Genealogy Chat

Birth mum called Kathy has opened a site in the MSN.groups called 60's heartaches; for us that are still looking its worth a try. Sandra

want to keep them together?

Hi all, The certifacate/job saga is finally getting sorted (for now).A P45 and licence/bank/phone/credit card bills etc seem to suffice at the moment. Yes i know i spelt certificate wrong,thats what 1800 miles in a week does for you,it's like sitting in front of a wide screen tv for 60+ hours. Will just be about at the weekends for now,still chasing the ancestors,but at least they are not running very fast.(lol) Hugs Glen xxx

Hi Chaps! have we any new adoptees around to hop aboard that want a natter - how is everyone doing? The Grandson of my birth father that was Oh-so keen when we first made contact has faded away, just a 2 line E-mail at christmas, yes i COULD e-mail him again BUT its always intiaited by me, and he replies with just a few lines- flogging a dead horse now I think. Delighted to have been invited to my full birth sisters daughters wedding- her father will not even acnowledge me, and apparently the bride has spoken and would rather have auntie Jess than Grandad so .... its up to her dad now, they are 'somewhat estranged' anyway so i guess it not as bad as it sounds. The inverse of this is when i had everyone here pre christmas and R asked MY Dad, why he didnt adopt her too...it was a joke , she was born sometime before me, but... My dad replied that ''Big as you are, you can call me dad if you like'' and she does!! Brilliant! talk soon Jess x ...and its a 'hat' do! Oh heck....

Hi Jess, re the hat,ask Cilla,i'm sure she has some very underused ones from Blind Date days somewhere. I'm at a funny point myself,half bro seems to blow cold then very hot,it seems the family are all quite unaware of past generations,and don't even know without checking names of aunts uncles and grandparents. The greatest shame of all is that i can't get a photo of my bm,everytime i mention it (and it is e-mail only contact),the subject seems to be ignored,not acknowledged even. Oddly though there seems to be quite a bit known about my father,but nothing that could lead me to anything about him,a possible age,but no area of birth or where he lived,just a suspected prison sentence at an unknown time for a possible robbery,and a name. I did find a woman on GR who has a father by the same name,right area and time for my birth,who was a bit of a ladies man,but it appears she is no longer a member,despite trying to find someone who has maybe contacted her direct.Alas no joy! On the plus side if i can prove i have the 'right' grandad then i can go back to the 1790's in London via Berwickshire and Norfolk to Lincolnshire then back to me in Scotland. All good fun though. Hugs to all out there. Glen xxx

Glen, sounds like your B/F was a bit like mine- i would have said 'a woman in evry port' except , to my knowledge, he never went to sea!! More like a woman for every bus garage he worked at, from what we can work out. Will Cilla lend me a hat? Mmmmm.

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HI all, just wanted to let you know that I contacted the Social Worker today about looking for my adopted sis and she was more than helpful as she will now refer the case to a trace agency. Fingers Crossed! x I am looking for a sister who was adopted in East Grinstead courts.

Is it right that if you were adopted in say 1950-53 the mother can look for a child, or does it have to be the child who makes the first move, that's if they knew they were adopted in the first place. I know my mother talked about a daughter she gave up for adoption, sadly my mother is no longer alive now, but it would be interesting if I could find out. Also would the birth been registered or is that changed to hide the natural mother? And replaced with the adoptive parents? Thanks Catherine

Hi What a great thread it has given me a lot of ideas about searching for my B/M, after 36 years I am finally ready. Can I ask if I know my B/M name and roughly the age she was when I was born, is there anywhere I can look for a marrige certificate for her. Thanks

Bev- that sounds a bit ambiguous to me.Did she say she would OR you Could? Were there cost involved? keep us up to date! I've not heard that before...not to say t doesn't happen though Jess

Hi Melissa, I have sent you a PM. :O) Sheila

catherine. The law has changed,but I'm not really 'up' on the new implications. Will have to read upon that, although someone will know. I believe , where as before the adoptee had to initiate the interest in finding out thier 'roots' i believe there is now he chance for a B/Parents to say they want to know (thru social sevices), BUT the adoptee has to have expressed an interest in their file for it to procede. Trying ringing your local Social services adoption dept and talk to them, they'll know for sure. best of luck Jess x

Melissa - was going to say, Sheila is 'your man'- ...and there she is! thought i ws on my own here for a moment! thanks Sheila Jess x

Hi All I am very new to this and being born and adopted in the U.K. and living in Oz for the last 30 years, I may need a bit of help, so here is one more question ! If by chance there is a name on a family tree that is the same as your B/M and year of birth, how do word a message you would send to them being very mindful that know one may know about you? Thanks and Cya from Oz

melissa - carefully!! i guess the wording depend on how much you know about her, whatever you do, make sure you word it so that it wont lead anyone to guess, just in case its a secret

Hi Jess Do you think I could ask if such in such was in the area in 19** and just leave it a that. What do you think ?

is it a name on here? I'd say something like... I am searching out some ancestry and have come across a name which may interlink our trees. the name i have come across is (blah Blah) born 19.... who had connections with the town of (so-and-so) in the early (or whatever) 1960's (or when ever it was). Then put.... I believe she originated from (whereever) if you know, and then anything else you know,keping it simply to facts. finish politely by saying that you hope they 'll find a moment or two to message you back. ------------------------------------------------------------------------- I have a half birth brother that appears on here , when i message the poster with a similar thing I did get a reply ''he married a cousin of mine in 1989, sorry i know nothing about him'' well, at least i gleaned the fact that he was married. its all building brick, that help you build up a picture without giving too much away. Any help at all? Jess x

Hi Jess Ahhhh yes, excellent wording thanks for that ! Cya Melisa : )