General Chat

Well a nice lot of activity on hee since I looked in last.

Sallie, that was a late visit. Having your husband facing an operation is a worry for any of us so with your problems to magnify it no wonder you are frightened. I think it is quite a common op that he is having and I am sure he will be fine. Scary? Of course it is but, as our son says to me, there is no point in worrying until something bad happens for you to worry about. Needless worry is wasted energy. I hope it helps to talk to us about it, we are always here to listen. You do seem to understand the problems your illness brings with it, hopefully you can keep yourself safe for all those who love you, us included. Yes Luke is growing so fast, he is very bright too. It doesn't seem possible he will be three in July.

Huia, good to get out and about by the sound of it. Yes a good idea to keep the cupboards stocked up. Make sure in your eagerness to get out again you don't overdo it.

Mo, it sounds as if they need to put more pressure on to get Lily seen doesn't it?

Grand daughter in law is having to put pressure on re her elective ceasarean. She has to have one because she did with Luke but she can't get them to set the date, she has only two weeks to go now and shouldn't be allowed to go into natural labour.

I have another couple of suspect places that could be basal cells so have had to ask for a referral back to hospital. My consultant signed me off a year ago. Goodness knows when that will be.

Hello everyone, it's so good to hear from you all.
You are a proper little night owl Sallie, being on here at that god forsaken hour in the morning. Mind you being on here, is better than lying awake, with the mind working overtime, as mine used to


Sallie my love,it's not easy to be able to cope at times of crisis, and you have had an awful lot to cope with.
Alun WILL be fine darling, and yes I know that it's easy for me to say that, but having been through it with my brother I know a little of your worries.
Stay strong my darling, and hopefully they will get Alun's operation appointment through as soon as it's possible.
If you need to chat, you can always message me, or I will send my phone number so we can chat in person.
It looks like our son and DIL will need to chase up Lilly's appointment, as nothing has happened on that front, apart from the school being very supportive.
She went to school yesterday dressed as Goldilocks for book club day.

Sylvia, it must be the time of year for boredom, we both feel the same as you. Nothing much has been happening, and being stuck indoors doesn't help.
Having a bland diet is I agree, is very boring. My appetite seems to have gone out the window, unless it's something naughty that I really shouldn't eat, ie Cake, Biscuits, and sweets, oh well never mind, once we get the better weather I shall cut back LOL sez me.

Huia, having our haircut, makes us feel lifted doesn't it. I have mine cut every five weeks, but have to trim my fringe between appointments, why oh why does the fringe grow quicker than the rest of the hair, I shall never understand.
I hope your visit to Moumoukai Valley goes well, and stays dry for you.

I will be back tomorrow, by that time, hopefully we may have some news from our dear friends Jean, and Marie.
Night everyone take care, hugs Mo xxx

Sallie, I hadnt realised just how bad your problem was. My very best wishes to you, hoping Alun will get his op quickly and be fit and well so he can help you through your problems. I do love all my friends on GR, so you take care of yourselves.

Yes, today I went to the Hospice shop and helped out behind the counter for a little while. then spent a lot of time trimming the price tickets (barcodes) for the ladies who price things. I spent a couple of hours there, then went and had a proper haircut - my sister had trimmed my fringe for me in early Jan. and a couple of weeks later I had another go at the fringe and sides, but it was good to get it done properly today.

I then went to the supermarket and stocked up on some food. I havent run out yet, but I want to keep the fridge/freezer and cupboards in a reasonable state of fullness in case of any more states of isolation.

Tomorrow I hope to go over to Moumoukai Valley to see how it has been doing in my absence, and go up to Cosseys Dam and to Hunua Falls as well. Taking my camera, of course, but I hope it doesnt rain too heavily. The rain started this afternoon. I do have waterproof parkas and trousers and boots, but my camera isnt waterproof.

Hi girls,

Not been on for a while ,sorry.It's been a busy time here for Alun, Jennie and myself. All three of us have had hospital appointments of one kind or another over the last few weeks.

Alun had to go down to Glenfield Hospital in Leicester to see the cardiac surgeon, even though he had told them that he wanted his operation in Nottingham City Hospital. So he has had to wait another two weeks before hearing from the cardiac surgeon there. Anyway, he has an appointment to see him, next Thursday morning,so we are hoping that the surgeon will be able to give him a rough idea when he will have his operation. We had hoped that as the mitral valve only needs to be repaired, he would have keyhole surgery, but as the too big for that, he will have to have open heart surgery.

