General Chat

yes i agree, i found that some of the younger staff were not tolerant enough, and often couldnt understand why the residents hid things and accused them of stealing their pension books etc....it's all part of the illness...

Hiya Gwen, well you know we all won't ignore you. How did the soup turn out?
I read a little bit of your thread the other day.

where'd that come from DIZZI

well you have the right to speak out for yourself gwen.... so make sure they hear you...xx

i agree there stella staff need to be trained especially how to communicate with dementia clients without belittling them.

LWD has mum lost weight? Sometimes dementia clients don't remember food they like. finger foods are a good idea for people with dementia. Also as long as she's eating if losing weight drastically contact GP

well iam talking 18 yrs ago..it was a night mare then 4 to a bedroom , but i kn ow that is illegal now, think conditions are better on the whole ..but the staff make or break these peoples lives to be honest.

Thats how Mum is,not eating properly. Think she lives on cornflakes or porridge.boiled eggs and bread and butter. or bacon and egg,
And of course at our house 3 days a week.
Freezers full of ready meals which she loves and again,she says she's eating them,after 3 weeks it's still full. she was,until about 3 weeks ago. Funny that,it's when I told her I was going into hospital.

Stella i'm glad to say not all private homes are the same, the demntia clients we have vary from mild to severe where they need full assistance

Bambino x

Aw Stella sounds like the place where Monty's Mum is.

Hiya Stella me duck how are you tonight? hope you're feeling a lot better.

Bambino you have a rewarding job and be proud of yourself for doing it when others won't.

i worked in a council residential home, and we had to take all the ones that the private homes refused to take so many of them were disabled as well and doubly incontinent

Hi stella,

glad you've joined us, dementia is distressing but can also be rewarding especially if you get someone whose not eating properly to eat. so it does have its rewarding parts. the distressing part of my job is i get attached.

Its good having the carers because they do a written log of what time they come in (which is three times a day) and they will cook a microwave dinner, do the tablets and have a chat.we have some lovely ones come in and if there are any problems, they will ring me straight away, they are now like friends popping round and is the best thing we could have done for my parents.

i worked for a lot of years with older people with dementia.. and it is a very distressing illness for all concerned....

Oh blimey she's a long long way off having that much money.
She was 79 this week so about the same as your Dad sueby.

MMM. Hiding everything! At first pills hidden everywhere,Now she just not taken them but asserts she has.Still left in the daily dosage box. Says shes filled it up. she can't I keep the pills.
Lost no end of money.So now I give HER pocket money. This bank crisis, she wanted all her money out the Halifax. we took enough out for xmas and winter bills,kept her happy.

Trish
It all goes on how much savings she has, dont quote me on it, but i think you are allowed to have up to £18,000. and it is free, but you can claim for different benefits which top up the pension. Social services will even help you fill in the forms for this, it may differ from area to area, but they were very helpful, its a bit daunting at first because you are dealing with the unknown but they really are very nice.

i find in the residential setting one of the characteristics of dementia sufferers is their very good at hiding things.

maybe long read but very interesting Tom kitwood founded the bradford university of dementia and his books are extremely interesting, as i said we're here to support

lisa x

Does it cost for the carers to come in?