Genealogy Chat

Gosh, Sammy, this is so nerve racking,....... all this waiting,..... I to, have been following this story unfolding, I really hope that it works out OK, for everyone , at least he will know he has done his best, fingers and everything else is crossed, hope the news is good........Lilly

Hi Sammy I keep checking back on the thread, Im eager to know if all went as BIL wished! Best wishes xx Lib

Huryy Up with news Sammy. It's difficult having your fingers crossed all day. Hope it went well. Linda

Hope everything went o.k. and BIL has now met his mother. I imagine that if it was about 2 p.m. when they got there and its a four hour drive, then allowing for (hopefully) at least an hour's visit, it's going to be after 7 or 8 tonight before we know anything. Can't wait!! Hope it's good news. Kath. x

They might have got there later than scheduled....the terrain round there is a bit tricky and off the beaten track.

Hiya Sammy Hope everything went well for your bil today. Karen

No news then yet. I hope things went well.

Hi Sammy, I hope all went well for BIL and your sister. I'm sure there must be loads of us waiting to hear, just hope it's such good news after a very difficult time for you all. Amanda x

It's not good. They arrived, knocked several times but no reply, it's a bungalow, council type, the windows were open and a dog was barking. My BIL knocked for about 5 minutes then went back to the car. Then he decided to try the neighbours, one side looked empty and the other side is just a bit of land so he approached a woman he saw up the road. He said he was trying to get hold of Mrs H*** and she said ''oh, you mean Annie'' ''oh she wont answer the door, she's a recluse, never goes out, she's got badly injured legs and she can hardly walk.She's got a little collie dog' He knocked some more, but no response. He couldn't hear a TV or anything, other than a dog. He didn't tell the woman who he was, my sister wanted to try more neighbours but BIL didn't want to He then wrote her a short letter saying he had driven from Gloucester in the hopes that he would see her and he was concerned that she's not been getting his letters. He said he would come back anytime if she changed her mind. I cant see it though, can you? Unless she hasn't received her mail and this is a surprise to her, but I don't hold out much hope really. My sister is going to write to several neighbours, not sure what that will achieve because if she doesn't want to see him then that's the end. Sam

Very very sad, he must feel gutted. thinking of him. little more i can say really. Jess x

oh Sammy Im so sorry to hear things havent turned out as BIL wanted, he must feel deflated! I cant see any reason why she has'nt recieved the letters, unless they are being diverted! From the neighbours description she sounds like a very lonely woman who as Isolated herself away from society. Makes you think about her emotional and mental state! At least BIL as the satisfaction of knowing he tried, not to say that he isnt still dissapointed and should give up though. Lib

Hi So sorry it wasnt as expected. I really hope she reads the letter and responds kindly. Still thinking of your BiL and all your family too hun. Take care. Vikki xx

Oh Smiley, I am so sorry. I'm still sending prayers that her heart will soften towards your BIL.

Well, she didnt know it was him at the door, did she. It could have been a salesman or Jehovah's Witness and if she has trouble walking, then I suppose she wouldnt have bothered to open it. Poor boy, I do feel for him.

Sorry to hear that it didn't go as hoped. Do you know how often the carers are with her? If she has a badly injured leg, maybe she couldn't get to the door, perhaps she rarely gets visitors..... sorry if this is sounding naive. Please keep us all updated. My thoughts are with your BIL. Chloe x

Oh Sammy, I just don't know what to say. Still thinking of you all Vivienne

Lady Liberty - the reason for him questioning her receipt of his letters is because the only reply he has received is allegedly from her carer, as mentioned in my first post. It said his letter had set Mrs H*** back, made her ill, so there was always a possibilty that the carer didn't pass on anymore mail from Gloucester. Now, hopefully, this is one message she definitely will get, as for him not knowing who it was, that's the case when anyone knocks at your door isn't it? You don't know who it is til you answer, so he couldn't win there. There was no window by the front door, just on the side of the bungalow, so she couldn't see who was approaching. Sunday was a good day, re: no carers if indeed there are any, but if he tries again I suggested going on a week day. It doesn't sound like there is any point in going and sitting outside her house, if she has carers then they will do her shopping etc.. Recluse make me think eccentric too, as in ''not the full ticket'' I'm not being wicked, but it has occured to me before, although the lady BIL spoke to today gave no indication of this Strangely it hasn't put him off, bless him, he's more determined to at least get as much information about her, if he cannot get to meet her himself. Would you write to neighbours or telephone them? Sam

Hi Smiley Sammy Perhaps he could write to the neigbours and ask them if they would hand a letter to her personnally when the carers are not there? Or as you said telephone them first explaining that you spoke briefly to her today then ask if she would consider handing a letter to her. I dont mean to sound rude and I know this isnt the case but, perhaps they just think that because she is very ill and he has suddenly got in touch.......then maybe he is after getting in her good books so to speak. I think you will know what im getting at. I know from what you have said that it is not for that reason, but they dont know that do they?. Take care hun. Another thing to do would be to get there early in the morning and wait till the carers arrive, then go and knock..... Vikki xx

How sad for your BIL. So near yet so far!!! I hope something comes of the note he posted in the door. Unfortunately if she has become a recluse she may not be 'seeing' things the way we do and may be confused. Please keep us posted on any developments. I hope he gets some good news. Linda x

So near but yet so far......Im so sorry your BIL didnt get the result he wanted, lets hope that she picks up the letter before her carers do. Im sure one more visit from BIL during the week will eventually be considered, lets hope so, and hope he gets the result he so wants Rosi