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sorry to hear this Pat, she sounded a very special daughter the ribena and the cup made me laugh.

sending you positive thoughts and wishes,I can't imagine how you must be feeling.
c
xx

as sue says, talk as much as you want,
Thats if you can get a word in!!!
xxxxxx

Yellow roses were mine and Stephens flowers,
I will now think of Wendy each time I take Stephen some, bless you XX..

Pat
You talk as much as you like, people on here are so friendly willing to listen.

Sue..xxxxx

Just got in and saw your thread Pat, have read other people's condolances and would like to add mine, with love and prayers for you and yours.

Awww, Pat......tip the Ribeena over everyones head, when you you feel like!!!

Pat,

The times you have described will have brought a smile to all those reading about them. We will think of you each time we open a bottle of Ribena or see a toddler with a non-spill cup.

Treasure those funny moments. They are the ones to bring happy memories, and will dull the terrible grief you are feeling just now.

Bless you all.

Elisabeth
x

Pat, go on all you like. There is always someone here at all times. If it is easier to write your feelings down on here then go ahead. Bless you all, can only imagine what you are going through.
Hilary. xxx
PS The Ribena brought a smile to my face, I remember my husband shaking a bottle of tomato sauce at the breakfast table in a hotel & the top was'nt on tight. Splattered all up the wall, over next doors table & I had a red streak across my hair. Can giggle about it now but could have killed him at the time.

Sorry for my rudeness for going yesterday but I became so overcome by the kindness of you all and the lovely messages, I was sobbing so much and couldn't carry on.

When I find the courage, I intend sorting Wendy's photos from birth until the last one ever taken when we were visiting them last August. That is of my husband, me, the three boys and Wendy, sitting on a log bench in a wildlife park close to where she lived in Staffordshire (it's a smashing photo). I like the idea suggested about the scrapbook and stories of her life, I shall do that as well, there is so much to tell, the boys can keep that for ever and pass it onto their children.

Wendy never put lids on properly, you needed to be very careful in her house. One day my husband went to make a glass of Rybena, shook the bottle and ended up covered in blackcurrent, it was all over the walls, the cupboards and the floor. Wendy laughed and laughed and laughed, she thoought it was hilarious. Another time, she was showing me a drinking mug for toddlers where the drink did not come out of the holes when tipped upside down. To demonstrate, she held it over my head, the lid fell off and the contents went all over me. That got the same response as the blackcurrant. I have a smile on my face at those memories.

It seems cruel that Wendy has gone so young, in the 200+ years I have researched, most of the females lived to a very old age, my mother was almost 93 yoa when she died in 2005. Still I can't blame God for wanting Wendy back, He only loans our children to us, their lives belong to Him and she really was special.

Sorry I have gone on, I just find it easier to write than to talk.

Thank you all so, so much for your loving messages and prayers, also the pm's, it is helpful to share.

Next time you see a yellow rose, please think of Wendy they were favourites and mine.

God Bless You All...............love Pat

Dear Pat, Let me first offer you my most sincere condolences on the loss of Wendy.
I am so glad you chose this site, I wish I had a p.c when I lost my Girl (just over 2 years ago), she also left 2 little boys, one aged 4, and the other aged 10months.
What you are feeling now is "normal"( if there is such a thing) youre grieving Pat, and thats healthy,its a long and painfull process, but HAS to be done.
Every one of us on here that has lost a child, would have swapped places with them in a heartbeat, but thats not to be, so the best you can do, is concentrate on your grandsons, even that is painfull, as every time you look at them, you see your Wendy.And the emotional pain becomes a physical pain, that ebbs and we are left with that empty feeling, but that in time will become bearable.
Please try to stay off the "what iffs, and If only Road", that only leads to blame, and no-one is to blame here,
I wont lie to you and say it gets easier, because it doesnt, its just gets a little more bearable.
If you need to chat personally, you can always PM me.
So take care for today, and DONT forget to breath, it sounds daft, but it does help.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

So sorry Pat, My boyfriend is also going through a bad time as his brother died aged 42 in July and is still going through it now as it was a shock to all his family but his brother wasn't the healthiest of people but i can understand the pain your going through. Take care
Debbie

my thoughts and prayers are with you.
we are all here for you.
take care
tina x

I,m so sorry to hear your news .....as many have said there are no words to put right what has happened.

But as many of us know time will help some and the boys she had will fill some of the gaps in your familys heart ...they will fill you with pride and joy

Take care of each other at this time

No words of mine can possibly ease your grief, but my heartfelt prayers and thoughts are with you at this dreadful time.

My deepest sympathy for you and all those who knew and loved Wendy.

((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

Daff xxxx

Pat, I am sorry sorry to read of your loss.
Sending you and your family my deepest sympathy xxxx

xx Jill

Oh! Pat, losing one's child is doubly heartbreaking but I can assure you, by sharing your grief on here you will have all the love in the world, good listeners and friends for ever.
The good people on here helped me through my darkest days, and even now after a few years, they are still here if I need them. I have no words of comfort for you, because right now, they will land on a heavy heart, but please know, so many people here are with you XX.. Bless you XX..

Pat,my thoughts and prayers are with you
at this very sad time,i to know the pain loss.
Lily

Dear Pat, I am new to this forum but wanted to say how sorry I felt in reading your posts. It seems there are good people here to support you and to listen, and I am glad that you feel able to talk here and hope it is a help to you.

I lost my husband very suddenly in Dec 2006 and today I am going to travel some 120 miles to see his mother who is near the end in hospital. I know the pain of loss, and my heart goes out to you x

Dear Pat.
Im very sorry for your loss and I do know how you must be feeling. I lost my husband last year after being married 40 years. The feeling of sadness can only be understood by others who have been in the same position.
The first year is the worst because you cant talk about them without getting upset.
Having written this I too am in tears because its all been brought home to me.
Just keep busy because that helps

Pat
My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family. You must all be devastated. I know in time the wounds will heal but in the meantime you have your lovely Grandchildren to focus on and there is always a listening ear in Genes if you are feeling low.
Please take care
Hugs and Best Regards
Jackie