So I have got myself into a right state, terrified and convinced that the very worse will happen.......but because of the G A D I suffer from I am finding it very difficult to think otherwise. Both my CPN and Psychologist are hoping and wishing that he won't have to wait long, because they are concerned for my safety and what I will do. Some of the traits of the borderline personality disorder I have are self hatred,anger, rejection and suicidal thoughts that come on impulse. I know it is very difficult not only for me, but for the family too, especially for both Alun and Jennie having to watch every move
I make, when they both have their own health problems too.

I seen the psychologist I am under today, she is really lovely, but of course today she has started delving more deeply into my problems, so it was a difficult and very upsetting session which left me mentally exhausting. She has warned me that from now on , because she will have to delve deeper into my past it will get harder and more upsetting. But if it will enable me to be able to cope and control my illness.so that my life will be easier to live with, then that's what I have to do.
Nearly eighteen years ago when I started having depression, I thought that would be it once I felt better, but instead each relapse the depression got worse, and then other mental health problems I have were diagnosed. I just think to myself, how on earth I got to the state I am in.


Mo, have they heard any thing more about Lilly? I hope that they will hear from the Child and Adolescent mental health team as soon as possible. My CPN, told me that sometimes their doctor, teacher and parents have to push a bit harder so that Lilly will get started on the treatment she may need. It doesn't matter what age group the person with the problems are in, it is the same, so you need to make yourself heard to get the help sooner rather than later.



Huia, so pleased to hear that you are now able to drive again, and are able to get out and about. Are you still working in the hospice shop? Hope you are able to,as it is nice to to be able to meet and chat to the customers that come in.



Jean, I am wondering if you have had the test you need yet. I really hope so and that the results all okay with nothing to worry about. Thinking about you and hope we will all hear from you very soon.




Sylvia, have you had the test you were due to have? I hope that you have and that you now know what the problem is and that it is nothing too worrying.



Ann, I love the photo of Luke, he looks a real little boy now, I can;t get over how quickly the time has gone since he was born. And you have two more great grandsons on the way too.
I hope that both you and T and your daughter are all okay.


It's a long time since we heard from Marie. I hope that she and her family are all okay.



Well, I must go to bed now,didn't realise it was so late.


Speak to you all again soon.



Take care everyone.



Love, Sallie. xxx <3 <3 <3

Hi

I'm still around, just leading a boring life :-)

as well as the very boring bland diet, no spice at all



Huia ... glad to hear you have got the all-clear to drive again.

Well done Huia, enjoy all the outings you will now go on.

Oooh Huia, what good news, you now being mobile again, gives you back your independence doesn't it love.
So watch out NZ folk, Huia's on her way.
I bet you are back at the hospice shop though love, at least that would have got you out of the house for a wee while.
Whats your weather like over there at the moment. You have probably noticed that we over here, have had lots of wind and rain, and it's been quite cold to boot. But then it's not as cold as it used to be years ago, it's no wonder people have had so many viruses hanging around, it's not been cold enough to kill the germs off.

Still no news from Jean, Sallie, Sylvia or Marie, I do hope they are all well.
Bye for now girls, take care, Mo xxx

I am fine Mo, in fact I went to the Super Clinic today for my check up (re the TIA) and I am now allowed to drive again, so tomorrow........

The month ban seemed to have turned into almost 6 weeks, but apparently I could have gone to my doc for the all-clear after a month, but then there have been so many holidays lately. I felt quite stir-crazy last week so look out everybody, here comes Huia, brrrrroooom broooommmm.

Hello there Ann, I was sorely tempted to buy some Poly's this morning, they had some really lovely colours on display, but I am so wary of the frosts coming back and kill them off.
No more news on Lilly's referral, but the school are being exceptionally good with her, keeping her parents updated on her progress.
She was dressed up this morning for book club at school, she looked a real picture. All the children had to go dressed as a character from a book, and little missy was fine till she got home, and told her parents please could they sort her messy hair out LOL.
Like you, we have had very lovely bright sunny weather, but crumbs it's been so cold outside.

I do hope that Jean and Sallie are both o.k, as you say it's been ages since we heard from them both.
Mind you, Sylvia, Huia and Marie are on the absent list as well, I do hope they are well also.

Take care girls, hugs to you all, Mo xxx

Oh dear, over a week since anybody posted on here. Once upon a time (as in all good fairy tales) we couldn't keep up with this thread.

