Genealogy Chat

Melissa - was going to say, Sheila is 'your man'- ...and there she is! thought i ws on my own here for a moment! thanks Sheila Jess x

catherine. The law has changed,but I'm not really 'up' on the new implications. Will have to read upon that, although someone will know. I believe , where as before the adoptee had to initiate the interest in finding out thier 'roots' i believe there is now he chance for a B/Parents to say they want to know (thru social sevices), BUT the adoptee has to have expressed an interest in their file for it to procede. Trying ringing your local Social services adoption dept and talk to them, they'll know for sure. best of luck Jess x

Hi Melissa, I have sent you a PM. :O) Sheila

Bev- that sounds a bit ambiguous to me.Did she say she would OR you Could? Were there cost involved? keep us up to date! I've not heard that before...not to say t doesn't happen though Jess

Hi What a great thread it has given me a lot of ideas about searching for my B/M, after 36 years I am finally ready. Can I ask if I know my B/M name and roughly the age she was when I was born, is there anywhere I can look for a marrige certificate for her. Thanks

Is it right that if you were adopted in say 1950-53 the mother can look for a child, or does it have to be the child who makes the first move, that's if they knew they were adopted in the first place. I know my mother talked about a daughter she gave up for adoption, sadly my mother is no longer alive now, but it would be interesting if I could find out. Also would the birth been registered or is that changed to hide the natural mother? And replaced with the adoptive parents? Thanks Catherine

HI all, just wanted to let you know that I contacted the Social Worker today about looking for my adopted sis and she was more than helpful as she will now refer the case to a trace agency. Fingers Crossed! x I am looking for a sister who was adopted in East Grinstead courts.

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Glen, sounds like your B/F was a bit like mine- i would have said 'a woman in evry port' except , to my knowledge, he never went to sea!! More like a woman for every bus garage he worked at, from what we can work out. Will Cilla lend me a hat? Mmmmm.

Hi Jess, re the hat,ask Cilla,i'm sure she has some very underused ones from Blind Date days somewhere. I'm at a funny point myself,half bro seems to blow cold then very hot,it seems the family are all quite unaware of past generations,and don't even know without checking names of aunts uncles and grandparents. The greatest shame of all is that i can't get a photo of my bm,everytime i mention it (and it is e-mail only contact),the subject seems to be ignored,not acknowledged even. Oddly though there seems to be quite a bit known about my father,but nothing that could lead me to anything about him,a possible age,but no area of birth or where he lived,just a suspected prison sentence at an unknown time for a possible robbery,and a name. I did find a woman on GR who has a father by the same name,right area and time for my birth,who was a bit of a ladies man,but it appears she is no longer a member,despite trying to find someone who has maybe contacted her direct.Alas no joy! On the plus side if i can prove i have the 'right' grandad then i can go back to the 1790's in London via Berwickshire and Norfolk to Lincolnshire then back to me in Scotland. All good fun though. Hugs to all out there. Glen xxx

Hi Chaps! have we any new adoptees around to hop aboard that want a natter - how is everyone doing? The Grandson of my birth father that was Oh-so keen when we first made contact has faded away, just a 2 line E-mail at christmas, yes i COULD e-mail him again BUT its always intiaited by me, and he replies with just a few lines- flogging a dead horse now I think. Delighted to have been invited to my full birth sisters daughters wedding- her father will not even acnowledge me, and apparently the bride has spoken and would rather have auntie Jess than Grandad so .... its up to her dad now, they are 'somewhat estranged' anyway so i guess it not as bad as it sounds. The inverse of this is when i had everyone here pre christmas and R asked MY Dad, why he didnt adopt her too...it was a joke , she was born sometime before me, but... My dad replied that ''Big as you are, you can call me dad if you like'' and she does!! Brilliant! talk soon Jess x ...and its a 'hat' do! Oh heck....

Hi all, The certifacate/job saga is finally getting sorted (for now).A P45 and licence/bank/phone/credit card bills etc seem to suffice at the moment. Yes i know i spelt certificate wrong,thats what 1800 miles in a week does for you,it's like sitting in front of a wide screen tv for 60+ hours. Will just be about at the weekends for now,still chasing the ancestors,but at least they are not running very fast.(lol) Hugs Glen xxx

want to keep them together?

Birth mum called Kathy has opened a site in the MSN.groups called 60's heartaches; for us that are still looking its worth a try. Sandra

How is the new job going Glen? Sandra

Nudged for someone on records. This is where adoptees tend to congregate and off load/discuss etc.

did Glen get a result as to which birth cert his employer would accept? Found that very odd - even for a pssport, you dont have to produce the original - and why should you?

Attention all adoptees! Please see Success Board regarding Jess not being around. Take Care for now Jess x

I seem to remember from an early post (possibly chapter 1 or 2),mention of a draft letter that could be used as an example for an adoptee trying to make contact with thier birth mother/family. I might be mistaken but it does ring a bell. Is there any chance of pulling it from the archives,i'm thinking that many people may find it useful and may not know about it,as any reference to it will be way down the threads. Glen xx