General Chat

I just want to add my love and support as well to you Jan. I also know how it feels to be where you are right now.


Love and Peace
Marianne. x

Jan is fine and coping, have spoke to her.

Helen

Hi Jan, please don't be lonely, you can see there are so many people on here who will be your friends. I think i can see why you have no wish to go to the doctor and it is awful for you that you feel you can't. Maybe look at the web sites that Elizabeth posted. Maybe you will find somebody from here who lives near enough to share a cuppa with you, I hope so. I am in Gloucester as my name says, if you were near me i would love to meet you for a cuppa.

Maybe just being able to come on here and share your feelings will help. do you know about the thread on General board headed Depressions and Anxieties? there are a lot of people with similar problems on there, please have a look.
I hope just writing this thread has helped you.

(((((hugs)))))
Ann
glos

I think the amount of support on this thread for Jan has been Absolutely Amazing.Well done everyone.I have only just seen it.It just goes to show with all the **** that goes on ,people will always come up trumps.

If there is anything i can help with ....
i'm in Denbighshire ..North wales
EDIT... i deleted the post under this one ..... posted twice

If jan says she cant contact her doctor then prehaps we should .....hope you dont think that this is to rude BUT we should back of thet idea ......

As Jan may not trust her doctor or may feel he/she is not the person she could confide in.......

I think she seemed a little better in her post today and prehaps its best we are just all here for her to sound of to....

I,m not being rude but sometimes even the doctor cant be trusted

Northumberland.
Plenty of children and years of experience or that could be inexperience lol as every child is different.
It can all become so overwhelming at times...this I know from my own experience.

Had some bad days after my 4th...it took time but i got there in the end...it is not as rare as you think to feel so bad.
xxx

Shropshire for me.

North Cumbria if its any help Jan xx

A good idea *** Mummo ***

Though might be an idea for us to say what region we are in, rather than Jan putting it on here.

I am East Sussex near Hastings

Jan, just a thought, if you tell us what area your in, maybe one of us will be nearby and be able to give you some moral support, l know if you were near me l would like to help even if its to offer you a cuppa and a smile.

Jan, I can fully understand why you wouldn't want to go 'on record' as it were . That was something a friend and I agreed on, both of us single parents and always 'wary'. Do try and talk to a friend though . And though it sounds daft just the physical act of writing down what is wrong and what you want will help.

Rose xx

Hi
If you wary about contacting you DR, can you not find some support groups in you area, sometime a problem shared is a problem halved.

I guess you do not want certain agencies knowing your depressed but surely that is confidential information, please seek out some help, things are not as bad as you think they are and you need help to realize that.

Take care x

I thank you all for your love, concerns, messages. I'm afraid I can't take the advice on the GP, I have explained to a GR member the reasons why, and to be very honest it could be the worst thing I do. The care system here is VERY KEEN, if you get my meaning.

I think I need to step back see whats waht, and what I want, instead of it just beening what eveyone else wants. Just a tad lonely too.

Many thanks again, have yourselves a great weekend

Jan xx

Morning Jan
We're all here wondering how you are, we might not have met but we all care about you.
Think of times when you were happy...they will come again...I'm sure.
Take good care of yourself
Mau (xxx)

hi jan just popped in to to let you know still thinking of you x

Jan, do come back on please, just to say you're 'ok' (though I know that's not the truth) .

Life is awful sometimes and all you want to do is stay under the duvet where no one can hurt you and you can't 'mess up '. But you must get to a Dr if it is as bad as that.
You are NOT a bad mum, I know that ! I have done all sorts of things wrong, but my son says "you're the best mum in the world" lol you do what you can, thats the thing.

You can't take big steps to change your life or how you feel, just take the first 'small' (huge!) step of talking to someone . Wash your face clean your teeth and brush your hair, put on a nice t shirt and feel a bit 'human'..not just a mum/wife/ slave to work.

Good luck love,

Rose xxx

Sorry to hear you are feeling down Jan, it does sound like you may have post natal depression, not that I'm an expert. Please go and talk with your GP & let us know you are ok even if it is via a pm.
x

Hope you are feeling better today
Take care
Love Mary xx

Thinking of you Jan and hoping today is a better one for you xx