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Hi to anyone who is reading this,
hope all is well with you and thing's in your life are good, wanted to nudge this up for anyone who may need it,

Take care

Diane x

just giveing this a nudge in case anyone need's it,
Hi to all who read this thread, hope all is well with you, and your journey's are going well.

Diane x

Hi Diane, and anyone else who's reading this,

I've just read the entire thread from start to finish.I do remember Shimm's original thread before it was "Whooshed",there was so much help and support there for anyone one who needed it.I'm not in your situation,as I grew up knowing my 2 sisters,and being very close to them.Reading of your dreadful experience with your nasty half-sister makes me really appreciate my upbringing,and how lucky I am to have 2 beautiful supportive sisters.They are my friends,as well as my sisters.

Please don't let your HS' nastiness deter you from your search to meet your BM; you deserve the chance to at least meet up with her. I keep hearing the phrase "Tread your own path" in my head,be true to yourself,and your wishes and needs.It's not your fault that you were given up for adoption,and you have a right to meet up with your mother,no matter what your half-sister thinks.Good luck with your search;I hope that it all goes well for you.

"n"

Hi Margot and anyone else around

Margot thank you for that hun, I actually know my BM address and phone number, I am in touch with another relly of her's and he is worried if I contact her it may cause her problem's with her health, so at the moment I'm holding back making a move. I don't want to cause her any distress, I also know that I may loose the chance to meet her as she is now 79yrs old, I'm prepared to wait and see if this relly can persuade her to at least speak to me by letter or except a call from me. Please pray my wish is granted and one thing this year goe's right for me as in the last 5mths I have had so many knockback's to last me a lifetime ( fall out with one of my children ) is just one example.

Speak to you soon hun

Diane x x

Well I thought I'd bring back this thread in case anyone wanted it.

I hope all is well with everyone who has used this thread before, I had a break for 5mths to sort out some family problem's, thing's are ok now and I'm not as stressed as I was.
Does anyone have any up-dates, if so post them on here and share them please, I alway's love to hear when peep's have good new's to tell us, and it is also good to share your roller-coaster story's or just natter about were thing's are in your searches for a sibling.

Take care all


Diane x x x

Hi Diane,its me here lol
No update from me ,other than I am still in touch with the 2 B.Brothers I found.I know there is a sister and a brother out there ,but know I will never get to meet them.I am happy enough to find out where I came from and to find out a bit of my B Mothers past lol,and to get to see these 2 Brothers.I can't ask more than that.
Glad to hear things are OK for you now.I know you were having a bad time before.
Jane xx

Hi Jane
lovely to hear from you hun and good to hear you are still in touch with your 2 brother's and that you have found out a bit about your B Mother. I am still in touch with my B Mother's half brother and he keep's me informed how she is, still wish I could meet her but I have accepted this is unlikely to happen. I often wonder if my half sister ever give's me a second thought.
I haven't done much on my tree research since I last spoke to you as the inccident with half sister deflated me and brought my searching to a halt, but I hope to go and see my sister ( one of the one's I grew up with ) in about 2wks time and get some info about my dad's father and some thing's she has found out about his military record.
Keep in touch hun and take care

Diane xxx

Hi Diane,Got your message on Mels thread lol
Don't beat yourself up that you can't get to see your B Mum.It maybe just not meant to be.I didn't get to meet my BM as she died some years ago.It hasn't bothered me really ,as I am not sure I would have actually wanted to meet her.
Not in a horrible sense,but to me my adoptive Mum and Dad were my parents.
I have some info on my B M now,and am happy with that.Great to be in touch with my 2 B Brothers.I still have a B Sister and Brother out there who I will never get to meet.But Hey! life is a funny old thing.I think we sometimes have to accept that we will never get to know all the things we want to know
I hope your visit with your sister goes well
Jane xx

Hi Jane
I don't beat myself up hun honest, I loved my adopted mum too ( she passed away 27yrs ago ) but because of the circumstances of the reason for my adoption thing's were not like being adopted because I was child up for adoption. Sound's complicated I know and it is, my adoption came about for an unusual reason, do you still have my phone number, if so and you would like to ring me sometime I will explain.
I agree with you about not finding out all you want to and sometime's it is better not to know everything, visit with sister is alway's good as we appreciate each other's company as we are from a family of six sibling's and we seem to be the only 2 that stay in touch on a regular basis.
Will speak to you again soon
Take care

Diane xxx

n for Jane to read last post from me. xxx

Hello to anyone who remember's this thread

I was reading about Joan Allan's passing ( a sad lose to the board's ) and remebered this thread, those who posted on it will know how important this thread was to many of us and I thought maybe someone might want to re-read it and maybe even post on it.

I will check back tomorrow to see if there are any replies :)

Hi to all the old peep's who posted on here, Sheila, Jane, Margot, Eileen, Helen, Whirley, joybell, Jeanette and anyone I may have missed, hope you are all well (((((( big hug to you all ))))))

Take care

Diane xx

Hello

I have just read this thread from start to finish!