Hope your garden is still continuing to bloom Mo. We have had several very sunny (but cold) days so the spring flowers are showing their faces, crocus, dutch Iris, miniature and full sized bluebells, primulas, helebores are all in flower. I took a few photos last week and put them on facebook Mo, you may have seen them. Any more news on Lily?

Hope, despite not being on here, that everyone is OK. Jean, have you had any of your appointments yet? If so i hope they went ok. I expect the gardens round your apartment are looking good with spring flowers. I am very envious of the carvings you have in them.

Sallie, are you OK, Not seen you around for a while again. Let us know how you are.

We are waiting now for the arrival of great grandson number 2 who should be due this month. Great grandchild number 3 seems to be progressing ok, Mum is now 19 weeks.

We are just back from a garden centre, a walk round all the spring plants for sale lifts your spirits, especially as it is sunny today. I have to admit to being tempted by a bright yellow polyanthus which is now planted in the garden. Also bought a book for Luke and a colouring book for me (I have quite a collection of them now.) this one is of flowers at Kew Gardens, very pretty.

anyway, this will take us back up the top.

Hello there Ann, we are fine thank you.
Every morning I take a walk round the garden, and notice just how many of the plants are growing, my pots of bluebells are well on there way, and there seems twice as many this year.
My neighbour over the road has so many daffodils out, and next door has Narcissus (sp) in bloom, they look wonderful.
It certainly looks like the others are busy doing things at home etc.
I hope that our Jean and Sallie are well, as well as Sylvia, Huia and Marie.
Speak to you soon, Mo xxx

No snow here Mo, just frost and fog and drizzle and a little bit of sun. Roll on spring, the helebores in the garden think it is spring already and I have seen birds with nesting material but I think it will be a while yet before it warms up.

I guess everyone is busy or something Mo, hope you and Roly are ok.

Well blow me down, I thought I would pop in to say a quick hello, and no one has been around since the 18th.
I do hope everyone is keeping well, and that you are not all snowed in. Lets hope and pray we don't get the snowfall that America is undergoing at the moment. They have had so much overnight that it's just unbelievable that so much can fall so quickly.

Well stay safe and warm everyone, hugs Mo xxx

Sallie, thank you for your explanation to Mo re Lily. It is interesting to see who does what in the psychology/psychiatry branches, not (thankfully0 having had need of these people myself it is enlightening to read about it. It certainly sounds as if Lily is going to get the help she needs.

Most of us would love to have to go out and buy smaller clothes sallie, however as I know your weight loss was not planned, it must be not what you want. Still, as every cloud has a silver lining they say, if the weight loss is not too great, make the most of it and enjoy the new clothes. :-) :-) :-)

Hello girls,

Just a quick look in to see how you all are. I hope that things are not too bad for you all today.

I am trying to do a jigsaw that was one of the presents that I had off Richard and Christie for Christmas. It is called Hidden Treasures, and the picture is of inside a bookshop, set in about the early 1950's. I love the picture and am going back and fore to it, trying to get it done, there are so many similar shades of books all over the picture, that I think that it will take until next Christmas for me to finish it.lol!!


Alun is going to see the cardiac surgeon tomorrow morning, we have to travel to his clinic at Glenfield Hospital in Leicester, and will have to leave very early as his appointment is at nine o clock, so we will meet all the rush hour traffic. Thank goodness he will have the operation at Nottingham City Hospital.

Then on Wednesday I have my second appointment with the psychologist,so will be g;ad when the next two days are over.

Je
Sylvia, have you heard anything about whether someone has arranged a Celebration of Life for your friend that has just died?

Also if you have heard anything about an appointment for the test you have to have?
Hope it all goes well for you.



Jean, also hope that you will receive an appointment very soon for the test you have to have. Hope it all goes well for you too.



Mo, I hope that an appointment will come through for Lilly very soon. Thinking of Lilly and her mum, dad and Ava and of course both you and Roly. From my own experience I know how bad it can affect. family life.


Ann, I have quite a lot of jumpers myself, some still with the tags on, but are now much too big for me. I tried a couple of the smaller sizes on yesterday, thinking I could
wear them, but both Alun and Jennie told me that I looked ridiculous in them. So that was the end of that idea. lol!!



Well girls, I will love and leave you now, going to try a bit more of the jigsaw.



