General Chat

Caz - to quote 1 male friends new girlfriend who met me for the first time....... she said "I was worried about meeting you cos I've heard so much about you, but you included me and didn't fawn over my man, so by my standards you can stay!"

Broggy - asking the question because a person who doesn't know me made a comment about me cuddling one of my married male friends!

And as I am human it made me think!!

That's all!

I suffer with jealousy but i have found I would only feel jealous if i wasnt part of the group and felt pushed out. If it is a group of people who know each other very well, maybe a little bit of it is ok.

But there is a very fine line and it goes wrong it can be awful,

Caz xx

Devils advocate here -

If it's just a laugh and a joke, their wifes don't mind (but are you sure of this or are they just humouring you whilst hoping you would just FGS stop) and if it would never go any further (any further where? in what direction?) - then just why are you asking the question?

right i think ive got it now,lol.they treat you more like a little sister,that isnt flirting,but to answer your original question,flirting as i see it is a no-no with married men,i wouldnt do it and wouldnt want another woman doing it with my OH ',just my opinion though

I get laughs, jokes, cuddles etc and play up to the fact they tell me I am lovely..... but I am never suggestive!!

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<<ok confused now,a laugh and a joke to me is not classed as flirting-being suggestive is what i call flirting,someone enlighten me please

Pippi - none taken I promise!! And I see your point of view and respect it too!

;o)

Kay

you put..... "a laugh and joke but nothing in any way suggestive"

flirting doesn't have to be suggestive....... I'm aware of boundaries and have the class and manners enough not to cross them, I promise!!

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very true, didnt mean to offend,you are right-a lot of weirdos going around now,and your friends obviously trust you and their hubbies totally,i wasnt aware you had all been friends for over 20 years,thats more like family than friends after all those years,im sorry if i offended you,no harm intended

Pippi - I have only ever once dated a married man... I didn't know he was married and when I found out I told his wife!!

So yes my flirting is only ever HARMLESS FUN!!

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Tania, I agree with you, Pink yes I feel it is wrong.

I cant say I have ever flirted with a married friends husband,its not something I would concider as I would hate it to be taken the wrong way,and I wouldnt wish to cause any embarresment or unrest between them or with me,

Most of the marrried couples I know would not tolerate it,,a laugh and joke but noting in any way sugestive,they would not want my friendship, regardless of how secure their relationship..

...But peoples views differ,and some dont mind,and if theres no problem caused then no harm done,

Pippi - Actually there aren't plenty of single guys to SAFELY flirt with these days!

I will add that this is all done in public and never secretly, and if the wives didn't like me, I wouldn't get dinner invites as a SINGLE female to make up numbers would I?

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oh,if you've known them that long then its just friendly fun(hopefully),oh each to thier own i guess(slips off soapbox,ouch!)

Dizzy I sorry you felt the need to lie about your feelings!! I really really am!!

But these wives wouldn't lie to me..... I have known most of them for over 20 years!

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that would be me too Dizzy,plenty of single guys to flirt with,without choosing the married ones,who should be flirting with their wives!(goes to find sense of humour,think it went up the hoover!)

I told someone once that her flirting with my hubby was ok and no it didnt bother me but secretly i was slowly beginning to hate her....

Deanna..... that's exactly what the wives say!! Most of the wives joke saying I can have their man!!

Fortunately my married friends and their wives are secure in their marriages and therefore its classed as major fun cos I never ever embarrass myself, the married or the wife!!

One thing my friends and I have is HONESTY!!

WHAT IS FLIRT ANYWAY

A SMILE

A WINK

JUST A LOOK