I have just found my BS after 50+ years there is a lot of mixed emotions and reading every ones stories has made me feel I am not alone in feeling like this.

I really hope this thread continues as it has given me an insight to other peoples feelings

Thank you

Jeanette

I have just reread all the pages and it only seems like yesterday that we were all trying to help and give encouragement.
Also brought back that I used to be BlueEyes, cannot recall why I changed??

Dianne thank you for your posting
Bridget who was known S Blue Eyes

Just found this thread, I wish I had had support like it has been to so many of you when I was looking for my BM twenty five years ago.

I too was saddened to read of Joan Allen's death, had been unaware that she was seriously ill, a great loss to all involved.

Best wishes to those still searching - I have yet to find my BF, but expect he is long gone.

Hi Jeanette, SpanishEyes and Angelsong

Jeanette it is good to hear you have found your BS, and yes emotion's will be all over the place, I too re-read the thread and that is why I decided to bring it back up the board's as I know it has been a help to me and other's in the past.

Bridget (SpanishEyes ), glad you enjoyed re-reading the thread and yes it does only seem a short time since we were all trying to help one another on here, it was the passing of Joan Allan that made me think it would be nice to see this thread back for those who are going through their rollercoaster's of life.

Angelsong, I started my journey 31year's ago and didn't have the support of other's either, but since I joined GR 4yrs ago and found this thread and the one before this one ( which was whooshed by GR ) I have found it easier to cope with the up's and down's of thing's I had found out and the disappointment's I faced because of the support of the peeps who came on here and gave their support. I hope if you need that kind of help in the future their will be some-one around to support you on here, just post on here and as in the past there will be one or two who will support you.

Well I'm off to have an early night so I'll wish you all good night and hope to speak to you again soon <3

Take care

Diane xx :-)

Hi

Could I just ask when you have found BS/BB what kind of emotions did you feel I'm not sure what I feel and I dont know if this is normal.

I hope you dont mind me asking this sort of question but my friends and family really dont know what this is like as they have never been in this situation.

Jeanette

Hi Diane and everyone.
I was surprised to see the thread pop up lol

Jeanette ,when I arranged to meet up with 2 of my B Bs and B Cousin I felt strangely quite calm.We all met at a Hotel in York and stayed for 2 nights.
I kept thinking it all felt a bit unreal.Looking at them and thinking these people are my blood relatives.We all got on so well it was as though we had known eachother forever.The people in the Hotel could not believe that we had not met before.
We all keep in touch now ,but I doubt we will see much of eachother as we are spread from the North to South,
My own family have not really supported me .They have their own reasons I suppose and I do kind of understand.They just accept that I now speak to my' Brothers' now and then on the phone,but never ask any questions lol

I will never really feel close to my B Family,as my 'real family' are the ones I grew up with from just a few weeks of age.

I think we will all have different emotions about finding our B Family as each of our cases will be very different.
I am just so pleased to have been adopted.I wouldn't have wanted it any other way.I now have found out where I came from,a little about my B Mother,and know all the names of my 7 half siblings.I am happy that I have met the ones I have.I don't need to be curious any longer.

Jeanette ,no-one can possibly imagine how we may feel unless they have had the same experience.

It is great that this thread is here.It is nice to be able to share stories and feelings and maybe help someone now and again

Thanks Diane for your encouragement. I can foresee a traumatic time looming when my BM passes away. Apart from her vicar, who I visited in confidence two years since and my three cousins who are estranged from her also - she has fallen out with all the family, no-one else knows of my existence. It will be a tough time.

Hello all my friend's on here,

Hi Jane good to see you on here hun, you are so right when you say it is different for everyone depending on the circumstances. I can understand what you mean when you say your real family are the one's who were there when you were growing up, when-ever I say my mum I'm refering to the mum who brought me up, I refer to my BM by her first name and then add my BM when I'm talking about her to anyone, her daughter and her son I refer to as my HS and HB.
Speak to you again soon hun to say hi on here even if you haven't got anything to share to do with the thread title <3

Angelsong I hope it won't be to much for you to cope with hun, look at it this way, you at least have had the chance to be reunited with your BM, there are many of us ( including myself who have not had that chance to have a relationship with BM ) enjoy the time with her and when she does pass away ( hopefully not for some time ) you will at least have a lot of good memories of your time together. Don't forget there is always some-one here who will chat or just listen if you need them. <3

Jeanette of cause we don't mind you asking your question hun, that is the kind of thing this thread is for, as for my answer I can only reflect on finding my HS ( haven't yet found HB ) I found her on here and when I was in touch with her I felt all kind's of emotion's at first eg. unreal, can't believe I had found her, panic , relief and then when she disappeared off GR I felt a lose. Unfortunately thing's didn't work out the way I'd have liked it to. At the time I went through this I don't think I knew what I was really feeling it is only now that I look back that I reconise what I felt, so when you say is it normal to feel the way you do I can only answer what is normal at a time like this.
I hope you can make sense of what I have said hun :-)

Take care all speak to you again soon

Diane xx