General Chat

Thanks buggs, i have had a word, as politely as I could, and explained, how would my grandson fell when it has to be removed for the headstone, but she is oblivious to this!

I can understand your shock Taff, and I am sure I would feel as you do. But it needs gentle handling. I admire you for being able to walk away and think about it - reckon I would have had the lot away in a fit of temper!
Standing back from all the emotions involved
a) who owns the plot
b) are there any regulations which state what can be put on a grave (what you have described is not allowed in our local cemetery)

Hope you can get it sorted with everyone happy about the outcome.

Maryjane-sue, yes i do understand that, but this was done by a 20+ woman!

I would have thought that if it was your grandson who wanted to do this, with the help of his cousin - then leave be for a while. Children's taste in things can often be considered "tackey" by adults but it is done with love and they certainly would consider it a thing of beauty.. In time you can probably remove the plastic fencing etc and blame it on the people in charge of the churchyard/cemetery.

Yesterday i went to visit my parents and daughters Grave. To my shock I found someone had put white plastic garden fencing around it,plus Gravel,kiddies toys and a picture of my grandsons, with a small picture of my daughter in the corner hanging around the cross.
To say I was shocked is an understatment!When i came home, I rang the other grandmother and asked if she knew anything about it! She said "yes, " It tured out that my 6year old gransons cousin(in her 20'S) had taken it apon herself to do this, she is not a relative of mine or my daughters, not by blood or marriage.
To be honest I dont know if I'me being over protective of the plot, or just that my anger at not even being asked about it is getting the better of me? I'me no snob, but it looks "tacky", at the moment I just want to go back and clear the lot off!
I am led to believe my grandson wanted to do something for his mum, my daughter, but this has gone way over the top, as it sticks out 3ft from the cross.
any outside advise would be more than welcome.