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best of luck to everyone else....

You have been through so much Shimmering, and stood tall through it all for your brother.......what a lovely lady you are, standing up to those.......it was awful the way he had been treated, maybe they will think twice before they pick on him again......

love to you, you have a voice, and you have used it very well......x sally

Hi SS

Well Done you !!!! Giving you a big pat on the back :O) ...................so glad you got the result you deserve, lets hope the hospital will review some of there policies to ensure something like this never happens again. xx

Sally, ms, Joy

You are so kind, thank you. I think you are all lovely and it was thanks to you and everybody on the thread that I had the courage to let my voice be heard, you've all been with me when I've been emailing, during the day.

Joy hun, have pmd you. x

Thank you.

(((((hugs)))) xxx

Got so many pms - my heart is so full of love for you all. Everyone agrees this thread should be ongoing, so may I ask you all to bookmark it (I have), nudge it so anyone in need of a listening ear, support, comfort, advice, lol even laughter that's such a help, will know where to come.

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Laura, hun, thank you. I'll be blushing soon, just doing what any big sis would do for her bro. Thank you though, means so much. xxx

OH said we're going to see bro at wkend (I don't drive, he's away on busines during week); i'm going to print off all the wonderful things you've written re my bro and show him he's not alone. x

Not anything that's not to do with us. x

absolutly delighted that you were succesful. Care Homes and trusts will always try to manipulate family to back down and keep quiet but we are advocates for people who cannot speak for themslves. No-one knows them better than their family.

Marilyn

if you feel unable to speak up fpr your Mum ask Citizens advise about advocate , solot of areas provide this service free. Stand up for your Mums rights. The mental health Unit she is in is guilty of abuse if they are removing her zimmer plus other stuff

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Doryth, thank you. You so right. We are the voices for those that can't defend themselves.

Really good advice for Marilyn - it is abuse, hadn't thought about Citizens Advice.

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((((SS))))
So pleased for you, your brother and your family.
As a care home manager your story has appalled me. Some of us try very hard to get it right.

Homes have to keep a record of their complaints, so CSCI will (or should!) find out about this incident, if they don't know already.

You have not only won for your brother, but also for people who have nobody to speak for them.

Take care, and I hope your brother can now get on with his life and be happy.
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Lyndi, thnk you - there are wonderful Managers, nurses, carers (indeed, my sister in law is a Carer herself, there every day), need to remember all of you and how you hurt too when read stories like these.

So sad, up til this point, had been able to relax, he seemed so well cared for.

((((hugs))))) x

Boards gonna keep running, pls nudge - will help those who don't know where to turn to, even if no probs just need someone to listen we're all here for them. x

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This threads for everyone. If need someone to listen, can't get out cos you're a Carer, if probs any sort, tired nurse/carer, need advice, help, support, hugs, comfort, this thread is for you huns not just me.

We can beat this together!

xxx

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Well done Mo, brill advice.

Marilyn, Mo giving such good advice - hers + others in field so helped me.

Hope you okay today hun ((((hugs))))

~~~~ waves to Mo ((((hug)))) x

Shimmering ``glad to see the thread still very active. just a thought that if the care unit has had any meetings you and your family are entitled to have a copy of the minutes. may be also useful to ask if they have rewritten your brothers care plan to reflect any changes. I would also be asking what training the staff have been given on how to de-escalated potentially aggressive situations ( and how current this is). Keep nudging. Meg

hi all hope your all ok and your day is going well good advice meg i have to do training every six months to keep up with all the new laws and regulations and all though i now work in residential care used to work in home for people with mental problems i have traing to deal with aggressive or challenging behavior and know what to do and how to restrain correctly within laws also pova but it is everyones right to ask to look at all nurses and career traing also reports on progress take care all kerry

Pops home from lunch quickly

Have asked to see various Policies plus 'Ofsted' type report, friend of mine has pulled up some info already.

Sis in law on the case - we've learnt over the years to keep records, always walk around with small pad and pen. Times, dates, photo's (bro's black eye) + guess what she discovered yesterday!

Bro (remember he has catastrophic head injury) can get confused sometimes, kept talking about split lip, she couldn't see one. He pulled lip up and there, right in front of her was infected split lip inside mouth. She insisted doc called immediately, a/biotics.

Aint life great!

Speak later, lol

Threads gonna run, run, run for all those who need it.

Just want to reinforce that 99% of Carers/Nurses are abs wonderful! It's the small minority that cause the damage/pain/harm, ...

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Joy, hun - thank you. Had meant to nudge, son moved out last night (got flat), back today - he and son gone now with half the contents of our house?!

~~~ to all.

Blushes, you all so nice too, thank you though. Gran of Oz, thank you, wipes eye, means so much. xxx

good afternoon all hope your well hi ss hope you have had good day im pooped just got home from work and full of cold big(((((hugs))))) luvs ya all kerry xx