General Chat

Hello to all my dear friends on here. Thank you all so much for your lovely thoughts and kind words, I very much appreciate them all and also your friendship.

This week has been very difficult for me, but I am lucky that I have a supportive and wonderful C P N, she has rung me a few days this week and popped in to see me----I don't know how I would cope without her help.

Although I have only just started seeing my new psychologist, she is very nice and I am sure that we will be able to work well together. But it is going to take a long time, at least 18 months of weekly therapy, which also includes Family Therapy. All the mental health people I have helping me have told me that there will be times after having therapy that I will feel a lot worse, but they have to take me right down and then slowly bring me back up.

At first I found it very difficult to accept that I had not only severe depression and Generalised Anxiety Disorder, but also BPD. At least, I now have accepted that I have
I suffer from a serious mental illness, so hopefully, although it will be slow, it will be onwards and upwards from now on.

Christie rang me this evening, she tried her driving test for the second time today, and passed it, so as you can all imagine, we were all thrilled and pleased for her. It was also her 27th birthday today, so it was a nice extra birthday present for her.
And of course the wedding is a week on Sunday,for quite a few years now, we have always considered her a member of our family, so a week Sunday she will officially be a member.


Alun is still waiting to hear when he has his operation, the Consultant told him that it would be the end of April, but haven't heard anything yet. They are pretty good at the hospital for keeping to the dates, but we are wondering if the junior doctors are on a two strike again around that time, and also the I C U staff are also on strike for the two days too. And of course Alun and other patients have to spend the first 48 hours in I C U after open heart surgery.

I am going across to North Wales to visit my cousin tomorrow until Tuesday. Alun and Jennie are taking me to Chester where my cousin works, so she will meet me there after she finishes work. I need a break from them here at home and I know that they need a break from me too, as I have been very difficult to live with since the end of last
September, because of my illness. I think that the break will help to relieve the situation for a while at least.

Ann, what you suggested about having Christie's Nan's photo somewhere in the place they are getting married, I had also had the same thought, but didn't want to upset her by suggesting it to her, but she rang me yesterday and told me that both her and Richard had decided to have both her Nan's and her Grandad's photos on a chair each during the wedding ceremony. So I was happy to hear they had thought of it too, as Christie was close to both of them.


Here I am again, going on about everything!


I must go to bed now, have to get a couple of jobs done before I go to North Wales tomorrow. Will speak to you all when I get home. Take care of yourselves everyone.
Thank you all once again for being there for me.


Love and best wishes. Sallie. xxx <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

Jean, thank you for that second paragraph, you put into words what I (and I am sure all of us) feel and nobody could have put it better. :-) <3

I too am sorry to hear this news, I feel sure the family will realise how special this wedding will be and be able to remember all the lovely memories they have of the times spent with Christies grandma, the love they had for her will surely be evident at the celebrations of the wedding, perhaps bitter sweet but cherished just the same.bless the bride and groom and all your family ....

Sallie, many times you have said its a long road, I see it as once a long winding road, now I feel its a more even one for you, and will shorten by the day..of course there will be bad and good days, the good will outweigh the bad ones of that I have no doubt...
because you are loved not only by your family, this family on here also have much affection for you and I for one admire the way you are aware of your own situation, half the battle is won when an understanding is achieved by you and those who love you, I also know its not easy to make confession about your life .and I am aware we on here are with you all the way ,take heart dear Sallie you are to be admired....always in our thoughts and prayers, much love and hugs Jean xx. <3 <3

Hi Sallie

good to hear from you.

I'm sorry to hear about Chrissie's Nan .................. but I do hope that they don't let it spoil the wedding. She's out of pain now, and was happy that they were getting married.

Mo ..... enjoy your holiday xx



The avatar was our street last week ............ today the ground under them (street, grass areas and gardens) is covered with pink snow :-D

We had a strong wind most of yesterday and a milder breeze today, and all the petals are being blown off

Sallie, I am so sorry to hear about Christie's Nan. I am sure though they would not wish her to linger in pain and they will know she is at peace now. The main thing was that she knew they were getting married and was happy for them. It is a pity that the funeral could not have been before the wedding but, as Mo says, she will be with them in spirit. maybe they could have her photo on the top tablr at the reception. she will have wanted the wedding to be a happy occasion and I am sure it will be. Best wishes to them. <3 <3

