General Chat

((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))) for you and your mom
Love Mary xx

Been thinking about you Hazel, and will catch up with you later.

Lizxxx

Hi Hazel,
Just want to say that I am thinking of you and your mum and am sending hugs to you. Please dont feel guilty if your not there at the end, I believe that they never pass over on their own, one of their loved ones always comes to take over, hope this helps.
lynn

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xx Ann
Glos

Hazel, 19 years today since I lost my Dad, I visited him around this time in the hospice but he didn't really know anyone was there I don't think. I went home to pick up my son from school and Mum phoned me around 4 to say she wouldn't want a lift home as a nurse would take her when she left off, Mum told me the nurses were just turning Dad - he had lung cancer and was out of it on morphine. Ten minutes later the nurse rang me back to say my Dad had died, we think the nurses turned him to help him pass as he was drowning in fluid in his lungs. My Mum wasn't with him at the time he died and neither was I but it was a peaceful passing and if he had known anything he would have known we were with him not long before.
Please don't feel guilty if things happen and you are not there, your Mum wouldn't want you to make yourself ill and nor would your family. Try taking some Rescue Remedy before you go in to see her and you will stay calmer, and be able to talk to her and hold her hand and say all you want to say. Maybe your Dad is waiting to take her to be with him soon.
Will be thinking about you,
love
Lizxxx

Hi Hazel,

I know what you are feeling about your dad, i had to come home from MK to Heathrow when my dad was dieing, within few hours of me getting back he died, I knew i should have stayed but was made to come back home.
So yes you shouldnt feel guilty but we do. I was so glad i could be with mum when she went. As being i was living in MK

But still thinking of you and your family.

Take Care

Hazel

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Good morning Hazel.........positive thoughts for you and your mum.Take care.

jude xx

Hazel - just to let you know I am still thinking of you and your mom. Take care of yourself
In my thoughts and prayers
Love Mary xx

Aw all my love from Walkden to you.
Dxxxxxxxxx

Please hun don't feel guilty about being away when your dad died, my sister works on a ward for geriatrics and she says time & time again it seems that her patients wait for their loved ones to leave before letting go, it's almost like they want to spare them the pain.

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. xx

Thanks, everyone. As I have told some of you in PMs, when my Dad was passing, I went home for a shower and change of clothes - he went whilst I was away. I still cannot forgive myself for that. I don't want the same happening with my Mum.

Tomorrow 24th Jan. will be 4 years since my Dad passed on - I am wondering ...........

My sons wish me to pass on their thanks for all the support you are giving me - they didn't think 'strangers' could be so caring!! I told them a stranger is just a friend you have not yet met!!

Love to you all
Hazel x

Hi Hazel
A few of us have got the T shirt as Helen says and we know what you are going through.
We are all here to support one another and a few minutes of our time occasionally to wish fellow Members well makes us feel better too.
I hope your Mother is Comfortable and a couple of days away will help you.
You have to keep strong for her sake as well as your own health
I know we were going to see my brother ever other day as it is about a 4o minute drive each way for me. The Doctors and Nurses appreciated us going but told us once a week was sufficient other wise we would all burn out and have health problems. MY brother doesn't know one day from the other anyway. My sister and I felt guilty at first but it does help to cope with it better not having to be there as often.
I know you love her dearly Hazel but why don't you try every other day visiting just for a little while to give you a bit of a break. You will feel stronger if you do. it takes it out of you when you know you have to go every day
Take Care
Hug for you MUm
Jackie

Been thinking about you and your Mum, Hazel, and hope the rest will help you find more strength to visit your Mum again and stay calm. Have you tried the Rescue Remedy yet, it might help you a bit.
Take care,

Lizxx

Hi Hazel

Am also still thinking of you and your mum.
Take care of yourself,
Will be in touch again soon.

Love to you

Liz

Hazel

Just to say you are still in my thoughts and prayers. Try and rest yourself as much as possible.

Hugs

Frances xxx

Hazel,your Mum won't know if you haven't been to see her so don't worry.
Have a couple of days for you.It is important that you have some you time!
Helenx You know I have been there and had the 'T' Shirt.

Hello Hazel....wise dicision to stay home today, it must be very waring and very emotional (hope the word waring does'nt sound harsh),and sometime we need a break.l'm off to my friends on Saturday, we have tried to persuade her OH to let us bring her back here with her daughter, but he won't let her go!!! l can understand in manyways cause it will completely disorientate her but we wanted him to have respite!!!

You take great care.

jude xx

Thanks everyone for your continuing interest and support. Mum was very weak as mentioned yesterday. Actually I got in rather a state and had to be 'seen to' by Staff Nurse. They suggested I had a day at home today, they would let me know if any change.

Of course, I have phoned them today and she is no different from yesterday. See what tomorrow brings.

Thanks for all enquiries and PMs - I know many of you have your own probs. without reading all my moans.

Love Hazel x

Your mom and you are still in my thoughts
Take care
Love Mary xx

Hello hazel,
Just sending you and your mum lots of hugs.