5 (5 being the worst) and he had a 4. He is still in intensive care in Chesterfield, on ventilation etc. They tried reducing the sedatives yesterday but he reacted badly so is sedated again. There are still issues controlling his blood pressure and of course having had one serious bleed in his brain another could happen at any time. Pretty bleak really. The latest plan is another CAT scan this morning followed by an attempt to remove the sedatives this afternoon and see how he reacts. If it goes really well he could possibly be moved to Sheffield specialist unit for an operation, but there doesn’t seem to be a lot of optimism around at the moment."


I do wonder, if he does come round, how will his mental faculties have been affected?

I wouldn't have been able to go through a pretty awful 8 months as well as I did, if it hadn't been for the support I got, and still get, from people on this site... it really meant a lot to me, when hubby would read the days' posts out, lol... even the nurses used to look forward to it, they were often sooooo funny!!

I will always give support where I can,, just to know that someone has taken the time to type a few words, well, that can give a real boost, and this helps recovery, or at the very least, helps with feelings of well being!!

I didn't dare pop my clogs.. there were too many lovely folk out there who'd have murdered me, lolol!! ;¬))

Love

Daff xxxxx

I have my MIL fairly close by (well a few kilometres) and we talk on the phone all the time. I do not have close friends or relatives nearby either and love the comradeship and support others on here give me and I can hopefully return.

I do not know how I managed without you lot and feel like part of an extended family.


Gail

thank you BC, Yes I know who the thread was directed at, unfortunately as the boy who cried wolf, sometimes even she genuinely needs support.

I also realise that people give support in different ways, I don't have any problems with those who don't care to publicly offer support. I do have a problem though with those who criticize the people who ask for support. and before anyone goes running off sending PMs I am not directing that at anyone in particular, it is a general comment.

Myself, I am grateful for the few times I have asked for and received support, I have no family nearby and, having moved around a lot, no local friends for a support group so any support I receive on here is warmly welcomed.

Ann
Glos

Ann, there are times in our lives when it is a great comfort to get the loving support of the members of GR. I have often been humbled by how generous people can be on here. I do not often add to support threads but it doesn't mean I do not care. The threads on Chat, I think, were probably directed at one person who continually screams for attention, and I am sure were in no way directed at you. I would hate to think that careless comments would make people who genuinely need help and support, think twice about putting a thead up. Yes, I am sure we all have our problems in life, some share some don't.. So what?

BC XXX

Just to add to my previous post because i don't intend to get embroiled by defending myself on Chat. Yes I do know what was behind the thread, however from the way the thread went it could be seen to be directed at all those people who ask for sympathy, bot everybody who reads it will be aware and could take it that they should not ask for sympathy. Nowhere did I say, by the way, that the posters on the chat thread had no worries of their own, and if they posted asking for support i would be among the first to offer it. I do not ask for support for myself often and it was not really for me this time, I just happen to believe that people can help a situation by directing their thoughts and prayers to the situation. Those who know me will know I am not holier than thou or sanctimonious. I guess that some of those criticizing my post have not even read it!

Ann
glos

Hello Ann
Sending positive thoughts to your family. Hope he comes through this OK and gets better soon.

Still not heard, have e mailed son again, I don't think he checks the e mail address I sent to before as he is continually on his works one. I am assuming no news is better than bad news.

ann

Hi Ann,

I do hope your d.i.l's father is improving after his stroke.
We do and should support each other through the good times and the bad.
I know I have asked for support and felt comforted by the prayers and thoughts for my d.i.l.
I'd rather these threads than some stupid ones.
Not talking about the jokes as we all need a laugh,but couldn't be bothered with the ones where certain members are bickering and falling out.

Love
Brenda x

Morning Ann... I hope you have some positive news today...... I am still keeping everything crossed, and positive thoughts winging your way...... the waiting is dreadful, isn't it??

Love

Daff xxxx

Morning Ann,


Still sending positive thoughts and prayers to the family and will continue to do as long as needed, because that's what friends are for.

Even if they are faceless friends and merely words on a screen, they are friendly words that come from the heart.

Some of us have no close friend or relatives around to lean on, except, maybe a partner that you can't always be dumping on. Or find it easy to make new friends as we get older, or be so introverted that we cannot make friends at all in real life.

To these people the computer is a lifeline as are these threads. A little bit of kindness can go a long way in helping many get through the day.

Have a nice day Ann!

Lindy xx

Just checking in to see if there is any update on your DiL's Father Ann.......I do hope the outcome will be positive.....

x sally

I have only just noticed this thread Ann, hoping that you hear some positive news today, I am thinking of you all
Claire xxx

Inly just seen this Ann - hope you receive some good news soon - prayers for all the family
Love Mary xx

Thank you again for all your good wishes, although having read a certain thread on chat I am wondering if I should have been allowed to post this. seemingly people are able to feel comfortable with mocking those who ask for support. they may be lucky and live within a close community of family and friends who give them plenty of actual support, some of us are not so lucky and I take exception to the mockery However, I will not lower myself to go on the thread and say so, nor will I ask for its deletion. It just shows me who will or will not give support to those worse off than themselves.

Dear Ann

my hopes for his speedy recovery, my thoughts are with you, and yours,

Bob

Sorry to hear of your family's sad news Ann.
Sending my best wishes
Mau

No we have not heard anything so i am assuming no news is good news. I will let you know when I hear anything.