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Best wishes Tina in whatever you choose to do
Mau (xx)

Tina, your attitude seems about right to me, you've got every right to feel bitter but make sure you take your time, stand your ground, and get what you deserve out of the relationship. I've seen friends of mine give in too easily and end up struggling because of it.
I wish you all the best for a happier future.

Carolyn

Many Thanks to everyone for the fantastic support and advice.

The past couple of weeks have been horrendous and my life is still on a major collision course.

We are not married and the girls are now over 16.. so a straight split would be good... shame about the half finished house and the fact he is insisting on finishing it although this makes sense if I am to move on and be able to live comfortably in the future.

I have the eldest coming with me and 'The Attitude' will stay with him.... she keeps trying to get him to take her round Bitch Brown Teeth Tarts to visit her.
(Aren't I just so horrible? Bitch Brown Teeth Tart is actually her god mother and I never refer to her as that in real life, I have dignity, really I do) This just goes to show how much respect she has for me.

I look forward to a new life, just me and the eldest and will not be there to pick up the pieces when his new relationshhip fails... he needs money in his life for the things he wants .. I have it , she hasn't. He needs his holidays and cars... hahahaha!!! Suffer!!!

I sound very bitter don't I? Is it the anger coming out after so many days of crying? at last a different emotion.

We are not a married couple so I will ensure a split equally so I can live with myself.. I asked him if he could live with himself... I'll always be in his face because of the children... He is going to struggle.

Thank you again,
I look forward to eventually enjoying the boards again.

Tina x

Hi Tina,

Just to let you know i'm thinking about you.x

Very sound and practical advice, CD.

Bump this. The advice may help someone else.
Hope all is well with Tina. She has a lot of prayers going for her.
God Bless x

CD, that's nice to hear, hope your son and his wife continue to be happy. It is very easy to take a person for granted sometimes, and many things can cause relationship breakdowns. It was great that you supported him in a sensible way and didn't just throw up your arms in horror and encourage him to split from his wife.
Been thinking about Tina and hoping she is ok.
Lizxx

ADVICE FOR WHAT IT"S WORTH.
Last year my son caught his wife cheating. It hadn't gone all the way but was DEVASTATING to my son. His first thought was to move out of the house. I told him absolutely should NOT. (NEVER LEAVE YOUR HOME OR YOUR KIDS) He is a very decent and good man and a good provider. Next: I took him to an attorney,just to find out what his options were. I assured him I was not proposing divorce, just know your options. I would advise anyone who has been hurt to take this route. Once you know your options, then weigh and consider what is best for you and the children. Do not let the other party know that you are seeking advice. With knowledge on your side, you are in control and that is VERY important. In my son's case the attorney suggested that his wife may have been feeling neglected emotionally (he is a good provider and feels this is how he showed his love) Obviously not enough for his wife and with her age 39 was most likely feeling the need to be found attractive. (the reason for most affairs) Anyhow......when he did explain to her that he was considering divorce, she was devastated. To cut a long story short, they are now getting along great and celebrating thier 15th wedding anniversary today. He now shows her a lot more affection. ( it works both ways)
SO.........my advice is....be informed...be in control....never act in haste......never file for divorce in anger. It doesn't help anyone.

Best of luck ! Hope this helps.

Onwards and upwards sweetie and I'm here if you need reminding that you deserve better

xx

tina marie, i know just how you feel. after my dvorce i foun out hed been sh****gin someone else for most of our marriage. i thank her for taking off my hands. when i see him now i thank god for my escape. all i can say now is good luck to her cos she needs it. nite sweetheart, u can get through it.xxxxxxxx

n

Dear Tina,still thinking of you,you deserve so much better, it's hard to start over, been there for similar reason except mine was closer to home and one-sided. He's lost his side of the family as well as mine.
It's so freeing to make all your own decisions.
Hugs and support,
Mary

First things first,if I were you I would go see a solicitor,get the ball rolling to make sure you get all you can.Have him slammed with a divorce petition naming your so called friend as co-respondent.Make them pay for what they have done to you.As you can see,I can be very vindictive if am wronged,been there,done that,and won !!


Maddy xx

P.S. In the meantime (((hugs)))

agrees with pink well said hun xx

T-M

Look at it another way rather than "he doesn't want you" - See it as "I deserve better than a lying cheating scumbag of a man" cos you do!!

The future may seem scary now but you'll enjoy it eventually!

xx

Thinking of you Tina.

Lizxx

well dun u hunn & keep that love head of ur held high xx

my words still stand xxhugs

Oh Tina..............good for you, you are worth so much more than this.

All I can do is offer my heartfelt wishes that sometime very soon, you will be happy again.

((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))) to be going on with.

xx

One day Tina, you will look back on this time and be proud that you went through this awful experience with good sense and your dignity.....

....they will both get their just desserts, don't you worry about that......you will come out of it the better person......x sally

Tina~Maria, I don't know what you are going to do, or have done.... but whatever it is.... make sure it is your choice, no one else's.
Been there myself, listened to the lies.... AND BELIEVED THEM!!
But you don't know it yet, this may just be the beginning of a better life for you.
I wish you all the happiness you deserve.
Deanna X