Love, Sallie. xxx <3 <3 <3

Hi Jean, have they given you a rough idea when you have to go in for the procedure? I hope that they will do it soon so that it will be over and done with. Let us all hope and pray that it will be nothing serious. Sometimes. I think worrying about what is wrong makes the symptoms seem a lot worse.

I will be thinking about you, and hoping all will go well for you.


Mo, once the doctor has referred Lilly she will be put on a waiting list, and the doctor and any other people like teachers will keep pushing until she is seen by either a psychiatrist or psychologist, and hopefully she will get a psychiatric nurse that will watch her, and if Lilly will do something that her mum and dad are concerned about, the can get in touch with the nurse who might go to visit her and watch what she is doing , and then report it to whoever she is under.

In the past I have had friends with problems with their child, and received the help they needed. And things are much better now than they were 28 years ago.

I know that whatever age you are now, whether a child or adolescent, adult or older adult like myself, all the hospitals that only deal with medical problems.won't touch anyone young or old that has any mental disorder. We, and I include myself in this have to go to a psychiatric hospital or clinic.

Both Tom, the psychotherapist I was seeing and my own doctor referred me to Pathfinders. With me it wasn't only severe depression, I also had generalised anxiety disorder and then the psychiatrist diagnosed me with traits of borderline personality disorder.

I have been told that it will take up to three years to get me to the stage that I can control it to be able to live with it.

Don't know if it works that way with children, because they change as they grow, but be prepared for the treatment to go on for a long while.

I know that the psychiatrist is the one that will put a patient with any mental health problems on any medication.,because as you know he is a medical doctor specialises in mental health.

But Mo, with the right people and treatment, she will get a lot better.


Sorry to go on so much, but I am so concerned about Lilly, because myself and Jennie have been and is still going through the same sort of things.

Lots of love and hugs to Lilly and her little sister Ava. Also thinking of their mum and dad.


Love, Sallie xxx <3 <3 <3

Thank you all for your kind words xxx

Yes, it is a relief that she is now at peace

Thank you so much Sallie, for enlightening me re the treatment that Lilly should be offered.
And trust me to have got the spelling wrong, and god willing they will give the help that all the family need.
Both Roly and myself need to be able to understand it as well, we love that little girl to bits, and is heart breaking to have to watch her change so quickly, and not be able to help her.

Sylvia, my condolences to you both, on your friends passing. Bless her she got what she needed, and that was the time to leave in her own way, on her own.
You can both enjoy celebrating her life, even though it will be a sorrowful time.

Jean my love, it sounds like they are going to be doing a Colonoscopy on you, just remember when I had mine done, it was uncomfortable when the film crew and all their equipment went in. God willing you will be fine darlink. Have they said when they intend to do the procedure. (sp) It's better to get it sorted my love, and know that we are all wishing you well, and sending you all our love.
I hope the snow clears up soon Jean , it's brrrr chilly willy when you think about it, let alone having to endure it.

Take care everyone, hugs Mo xxx

Sylvia, thinking of you on the death ofyour friend, no more suffering for her now.

Jean, yes it doesn't seem possible that the littlies will be three tis year does it? They are great fun at this age, providing you only have them for a short while, otherwise they are exhausting.
Do you have a date for your hospital appointment? I hope they won't keep you waiting long for one and that, as you say it won't be anything sinister. Let us know when you are going so we can all send positive thoughts together.

Sallie, that is interesting information about the place that Mo's lilly will be going to. It sounds as if she will get the treatment/advice for her parents that she needs Mo.

Sallie, nice to get new jumpers. I do keep buying them but have to admit to a cupboard full.

Morning everyone, we have quite a bit of snow,but its slowly going, Sallie , I have to go into hospital for a bowel procedure (sp) I had to go to our local hospital on Sat morning, the doctor examined me and said it would be better if I go into hospital overnight, trouble is its quite a drive to get there, but D said she will take me and bring me back, I hope its nothing sinister......I seem to be having all manner of tests and referals, still if anything needs to be done better now than later...

Sylvia, I too send my condolances to you both at the loss of your friend,

Ann hope all is well with you both, have you had some snow, I do prefer it on photographs though.....I cant believe how our littlies have grown up, both C and L will soon be 3, its a lovely age to be especially for us we have been in tucks laughing at some of the things C has been saying, such a mimic too....

Mo it sounds as though Lily will get the treatment she needs, so our prayers continue for that lovely little girl, it must be hard for mum and dad.
Breakfast is ready so see you all later

Love Jean xxx