Genealogy Chat

a big nudge for susan what a heart rending story hopefully she will find lots of love and support from all her friends on here

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hi every 1 hope you all ok just wondering if any one has read any good books on adoption and other peoples stories about adoption many thanks angie xxxxxx

Hi Peeps Been a long while since I checked in so its been lovely to read everyone's stories and catch up with what's been happening to everyone. Not a lot to report from my end really. To those of you who don't know, I traced my birth mother back in April after several years of searching, dead ends and false leads. Things are pretty good. We talk on the phone a couple of times a week, usually for a couple of hours at a time. We've had a couple of 'lunch meetings' and on her birthday at the end of last month, I went over and met the elder of my half brothers for the first time along with his wife and baby daughter, which was quite emotional as he's older than me and vaguely remembers her being pregnant and has known since he was about 9yrs old that I was given up for adoption and the reasons why. And birth mum is getting married again next year (she was widowed 9yrs ago) and she's already said she hopes that we will all be there as it would make her day! Love to everyone and good luck with your continued searching Lou x

hi every one im bit sad today,my brothers has left his girlfriend of 12yrs they have 4 kids together.i found my brother 3yrs ago and took them all into my heart.he has just up and left he got no job no home no money he staying with his mom at the mo but shes an alcholic and that does his head in.he said he going to hitch lift to somewere and start a new life im realy worried about him i know he can look after himself but still the same its a big step to just up and leave,i just hope he knows what hes doing and he doesnt regret it love angie xxxxxx

I am feeling so sad for my dad tonight.He has fallen out with my younger brother and there is nothing i can do to ease the situation. My dad (and Mum) have done everything for us, and more from the day they adopted us. i could neber do what my brother has done to upset dad, i suppose it just goes to show, that part of what you are DOES stay with you for evr, and what you become is in part down to what you started out as. Tim I love you Dad i love you too jess x

update on my progress ha ha ha got the lady on the phone the next day who I needed to speak to she told me that the search now begins it will take 6 to 9 months and then I will be assigned a social worker to deal with my case >Great I am now officially a case. Can I do anything in the meantime all help and advice gratefully received.I seem to just go around in circles and get nowhere on this wonderful machine. Thanx Jesse for reminding me how old I am LOL I see myself as still 28 but today I found out I gonna be a granny OMG Take care all onwards and upwards. Sorry about your sad time Jesse

Lorna, it does take time, unfortunately. get yourself wound up and ready to go...and have to wait 9 months! i guess what you can 'be getting on with' depends on how much you know. Have you got your original birth cert? jess x , still feeling very sad about brother/ dad situation- neither will tell me 'what' exactly, but know it is about money and is 'big'. Whatever my brother has done, he has upst dad big time. I lost one brother when he die 14 years ago, and dad likened the sadness he feels now, to losing another son. ..and i am helpless...

Sorry about your dad/brother situation but yu can't do anything about it just be there for both of them and hopefully the situation will get sorted Money always causes problems in families thats why always trouble around births deaths and marriagesBoth need to realise you can't take it with you and it aint a happiness bringer where as blood is thicker than water and yes that applies to adopted too and love is still there when the money is gone hope this hasn't come across as flip its heartfelt. Had a situation in my family recently re money that caused been a lot of heartbreak but hopefully nearly over . About my situation I haven't got my original cert yet have b/m name and where i was born and court paper re adoption hey that cost 10 shillings and thats it so can i get any info anywhere would be grateful for all imputTake care

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Howdy doody friends! Just spent a weeks holiday with my birth sister - did it last year too and agian, it was great! We enjoy the same things and really got on the boys nerves giggling like school girls! I always thought they way you were brought up influenced the way you are, I guess it does to an extent but still cannot believe that two people brought up in two completely different environments can be so like minded. We are both daft as brushes although she does have one faulty gene (she likes LIVER..Yuuuuuuuuucky!) Jess x

hi jess thats lovely im glad you had nice holiday with your sister me and my brothers have similaratys but they were brought up totally different to me and there morals are nothin like mine more our charataristics are the same. things going ok with them at the mo iv learnt to take a step back and not get so stressed when i dont hear off them i had to cus it was driving me mad and think i was a bit possesive which isnt good,its been a roller coaster to say the least,so much has happend in the 3yrs that iv known them,hoping to see them all soon best wishes angie xxxxx

Hi everyone My step son-in-law has just set me the task of finding his birth mother! I have her name and age and where he was born.....can any of you kind people tell me where I go from here? Many thanks Susan

This thread seems to have been long gone from the top of the boards. i guess that means all the adoptees are happy bunnies and no-one has any stresses and worries - which is excellent news. Jess x

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brought back to the surface for Rhiannon. jess x

Rhiannon- talk to the other adoptees here , we do understand , tell us what you have been through and when and we'll all be better able to understand. It is never an easy journey, tracing your birth mother - for her or for you. You menetion bitterness in your message to me, who was boitter , her or you. Maybe she sisn't want to give you up. Tell us your stroy briefly here and see what others think Jess x

HI EVERY THIS BOARD HAS BEEN QUIET HASNT IT WELL IM IN THE PROCESS OF ARRANGING TO MEET 3 BIRTH AUNTIES,MY OLDEST BROTHER WAS OK WITH ME DOING FAMILY TREE SO HAVE ASKED HIM IF I CAN STAY WITH HIM AND HE CAN COME WITH ME TO MEET THEM AS HE KNOWS MY AUNTIES AS HE WASNT ADOPTED DIDNT WANT HIM TO FEEL I WAS ARRANGING THIS BEHIND HIS BACK AND WANTED HIM INVOLVED,SO IM JUST WAITING TO SEE WHAT HIS REACTION IS GOING TO BE.WILL KEEP YOU ALL POSTED HUGS ANGIE XX

hi guys well after waiting for about 12 weeks i still dont have my birth file my social worker has said that she cant locate it and she is now going to write to reading social services to see if it is there i certainly hope so i hate all this waiting, i have found that one of my birth brothers is on the friends reunited site so near yet so far, i am feeling very frustrated at the moment love rainey