Genealogy Chat

Quick nudge - Thanks Sheila Move now so close am resorting to g & t, and am currently supposed to be sorting garden magazines (about ten years worth) It is also our wedding anniv. today 29th, so should be cossetting hubbie, who was actually watching footie.

Dear all, As an adoptive parent I just want to say that I look in now and then and have greatly benefited from reading your experiences. I think I am better prepared to help the young adults in my household having been able to read your experiences. They are not quite at the stage of actively searching for their birth families but one of them might benefit from reading this thread soon so thank you for your sensible advice and caring help to each other. You all sound lovely people and I wish you all the happiness in the world. I hope you all know how much we love and cherish you.

Hi Mel, Do yourself a big favour try not to over analyse everything, it will wear yo, out; I think that this is the adoptees biggest mistake, trying to read between the lines on everything we hear. Your BS did know the story then, at least you have that cleared up, now just try to take things as they come if you start doubting everything you have already been told youwill drive yourself crazy, and the search in itself is enough to do that ;O) Ann Sorry that you have not had the fairy tale ending that you hoped for, but in reality how many of us do, most of us have issues to face during this search. That 's why I would urge anyone who does this to be 100% sure they want to proceed, it's alright well meaning people telling you to jump straight in and make contact, but your the one who has to pick up the pieces. I do not regret doing my search and have gained a lot, but at a price, but you have to get over it and get one with things, and as you say you realise in a lot of cases how lucky you where to have wondrul adoptive parents. Eileen Hope the move is going ok, amazing what you find when you start going through the house. Glen Enjoy your visit ! Bye for now Sheila

Goodnight all, Annxx

Hi Ann, OOhh 1 more then I must go to bed. I am the only adoptee in that family, when my BM becoming pregnant from that, it really took it's toll on the family, as my BGM had a stroke from it all and died shortly after, leaving my BM to raise her 6 younger siblings. BM was one of 10. Needless to say other than the inital first couple of emails I have heard nothing from BM since, that was about 3 weeks ago. I have contacted BA who has done quite a large tree and has now added my name to it, I do not mind and quite like the look of it there, but on the other side when I look at it it's just a name. Do I really belong there, that is the burning question. Off to bed this time Mel

Mel Oh....thought she might have known different story Are you the only Adoptee in your BM's family. Annxx

Hi Ann, I hate ironing to but it is better than the movie, just. I have heard from my BS and she knows the same story, she just worded it that way because she did not know if I knew. And just wanted to make sure what BM had told me about it. What do ya say !! To many emotions for nothing !! Anyway of to bed now, night Melisa

Glen - small old word Eh? I went to college (x years ago!) and it transpired , i discovered some years, later that i got off the bus the other end, at the end of the road where my birth mother was still living! I went half way across Hertfordshire to college , because we got the bus fares re-imbursed in those days if we stayed 'in county'- the nearest college that did my course was just across the county border in Bucks, and mum and dad REALLY wanted me to study there but really couldnt afford the bus fares(nor could i)...now i know why! jess x

Hey mel Not ironing.....Please...hate ironing. Annxx Did you hear from your BS, does she know something different or not.

Hi Ann, Are they real words - wait and patience. I did not make them up nor know the meaning of them, and I will not be listed under them in the dictionary. LOL Sorry I am not desperate enough to watch Scary Movie 2, I would rather iron. Melisa

Hi Glen, Ohh I must say that wallpapering sounds fun !! but no good for me, I change my mind about the colours to often, and it's a little hard to get it of for my liking LOL Let us know how you go in Lincoln, we will be thinking of you. Mel

Hi Mel Yes its been a very cold day. Scary movie 2 is on prime if your desperate.lol No more on that BF subject.....BU is sending photo's soon. Will just have to wait.....hmmm wait...hate that word. Annxx

Sending my Kleenex your way Glen.

Hi Ann, Have you heard anything from BM at all or is she still suffering from Alzheimer's. And now for some dull normal talk lol, gee it was cold in your part of OZ today, I really do not like the cold at all. I do not know why they do not put something good on t.v. on Friday nights, we can not be the only ones at home - CAN WE AAAARRR. Melisa

Ten minutes out from trying to wallpaper a teenage girls bedroom,during school holidays andwith furniture and teenagers in the way .Nice to get back in hee and a little 'sane insanity'. Hugs for all who need them. Hopefully next week i will be in Lincoln,my birth place and home of the last two generations of my birth family. Strange to think i used to work there,just 50 yards from the church where my b/m married the first time.I can feel a few times when the tissues will be on hand. Glen

Hi Mel Yes my life is as exciting as yours..lol Nothing on the T.V Annxx

Hi Ann, Nice to see that I am not the only one sitting in front of the computer on a Friday night !! lol Melisa

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Hi Rebecca, My BM went on to marry another man a 2 1/2 years after I was born, and they had 3 children. The 1/2 sister that I am in contact with is the middle one. I have heard nothing about the older 1/2 BS or the younger 1/2 BB, or what they think of me contacting BM and having regular contact with BS. I am sure there will be more roller coaster rides ahead, luckily it was always my favorite ride. I did not go much for the carousel. Seeya Melisa