General Chat

Hooray, guess who has just booked a holiday....me....me....me....lol..
we have booked a week in the Lake District in September...at last something to look forward to, we love Cumbria, lots of beautiful scenery so hopefully lots of new photos.
Sallie glad you liked the pages and the guys too !!!quite tasteful poses I thought.

Grace how are you , nice to have you back on here we do miss folk when they havent been on for a while, just going to have a look on My Space,
we shall have to have her autograph when she is famous....
something to watch out for...

Marilyn, just think how slim you will be , all those new clothes, we will have to get you to do a whole new set of photos....


Huia have you had time to check your mail, we were just wondering if ours came through..... I am sure it will seem strange being without your O H for a few days, but I firmly believe it is not a coincidence coming at a time when you were getting very weary, prayers do get answered, so enjoy your rest, then face the next thing with a clear mind ...we are all behind you and sending love and prayers......

love to Sue Debbie and Marieand anyone else who needs a bit of loving
whoops nearly forgot Mo, xx

love Jean xx

Jean and Mo, I did receive Jeans photo from Mo on my usual addy and from Jean on my alternative one. It took an age to download the one from Jean, but on my usual addy it comes up quite quickly which is why I prefer that addy.

Sorry I didnt tell you earlier that it had come through, but as you will realise I had other things on my mind.

Huia.

I hope to book OH in for a short term stay in a rest home for 2/3 days next week. I might do it every couple of weeks until he has been fully reassessed and accepted as a long term need. He might not think he is but I am!

Huia.

Me again.

OH spent the day at our daughters place, helped her take her 2 dogs for a walk. She says in an email that people cant believe how quickly he had the smaller one walking to heel. She has always been so busy with her family she hasnt seen all that much of her dad but she is planning to come visiting more often, and maybe I can take him to her place one morning a week until we get him permanently in a home.
She was impressed also at the devotion he showed for me, wanting to get back to me. Had me in tears reading her email, since I am thinking of getting him into a home. But I will not be completely abandoning him, only putting him somewhere where he will be safe and I will be able to retain my health and sanity.

Must be off to bed soon, am dog tired even though I didnt walk the dogs! Huia.

Huia, you seem much more relaxed now, so pleased that you are able to have some time to yourself, glad we sussed out how to send you e- mails...


I must be jinxed , we are NOT going away, the holiday has been cancelled,
boo hoo..... at least for the time being... I am sure there will be something later on...I am off out now speak soon... be good....

love Jean xx

E.mail sent Huia. Mo xxx

Thanks Mo, received it just a few mins ago. I havent seen one as young as that for a long time. A bit different from the ond wrinkled one that I see these days.

Huia.

I am glad you enjoyed it Huia. I have a good memory to,and believe me it is a memory.
I hope you are o.k. How's things going,with the respite care.
Thank goodness,the family realise at long last that you need their help.
It's surprising how families see,but don't see,if you get my meaning. It was the same with my lot,when Roly had his brain haemmorage. They were concerned about their dad,but I also needed a bit of thought as well.
It's the same when a partner is in hospital,folk always say,how is yout OH
but not many people ask how you yourself are coping.
Keep your chin up love,you are a strong lady,even if you don't realise it.
Oh poor you Jean. You had just got used to the fact you would be getting a break,and it was snatched away from you.
Tell us who it was and we girls will go and sort them out. lol
Hopefully,you will have better luck next time.
How are you both, well I hope.
Have you started your medication yet,Marilyn.? How are you coping with cutting down on your sugar intake. i.e biscuits etc.
A big hello to Grace,Sue,Marie ,Sallie and our holiday girl Debbie.
Love to you all. Mo xxx

Mo, my son thought back in March that his dad should be in a rest home. He knew how hard it was for me. I am not sure if our daughter realised. She has been busy with family and work but now she knows what it is like for me. She kept her legs crossed until I got back as she was afraid her dad might decide to go walking on his own, even try to walk home (33km).

I have to wait another half hour or so to ring the manager of the home I want to put him in on Tues and Wed. I will just make it short stays initially, get him used to it. At present he is walking in the light rain with our vol firefighter. I hope they dont get back before I have made the call.

Huia.

Hi Everyone,

Very late looking in today. I've been out quite a lot of the day and had a few small jobs to do.

Huia, it's good that your son and daughter have finally realised how difficult things have been for you. I hope you can get OH in a few days to start with, at least it will give you a much needed break. No matter how much you love him and with the best will in the world, you can't be there for him twenty four hours a day. You are not abandoning him Huia, it's because you care about his safety that you are doing this. When he comes home after spending a few days away, you will be able to cope so much better.

Thinking about both you and OH, and sending my best wishes to you both.

Hello, to Mo, Jean, Marie, Sue, Grace and Marilyn, and as Mo said to Debbie, our holiday girl.

Speak to you all tomorrow.

