Genealogy Chat

nudge

Bumping this to help the lady looking for info - I could only really help with Scottish records. many thanks

I am not quite sure about how this thing with Teresa works, you can contact her and she will search for you?????? Can she do that???

Such sad stories. I had an elderly great Aunt who had a still birth in the 1930s and she told me that the midwife took the baby away and she had no idea what happened to him and she wasnt given a choice. Thankfully she went on to have 2 healthy children. Michele

nudge

Thank you for bringing this to my attention> I am desperate to trace a possible brother of my mother. Born 4/10/1919 to a Matthew and Florence Clowson nee Adams, The twin sister was called Catherine lillian Maud Clowson born in sheffield. Its strange not knowing anything about the birth at all. My fathers side had 5 out of 10 births as short lived. Some only hours but they were found registered in their local church and all have graves. I should think they could afford the funeral etc. Thanks so much for all of this. I shall pass this info on to my cousin.

Bumped deliberately for someone who's name i cant remember! Jess

thank you for that

Lynn Moores, I have emailed you. Is it possible that your babies` births and deaths were registered without your knowledge. Would it be an idea to look on 1837online to check. If you dont have credits, I have plenty and am happy to look for you if you wish.

My grandmother had many stillbirths as she was rhesus negative and grandad possitive. Mum was the first born so was OK. I have found the birth and death entries for one son who lived a few days and mum told me that he was the only one, all the others were stillborn. I havent been able to find any details about those stillbirths. This was in the mid to late 1920s.

nudge

You're welcome Jackie. I actually did it cos I saw what you had written on the other thread. But I didn't have time to tell you cos I had to go and see to my youngest Jeanette x

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My first grandchild was a stillbirth, we had to go and have him registered, then we had a little funeral for him. my second grandchild was born prematurely and lived 3 days, she was burried next to her brother, they have their own little plot in the local cemetary. They would be 8 and 9 years now, I often wonder what they would be like. Further back in my family my maternal grandmother lost quite a few babies, I don't know how many, she was married 20 years before my mother came along. I can remember my mother saying she was told that one premeture baby was born alive and put by the fire to try to warm it up, but died shortly afterwards. I don't know what became of these children, or where they were buried. The family were very devout RC, which makes me wonder what would happen if they were stillborn and not baptised - according to the RC church they would go to Limbo - would the priest bury them, or let them be buried in concecrated ground? and would that be something to do with seperate plots for stillborn babies? I can remember my other grandmother who had 3 boys, telling me she had girls that had died. After my dad's death I found some papers of grandmas with all her childrens dobs - I have found birth and death references in the same quarter for 3 children in 1901 - 1904 & 1905- I suppose this means that they were live births and died shortly aftewards. I also found a birth and a death 18 months later for another child in 1917. I have not as yet sent for these certificates, but will do when funds allow. What hard and sad lives women had back then, they never knew if their babies would survive birth or infancy, or worse still if they themselves would survive childbirth. All these little babies are part of our families and it's so sad that we don't know where they are burried or their names. Teresa is doing a great job gathering together these records.

Is the church in Gloucester Barbara? Sam

Barbara, why not ask if anyone on GC can go to the churchyard for you - I would be happy to go if it was near me - find your plot, tidy it up and put some flowers for you. Maz. XX

Lyn & Barbara, thank you for sharing your very sad experiences, they brought tears to my eyes. Lyn You could start here Liverpool Cemeteries Office Allerton Lodge Woolton Road Liverpool L19 5NF Tel 0151 233 3004 See what they can tell you Regards Sam

Hi, This is all very interesting....as I can't say that I have thought about it before. I haven't come across any stillbirths in my researching of f/tree but certainly the men.....married a couple of times...and the wives died quite young after having quite a few children. No doubt they were totally worn out or it wouldn't have been uncommon to have died in childbirth. It is good that there is a lady keeping records on stillbirths. I hope the ladies find the info they are looking for. Victoria

I have found this a really interesting thread. Regarding this lady who keeps the details, is it worth actually sending her details, I mean, if we have had this experience and would like our child to be recorded with her so that they do become written down in history somewhere? I think times have changed very much and that we have come a long way (in general) with this. Back in 1986, I was given a polaroid of my baby boy, they made sure I took it with me. Had it been 6 months earlier, they probably wouldn't have done this. I think the women who formed the local SANDS group would go into the hospital and talk with midwives and suggest things that would have been helpful. Now at our hospital, they have a special room where the parents can be and have their child with them and basically take their time in saying goodbye. Her they can bath, dress the baby, have othe family members in, take as many photos as they wish. My boy is buried at a special children's plot at Brookwood cemetary. My dad arranged all this and didn't actually tell me, he just rang me to say he had been laid to rest. I think he did it because he thought it would be too distressing for me to go, but I really felt that it was taken away from me. I should have been there.

Thank's for that Maz i will certainly be in touch, my grandma had a stillbirth and he was taken she never did know where he was buried. Her mother also told her back in the 1800's if they had a stillbirth and there was no midwife presant they used to bury them in there own back yard's to save the cost's as they did'nt have the money. I have a certificate stating my little girl's birthdate and place of death, not quite the same as a birth certificate, but somthing to treasure. Shan