Oh Sallie how sad, BUT, Christies Nan will be with her in spirit, and would want them to go ahead with the ceremony.
Nan was happy for them both, getting married is one thing she would have wanted for her grandaughter.
Even though the day will no doubt be tinged with sorrow, she will be looking down on them, sending her love and blessings.
Yes my love, we are off very soon, but our son will be here looking after the house. He has been living with friends since the separation, and will be glad to be nearer to the children. At least this way, he will be able to have them overnight for a change.
The only thing I am dreading is coming home to a little mess, we are so set in our ways, and used to things being just so. But hey, the hoover will soon clear any mess up.
I hope the new psychologist was as good as your normal one.
Stay strong darling, and fight each day as it comes. You have had a lot to contend with just lately, and every day things will change, but sooner or later, you will be a new girl, looking forwards instead of backwards.
Just think,god willing, you may become a nanny in the future, now isn't that a wonderful thing to look forwards to.

Today started of really lovely, in fact we should not have taken our coats with us, it was so warm, and we felt a little stupid as everyone else were wearing summer clothes, and there we were sweating buckets.
But now we are in the middle of a heavy shower, thank goodness I had just bought the washing in from the line. I surely would have sworn had it got wet again. LOL

I send you all my very best wishes, take care now girls, Hugs Mo xxx

Hello girls, just to let you know that Christie's nan died last Wednesday night, so things have been a bit stressed with one thing and another. They were not able to cancel or postpone the wedding unless they lost all the money, as it had all been paid for. we had all hoped that the funeral cold have been this week, but I am afraid that it won't be until two days after the wedding. But I am sure that Christie's nan would have wanted the wedding to go ahead, as she would not have wanted them to lose all their money.

I am hurting inside for Christie,and feel so sad for her, as she so wanted her nan to see her getting married to Richard. So the wedding will be a happy occasion but also tinged with sadness and grief. I just hope that it won't be too difficult for the family.


Mo, not sure if you and Roly are going to Hastings for your holiday soon, but if you are, hope that you will enjoy yourselves and that the weather will be kind to you.

I hope that it won't be too long before Lilly will get an appointment with the psychologist, the sooner she has an assessment and diagnosis the better, so that they can decide on the treatment she needs, the sooner it can start.


Jean, Ann, Sylvia and Huia, hope that all is okay with you all and your families.

I shall be glad when we are through April and and well into May, there is so much happening this month and the beginning of May, I am finding it very difficult to cope most days now, but my C P N is very supportive and I don't know where I would be without her, she is wonderful. Tomorrow I have an appointment with my new psychologist, as the one I have had for three months has gone on maternity leave, her second baby is due at the end of April.

Well I must get myself a hot drink now and try and get to bed a bit earlier than I have been doing lately.


Take care everyone.


Love and best wishes to you all. Sallie .xxx <3 <3 <3 <3

I have p.m'd you Ann.

When do you go Mo?

We had sun today but it was windy, although early on it was not a cold wind.

So now I have the joy of golf, the ball gets gradually smaller in this house, rugby, football, golf, himself watches them all.

I don't look forward to the voice being on ITV being interrupted all the time by the adverts. It certainly won't be the same without Will.i.Am. I will miss Ricky too, he is such a good mentor.

Ann, I was watching the voice last night as well,and to be honest I couldn't choose who the winner would be, both had such lovely voices.
Boy George's girl was sooo like him in her way out appearance, and the other girl had a lovely voice as well.
This last series on BBC was the best one , and I read that Will.i.am and Paloma Faith would not be going to the ITV version, also that Ricky Wilson had stated ages ago that he was retiring from the show anyway, so that only left Boy George, I wonder if they will choose other celebs for the panel instead of him.

Sylvia, I joined Face book to try and trace a couple of cousins of mine. I thought I had had success in one case, only to be told by the cousins family that they were uninterested, so I gave up.
Another part of my family is unlisted, and I can only remember one of their names anyway.
It's such a shame how with time families fall apart, the last time I saw any of them was before we married in 1964.
I did find one cousin via this site, and we do occasionally make contact with each other, but we have never met.

It has been another cold day today, it wants to warm up before we have our holiday in Hastings, or we will be back early again. LOL

Night night girls, take care, Mo xxx

He was quite emotional when he first went on the programme as apparently he had been on a previous year encouraged by his Mum and I think she has since died, so he was doing it for her.

Dorset photos on the blog

He seemed a nice lad Jean and looked like a pop star. She will be proud of him.