Love, Sallie.xx

After my last posting I had a phone call from the team at hospital. They were coming out this morning to assess my OH. I rang to see if my daughter could come here in case I needed support. When OH and friend got back I asked friend in for a coffee and asked him on the quiet if he could stay a while as I might need support in case my daughter did not get here in time. She arrived just as the 2 people from the hospital arrived so we sat round the table while they asked me and OH a lot of questions then they asked each of us what we thought should happen. They asked OH as well but he didnt have a clue what it was all about so finally the doc asked him if he would go back with them for a few days to have a blood test and to see what he was like. He didnt want to go of course but I turned on the taps full bore and pleaded with him that I needed a break so he reluctantly agreed. He has probably forgotten now and will be wondering why the heck he is in hospital and where is his wife. It is such a relief to know that at least I have a few days to sleep and try to get everything sorted, though I think the docs at the hospital will probably be looking for long term care in a secure rest home. The doc who came realised it wasnt safe here as we do not have any close neighbours.

I am now having lunch, after which I might try to get a sleep.

Huia.

Huia,How i wish we were nearer you I just want to hold you close , I do realise what a heart ache you must be going through,but you must have some rest so perhaps, my friend, the timing is right, you know we on this thread are always here for you , and I know lots of other folk are too...
out of all this good will come, drawing your family closer, J and I are holding you close in our hearts and prayers, even miles cant seperate us.....


love Jean xx

Huia, I am sure we all feel the same as Jean and wish we were closer. Try to rest and please do not start feeling guilty. You have done so much for your OH with love and a sense of humour and even in your writing we have sensed you getting more tired. Sending you a ((((hug)))) and lots of thoughts that you will be able to relax for a few days and that there will be a nice home from home waiting to take your OH in.

Ann
Glos xxx

Hula, this is the first time I have known of your situation. I haven't read right through to know what the condition is, but it reminded me so much of what I went through with my own husband and was faced with putting him in a home. I had actually chosen and inspected the place when his condition worsened suddenly and he was taken to hospital and passed away three weeks later.

However, what I want to say is that although we love them and want to care for them, they do get better care in a home - they are much safer there and you, yourself can visit them, then go home and relax - where you can't relax while they are with you. Also, they have no idea where they are and there will be times they are looking for you and times when you are totally forgotten and their nurses become their family.

It's a big decision but a wise one that you have made.

Berona, he has Alzheimers. Just after 4 this afternoon the hospital phoned and said he wanted to speak to me. They put him on and he asked 'where he h*** are you'. I told him I was at home and he was where he was so I could have a much needed rest. I told him to be good and do as he was told and I would come to see him sometime. I hope he is not too upset that I am not with him but I am not going to let it get me down. It was getting me down when he was here so now it is time for me to get up again.

Huia.

I think I will make myself a warm chocolate drink to have with a sleeping pill and take myself off to bed, perchance to sleep (yes I know that last bit is not the correct quotation). I will look in again in the morning, or earlier if I cannot sleep!

Huia.

Huia, I've just read about your husband. As Jean and the others have said I wish I was living nearer to you so that I could give you some help and support. At least you know he's safe,and you can catch up on some much needed sleep.

I have to go out now, speak to you later.

Love, Sallie.xx

Hi Everyone...!!

Oh dear Huia... your plight is bringing back memories of my dear father in law that had Alzheimers .
Its so sad to see one suffer of that awful illness, and like Berona said there comes a time when they don't really know where they are.
But the staff at these places do know how to handle these unfortunate people.
So Huia you just rest as much as you can, I know my mother in law suffered so much, she had the patience of a saint, but that patience ran out and we had to get him into care.
You have done your best , now let the other do theirs.

So now look after yourself and get your strength back ,to a healthy one.

Hope you are all going to have a lovely weekend...I've cut the Chocolates out .....and the wine....don't want this weight anymore !!

Marilyn xx

Good afternoon everyone. It's nice to hear from Ann and Berona.
You may not remember Berona,but we have been on a thread together before. It may have been AOGG's thread,quite some time ago now though,about Robin Hood and his merry men.
Thank the lord that Huia is now getting the help,that she so deserves.
Have a good rest Huia.
Well done Marilyn,you are a lot stronger than most of us would be. I love
my sweets,not so much chocolate,I can take that or leave it.
Roly is a diabetic as well,so he limits his sweet intake. Not giving them up completely,just a few evey so often. He is on Glucophage tablets for
his diabetes.
When are you of to Wales again Sallie? I am trying to remember if you said it was this weekend or not. How is your daughter now. Has she heard any more from the hospital?
Have you had any luck yet Jean,with your holiday?
It's not fair,both you and Huia have been through so much this past year,
that you deserve a break.
Roly has been busy,buiding us a new step,onto the patio. The one we had was decaying so badly,it needed replacing. I am just grateful it has
been good weather,or else I could have been waiting months,for him to
get round to doing it.
He is not like me,if I think about doing something,I have to do it there and then. And I don't rest till it's finished.
Love and best wishes to you all. Mo xxx
~~~~~to Grace,Sue,Marie,and Debbie who should be back home soon,

I had a nice long deep sleep for 9 hours, having taken a sleeping pill. I did wake twice but dropped off again immediately. I now have to remember how to wash dishes again as OH used to do them since he retired 14 yrs ago. They have been sitting on the bench since yesterday morning. At least Phil mowed the lawns on Friday afternoon so I have a little bit of time before I have to think about tackling that chore.

Huia.