Genealogy Chat

I was stuck with my family tree and when I visited a medium, she mentioned that she had my Grandmother there, but I did not know her. Which was true because she had died 10 years before I was born, she told me that I had been looking for the family bible (which was true). But I would not find it, because it had been destroyed. But if I looked at the back of the graveyard where she was buried I would find something for my family tree. So set off to Oxford from Epsom to investigate. To cut a long story short, low and behold behind alot of ivy and moss at the back of the graveyard. I found My fathers grandparents.

I would love to go see a medium, but my dad is always sending me messages - he never said he loved me when he was alive but now he has passed he is making up for it. Those of you who have seen my messages on the members board will know about some of them - She

Hi Jude Still having trouble with the web - addy. Will try again shortly. You did put the snail mail addy. Will persist in trying -I'll get it right in while no doubt!! :D Liz

Hi everyone. I think the key to knowing if a medium is genuine is not to give them any info., let them tell you! I went to see a medium when my husband died. She insisted on holding something personal to me - I gave her my watch. I DID NOT tell her anything (I especially made sure not to). At the end of our session she said it had been particularly hard because I had been unable to assist her, and that I should perhaps do a little research and go back! She had asked me who I was trying to reach - I told her no one in particular but that I lost a few relatives in recent years. Little did she know she had hit on many factors relating to my late mother (recently passed on)and sister. She described a ring - a ring that I had looked at just before leaving home for my appointment, a ring that I had not looked at for some years - bought for me by my late husband. I denied all knowledge of the ring she described because I did not want any facts mixed with fiction. Most amazing of all was the fact that she demonstrated a particular movement which was a habit of my late husband - and no-one could have told her of it. Whilst I went hot and cold I DID NOT reveal that she was "seeing" my late husband (again recently passed over). There were many times that I wanted to pay the same medium a visit - I should have because as I've already said she had definitely made contact! I never did and to this day (12 years on) wonder if I should have. To all of you I would say remember it is so easy to get carried away and tell the medium what you want to hear! Regards Joan

Ooooooh Peter !!!! Seriously though I can understand your reservations, and I would agree that it could become a dangerous obsession and a tool for manipulation in the wrong hands - but for that matter so can many other things that we don't question so readily. I think the key is to keep an open mind, and as you quite rightly say watch out for people who charge(although the lady I saw did readings to raise money for the RSPCA!) From a personal perspective I just find it a really interesting subject, and as a Christian it seems like quite a normal expectation that our loved ones would want to let us know they love us and are OK. At the end of the day if it gives people peace of mind and comfort can it be so bad? Regards Maxine PS Have you got the number for Madame Arcatis?<BG>

At the risk of being cynical....I think this whole medium/psychic/spiritualist thing is - dare I say - a load of old baloney (and all the exploitative TV programmes that go with it). Coincidences are great fun - but that's exactly what they are. The world would be a very strange place without coincidental happenings. Also if people start to pay "mediums" and the like for information, some very nasty and unscrupulous people might start to take advantage...give me diligent research over Madame Arcatis every day....

Maxine Go girl!! Off't to work again,home at 5 out in 20min but no doubt be back on here later. Liz - did you get anywhere with that site,if so l'll put it in the boards (or did l??) Jude

Thanks for the info Jude - I'll have a stiff G&T and see if I can summon up the courage to go. Regards Maxine

William That must have been an awful experience for you, particularly as you had a 'feeling' that this would happen. You must have felt so hopeless knowing that there was nothing you could do about it. Has this happened to you before, or since? Janet Northamptonshire

Maxine - ready The David Jones Centre. Stafford Spiritualist Church. 96a Stone Rd.Stafford. Sun = 6.30 service and Wed = 8pm service. Or the phone number is: 01785 615513 (was'nt going to put that,but thought,why not!!) Good luck Jude If you are still not sure, try and find an Awareness Group from these people. Hopefully by tomorrow l will have one of my sisters old Psychic news papers here,then l can add any other places people might want.

Thanks Jude

Hi all Anyone wanting mediums in SW London area.The Wimbledon Spiritualist Church 136 Hartfield Rd. Wimbledon. Womble country!!!!!(sorry) Jude Maxine - l will ask her.

Hi Jude Could I be cheeky and ask if your sister could have a look for anyone in Stafford/Stoke-on-trent? Regards Maxine

Thanks Judith you are a star Liz

Liz Have'nt forgotten you.Spoke to my sister earlier,she is going to look in The Psychic News paper and phone me back. Jude

Liz Might be able to find out for you.Probably tomorrow. Jude

Hi there After my maternal grandmother died, her daughter in law said she often felt her around her house. My aunt, went to a spiritual church, for the first time - and a message came through from gran. It's nice to know she is still around. Does anyone know of a good mediumin the SW London area? Liz

I went to see a medium a few months ago, when I first started doing my family tree. He came up with the name George, who was my grandad, then told me that my grandad had been a twin, and the other twin was a boy. Earlier the same night I had found my grandads birth on freebmd, and on the same page was his twin, John. I had printed the page out and shown it to my mum before we went out. Maggy, West Yorkshire

Maxine Is'nt this good. I love anythng like this. My gran was a spiritualist and l was given a spiritual name at my christening.Believe it or not but its Bluebell,my sisters also have flower names - but Bluebell!!! Jude

There's no need to be afraid of your loved ones who've passed over. I don't need mediums to know when my daughter is 'visiting' us, which she does quite regularly, particularly when we have a special occasion, and the family is all together. She makes it quite obvious to everyone by making strange things happen which we can't ignore! The phenomena will only stop if I say, "OK, we know you're there - now that's enough!" She was a practical joker when she died at the age of 14, and nothing seems to have changed much! The one sure thing about it all is that it has proved to us all, without a shadow of a doubt, that there definitely is something else after we pass on. When I started researching my family history, I didn't know anything beyond my grandfather. When I discovered who my great-grandfather was, and his date of birth, I was really surprised. He had the same name as my father, and his birthday was 5th October 1846. My birthday is 5th October 1946! How about that for a coincidence! Janet Northamptonshire