Sylvia its all gone ,I cant believe it :-S :-S :-S :-S I am sat here all on my own waiting for J to return, and its bone dry now so he wont get wet :-D :-D :-D

Ann I noticed on the Voice thread you mentioned Jolin, well he is the grandson of my friend who is in here sadly with dementia, he doesnt recognise his grand son, but his wife does so she got quite a few of the residents to join her watching the show she will tell me all about it no doubt... <3

Hi everyone

Jean ............ snow?!!!! The other 3 will get a surprise when they come home :-D


Mo .............. I joined Friends Reunited back in 2003 partly to see if I could make contact with school friends.

I was in regular contact with just 3 from school, and 2 or 3 from university.

You know what ............... I found that I had nothing in common with the ones I did contact through FR, just as I'd had very little in common with them back in school!

There was a reason why we had not maintained contact!

The one school friend I would have really liked to contact never replied to at least 3 attempts ...... but her husband had listed her and I don't think he ever checked back.

Oh my goodness Jean, SNOW, whats that......we have been sooo lucky here, but hush Mo, anything could happen overnight.
I hope you are both well my love. <3 <3 <3

Huia, I sometimes wish that my old school friends had stayed in contact. I was shocked just before Christmas, to learn that my best friend from school had passed away.
Like your Phil, she was in a home for many years prior to her death, suffering from a form of dementia, but from what I have learned, it was pneumonia that took her.

Bye for now dear friends, hugs Mo xxx

I do not believe it :-0 :-0 its snowing here . D has just taken J and S to Manchester to a concert it was fine when they left now its coming down thick and fast, not really sticking but it will do if it continues how strange is the weather sunny this morning and most of the afternoon, now.....big snow flakes....

I havent had any more of those calls since the time I said "if you dont speak to me I will scream". They promptly hung up, so maybe it was some teenagers being stupid. But I must try not to answer my phone so quickly in future. It is right beside me and I can usually pick it up after one ring (when I have climbed down from the ceiling! - I have the volume up so loud).

I went to a multi-class reunion today. Because our numbers have been dwindling, for the last year or two we have included the class that followed us but this time we also had the 2 classes who came before us, that is, the form 2 classes for 1947-50. Quite a good crowd.

Hello ladies.
Yes Sylvia, the separation is rather acrimonious our son, has the girls every Wednesday, and every other Saturday, Mummy is being rather nasty at the minute, so we are grateful for any time with the girls that we can grab.
It's made difficult to see Lilly, as she is in full time school, but we do see Ava more frequently, but as they are on half term holidays at the minute, it's made easier, so we are hoping to see them this coming Wednesday.
Unfortunately here in the U.K, children seem to slip through the net when problems arise when they maybe suffering from Autistic Spectrum symptoms, I certainly wish we were in your country to get her the help she needs.

Huia, keep that whistle handy love, and give it a good blow, I don't think you would get into trouble, after all, you are not asking for the nuisance calls are you.

Ann, have a safe journey home love, mind you, you have probably arrived by now, as I have just noticed the date....der stupid me.

I have spent another day planting in the garden, Fuchsia's and more pansy's.
Have a lovely weekend girls, take care. Mo.

Huia we have an answer phone and don't answer the phone unless we recognise a voice. Nuisance calls soon ring off. :-)

Mo, in Dorset at thr monent but sll ok. Back tomorrow.(for a while)

Huia ............

If it is one of the computer-generated calls, there literally is almost nothing you can do.

There is no point in putting yourself on the ex-directory list ............. because these calls come from outside the country (most are from India), and they are not subject to the laws of any other country

You could set up your phone not to accept any calls from numbers that it does not recognise, although I don't know how that works if a friend calls from somewhere other than their own phone.


You'll just have to join the rest of us who are driven mad by these calls ............... or wait until there have been at least 3 rings before you answer the phone :-D


Mo ...........

I'm glad that you got to see the two girls today. Is the separation acrimonious, so that you have problems seeing them?

It is terrible how slow it can be to get the help that children need. My daughter really started pushing about 18 months before our grandson was to enter Kindergarten because she was sure that he needed help, even though she didn't know what was wrong or what help would be needed.

Luckily, she lives in a school district where the authorities are very proactive ....... she got the necessary visit with a paediatrician very quickly, and the paediatrician said basically that she didn't know what was wrong "but we'll refer him for assessment". It then took almost a year to get the full assessment ............... about 2 months before he was to start at Kindy!

Support was in place by the time he went to the school in September ............. mainly help with behavioural problems, but also in stress release, etc. They even have a stationary bike at the back of the room that the kids can get on if they're feeling stressed!

She certainly wouldn't be anywhere near that stage of help if she lived where we live!