Genealogy Chat

Hope your B I L will be buoyed up by the thought of all these wellwishers beside him in spirit when he goes to the door! I'll be one of them! Liz

I am glad he is going to visit her I will be sending positive thoughts his way

Oh Sam.that's great news...! I just hope + pray it works out for BIL. At least he will know one way or the other.( I am thinking POSITIVE thoughts). I will be away on hols from Wed. so will have to wait a while before I find out what happened:( Keep strong + I wish BIL all the Luck in the world..he deserves a break after all the trauma he's been through. Meanwhile, take care I will be thinking of you all on Wednesday. Ann xx

Hello Sammy, I have never added anything on here, but have followed your story on BIL since the beginning. I wish your BIL all the best and he recieves a positive answer on Wednesday when he goes and knocks on that door. I am waiting with abaited breath on what the outcome holds. I am not sick of hearing this story, just pleased you have kept us updated. fingers crossed we are rooting for him hopefully on a positive note. I hope Grandad is ok too! Linda x

Like many others, have been following this from the beginning. tears of sadness and frustration now turning into tears of hope and joy. positive thoughts with your BIL and your sisterfor next week. Be strong, all of you.

Hi Sammy, Wishing so much luck. Amanda x

Hi Sammy, Have been following this story from the beginning along with many others. I wish your BIL so much luck on Wednesday, I'll be thinking of you all. Love Linda x

Hi Sam been following your thread over the weeks please wish your BIL all the best for next week. Germaine x

Hi Sammy. We all be be waiting with abated breath,,,and I wish BiL all the luck in the world--and admire him for taking this very brave stand,,,,, Positive thoughts... Kay.

Smiley Sammy, I have read your thread from day 1 and am glad to hear your BIL is going to visit. Good Luck to him and I will be reading for an update. Best wishes Heather

hi Sammy, i am sending your BIL my positive vibes for WED, with all the best wishes he will recieve from this site he will be walking to that door with an army behind him, give my love to his granddad hope he is well, does he like a pint? perhaps a little night out will do him good Love MOE! xxxx

Fingers crossed that something good comes from your BIL visit. I will send bucket loads of good thoughts on Wednesday for him Esta xx

Excellent- something had to come of this- lets hope it turn out well for all. Jess x

My sister & BIL are going to Aberystwyth on Wednesday 3rd August. He says he's going to knock on the door, I just hope his mother is at home and will actually speak to him. At least if she answers the door he will get to SEE her for the first time in 33yrs, but I know he is hoping for more than that. It is something he knows he just has to do, whatever the outcome. I'll be sending ~*~Happy Thoughts~*~ to Aberystwyth on Wednesday, and you will all be the first to know what happens. Thank you for staying with me Sam xxx

Hi Sam BIL is on all our minds too, I think! So, 10 weeks for non urgent cases!! I dread to think what is classed as urgent!, still I suppose it's better than nothing eh. Good luck Sam We are thinking of you all Regards Ann x

Thank you all Ann, AC have a 10 week wait for non urgent cases :( Linda, he's Unkrainain and that's a nice idea but new faces seem to upset him at the moment. Thanks Amanda, even though I'm not adding to the thread ( I don't like adding if nothings happening, don't want members to think ''Not that again!' LOL) my BIL is always in the back of my mind Sam

Hi Sammy, Sorry to hear no good news, but you have posted something important, you didn't want your thread to disappear. We who are following it won't let it! Am sure lots of us are still with you. Just thought you may have needed a bit of space in life so haven't added for a while. Love Amanda x

Hi Sammy - Yes, I too have been following your B I L's plight with concern and a lot of sympathy. I'm with Margaret Atkinson - raising the subject of dementia in his grandfather. Has the GP suggested getting the local old age psychiatric consultant involved? In our local psychiatric hospital we have two assessment wards where behaviour, medication etc can be monitored for two or three weeks and if it's referred to as a 'little holiday' many patients accept it quite happily. What kept me afloat through my husband's 15 years of progressive dementia was regular attendance at the dementia support group where we learn many invaluable ploys for living with the situation. Men seem to find it more difficult than women a) to get time off work and b) to admit they're having problems and then to share them, but we have several who look after wives or parents and find it a life-saver. I suggest you might enquire about groups from your nearest Alzheimer's society (which covers other forms of dementia as well), hospital or surgery. I've heard so often how one partner has covered for the illness of the other so successfully for years that when that partner dies everything goes pear-shaped. I really think that getting the psychiatric service involved would be your B I L's best bet - I know from both first and second-hand just what a strain he must be under with his grandfather - let alone the trauma of his B M. I'm sending him loads of positive thoughts - he needs them! Love Liz Did you say that the grandfather is Polish? There seem to be a lot of young people from Eastern Europe over here at the moment polishing their language skills and doing all sorts of jobs to earn money. He might react very positively to hearing his native language - especially from a charming young lady!!

Just to let you know I am still checking your thread Sam, and thinking about you all. Poor BIL he must be exhausted. It's VERY tiring, physically + mentally looking after an old person who doesn't want to be looked after! I hope things work out eventually for you all. Take care Ann x ps: did age concern offer any help regarding checking up on his mothers circumstances?

JULY 21st 2005 Hi everyone Nothing new I'm afraid, I just didn't want the thread to disappear. Things are at a standstill becausemy BIL is concentrating on his grandad. He's got 2 weeks holiday at the moment and he & my sister are taking a few days out with the children, well deserved too. I was only thinking this morning whether he would go to Aberystwyth or not, but that will involve an overnight stay and BIL is not willing to leave his grandad for that long yet. I will be sure to update if anything happens, finger's crossed for something good :) Sam