Genealogy Chat

Thanks Brenda.

That is brilliant, Heather. So glad the day is ending better than it started.

Thanks to the help and eyes of the lovely Sarah - UREKA, the live one is MINE, MINE, MINE. Yes, this is the bloke, born 1802 in Lincoln, woo hoo AND although a letter sorter in 1853 at daughters marriage, he, his wife and the daughter were all upholsterers! Woo hoo, this ties in so nicely with my GGFX3 who was a cabinet/furniture maker in the east end - so I guess thats how they met. WOO HOO. Cheer up you lot! hee hee

Now Heather PLEASE don't throw your toys out the pram LOLOLOL keep smiling Trudy

Heather Yes! I was very disheartened about my gt gt grandfather William Williams (I could shoot his parents!) There are two chaps same name, with sons of the same name, living in the same village. The one that I think is mine has 3 different places of birth on 3 different censuses. Ggggrrrrr! On the other hand, for all the annoying things, there are lovely people who find missing relatives on censuses, transcribed as the most obscure things, and who will look up records on microfilm in their spare time, JUST TO BE HELPFUL. Every setback is matched by a step or so forwards. nell

You know I must be peed off. I just went to answer a query on records board - someone asking for 1851-1891 census entries and then I thought 'No, he hasnt even said please'

And not only did the two Williams both marry Catherines they both had bloody Mary Ann as daughters. How on earth do you sort that out. I should add all pre 1837

Alter If only it were - none of us would have bad backs, bad eyesight and mutter strange names under our breath when we're asleep from spending hours in a dusty records office somewhere!!!!!! Trudy

I get totally fed-up when hand on heart I tell someone,for their own sake that they are wasting their time continuing with a search .I explain how all known avenues have been explored by various folk,how the only possible progress be made by someone painstakingly wading through original documents in a records office,cross checking for days,and even then big chance of no result (all done by someone else ),and explain that not everthing is on the internet,and their response is ... oh well guess i'll just carry on and see if I get lucky ,maybe theres another way. everything is not available at the touch of a button.

Sorry - me again. I had a lot of correspondence with one man who had a connection to one of my rellies. We exchanged a lot of letters and I did quite a lot of research for him on various censuses and looking up BMD information. It was quite obvious that we were talking about the same man as he was the only person of that name and age that appeared on four different censues. When I asked if he could possibly have been mistaken about the person's second christian name (which was the only stumbling block) and perhaps misinterpreted the information he had heard about 40 years ago, I never heard from him again!!!

Hi Heather I know exactly how you feel ............. after weeks of research and the feeling that I was at last getting somewhere with one of my most awkward lines, I discovered TWO Charles Harris's, both married to an Ellen Bartholomew and both versions of Charles had a father called James .....! You wouldn't believe it was possible!!! They are all born within a few years of each other, all in Portsea and I haven't the foggiest which one is mine! Bev x

What an absolute b*****. Take no notice of the genius and stick to your guns. I have had contact with someone who had put information on a website (not GR!) with such great authority that for a while I believed her, but felt very smug when I found out from the parish register fiche that the birth that she had been crowing about was 15 years too early and she was barking up completely the wrong tree. I didn't bother to tell her - just went on my merry way. Someone on GR said that they believed that we would find our rellies when they wanted to be found. I am sure that this is true - I just wish that a lot of mine would change their minds and come out of hiding.

I once went to a talk about checking your information, to make sure you were following the right line. Afterwards, I turned to the people next to me and said innocently that I reckoned we'd all have to check our trees. They looked at me with utter distain, as if I'd suggested something obscene. We all make silly mistakes from time to time: simple typos, coping with computer software, and my best one to date: suggesting to someone on this site that his grandfather was married bigamously (how was I to know that two men with the identical, unusual name were living in the same registration district, when one had been born at the other end of the country?!!!) Chin up, girl. If your correspondent can't be civil, he won't get much info from people.

Yes the bloke is on there 24/7 and seems to have had a sense of humour bypass. For instance, quite clearly a kid born in Newcastle when the wife of the family was still living in Bermondsey with mum and dad must be the second wife, yes? But when I first started this - and they were my first line - I only had GR and didnt know how to do 2 spouses and separate kids. I mean, its obvious isnt it, but I just moved it all over job lot when I got a ft program 8 months later without use a fine tooth comb to check it transferred ok. But made me feel so daft, if you know what I mean.

I know exactly how you feel! I have been looking for the same relly for nearly a year and am beginning to hate him. Now I suspect him of abandoning his wife and children and living secretly in a lodgin house with his sister and pretending to be dead- amazing where your mind goes> If I find the old bastard then I'll kill him for putting me through this. WHy does it have to be so difficult?

Oh Heather! I think we all get like that sometimes - I chased the wrong family back 3 generations and was absolutely gutted when somebody managed to blow holes the size of cannonballs through them! As for the 'one name genius' - unless you know catergorically you're right just say 'fine, thanks for the info' and forget about him - sometimes these 'obsessed' people can be a bit overbearing and forget that we're all human. Just remember, we do this because we love to do it, we love to try and see where our roots are and we do it for us, no-one else, so just enjoy it and let everyone else get on with it. regards Trudy

I thought I was on the track on a elusive rellie but now find there were two William Wyles in London and both of them married a Catherine. Iwas pinning my hopes on the 1851 to find out where he was born but now find that he is the only one on there and the other one must be brown bread. Bet your life the living one is the wrong one. I feel really irritable about it. On top of that some genius from a one name society is picking holes in my website for his name thingy. I mean querying ages and stuff of distant rellies. I feel so disheartened.