Genealogy Chat

Hi Glen, Sorry to hear that things are not going to well for you at the moment :O( With regards to the job siutation it could be worth getting in touch with your local Citizens Advice Bereau to see if they can help. But with regards to the court clerical officer, I do not blame you for being annoyed! I owuld have been. I must admit I have been lucky although SS were very very slow, they were both helpful and nice to me, and the court clerical officer I dealt with was brilliant even booking me into the courts at short notice to get my adoption records. I just don't think everyone can understand an adoptee's qeunch for knowledge, and the need to know the truth of their background, that along with some older SS worker's ideal's, that whats in the past is in the past, and should not be raked up leads to situations like yours. At least you managed to get an apology from her leave it a week or so, and if no action is taken then write a fairly strong letter to the Head of the Social Services dept. and the local courts, since the change in the law it should be understood that they should be there to help you in your search, not hinder you. Chin up Glen, hopefull better days ahead!! Take Care for now Sheila

Hi all Just feeling a bit glum today. Still waiting for my adoption records,the Lincoln Court being most unhelpful and somewhat 'abrasive'. I was actually asked today 'why do you want to know why you were given away?' That one came after a bit of a grilling about what i can or can't access.(they tried to say the files are closed) In a fit of peak i replied that i would probably find that my mother was related to this court official,as they both seem to have a throw away attitude towards me. Composed myself a bit then said 'i was given a better chance so what is your excuse?' It's not really my style but seeemed to do the trick as i did get an apology and a promise (empty?) to look into the delay. Ifd anyone remembers the certificate and job saga recently,well a quick update, completed my first month then when payday came along on Friday (first one,paid monthly) no money appeared and no phones working. Looks like they went pop and 10 drivers not working today,all owed wages.It just gets better and better. Glen

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Pandoras Box Peter- yes probably , and a box of worms that will probably bite....... BUT ......... - what ever that box contains if you want to open it, then do so - its the only way to discover what is in side. If it bites you, well, its a chance you take, If not it might be filled with goodies. Worst case is that it is empty. At least you can say you looked Jess x

Hi all, I have been searching my tree for a while now and have met my birth mother and half brother. She didnt want to talk about my adoption at all and wouldnt give me details about my father, all i know is his name, I found this in the pile of info given to me by the church society. Any ideas on how to progress with finding him, and am i about to open Pandoras box.

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Hi Melissa, I had already e-mailed you to see how things are going, sorry your having so much grief finding an approved counsellor, mind you I remember them saying to me the nearest one to me could be Munich which is about an hour away :O( Hopefully you can sort something out in the meantime hold on in there, everything comes to she who waits :o) Take Care for now Sheila Jess any word back from Barbara ? just wondering if Janice could be of any help to her.

Hi All Aaarrrr After finally finding a counsellor in Oz that understood that I needed to see a counseller to access my adoption records, it is not a counsellor approved with the GRO. What is the most annoying bit about it is that the organisation I booked it with (church conselling service) is approved in one area (2 hours away ) but not the one that I booked it through (30 mins away ). I emailed the GRO and there policy is that the futher one away is the only approved C*****care Office. Luckily now after 2 weeks I have finally got application form and a list of the 4 approved centres in N.S.W. Sorry to complain, but I needed to let out my frustrations Aahh I feel much better now. Cya Melisa

Hi Jess, She has not put her last name on the message on lookup, so I cannot look for her, but does Barbara know that someone on this site called Janice has Iris in her tree? Sheila

Hi jess, I have come across this before when someone has left a message on lookup but then family have not been able to reply to them, more than likely her e-mail address has changed. Has she got the full name of the person who put the message on hopefully it is in her adoptive name. Sheila

help me with this Guys... have had this private message and dont remember anything about it!! - happy to delete if anyone finds it innapropriate ************************************************************************* From : Barbara Subject : General Boards Hi there, In reply to a message i put on the genes site titled (Looking for Kate) you advised me to look on the general board but i dont know how to access it, i would be grateful if you could advise me further. I am not really sure how to use these message boards any advise you can give me would be great. I came across a message on the lookupuk site from someone called Kate she is looking for information about the birth parents of Iris Cresswell who was adopted out when she was five years old, Iris Cresswells parents are my Grandparents. I have sent several replies to her on the lookup site but her message was put on ther about five years ago and i have not heard anything back. I look forward to hearing from you. With Thanks Barbara Cresswell ************************************************************************ any suggestions anyone?

Hi Jess, Been on holiday for a week, and cant believe I sent you a message just before I left ,asking you to start a new thread and to come back and see how much it has grown :O) I think legal adoption only took place after 1927 and anything before this date was informal eg , family members or neighbours taking in a child, or a local Dr could arrange this. However, you will have a problem to prove who the childs adoptive parents where, unless you know his new name as their will be not SS records or court records. Sheila

Hi, can anyone tell me what the procedure for adoption was pre 1927? Was it called adoption? How did the 'adoption' take place? The year I am interested in is 1919. Thanks

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Just bringing us back.. we nearly fell off the edge there jess

hi andrew just wanted to wish you luck in your search i too have done my adoptive tree and my biological one i have found new relies on both sides which i am pleased about angie

Hi there I just joined this site and am researching my adopted family tree. At time of writing this I am applying for access to my original birth records so hopefully will be able to search my biological tree. I must say I just stumbled across this section and have yet to read through it all but its nice to know there are people here doing similar stuff. Good luck to all of you who are searching, may you find what you need :)

I saw a card today jess that said you have not been in touch recently and i thought that would be appropiate. From the last message you sent , is your niece maybe not happy within her relationship. Stress within a family is hard going. Keep going i am sure you will find out the reason. Love SandraXX

hi all just been reading all your posts and so many i can relate to jelousey seems to be a big part of finding our birth familys not on our side but more on the people we find and there exstended familys o how i have encounted this,in the end i just gave up trying to be accepted iv done this for 3yrs and i just get kicked in the teeth i also have recieved cards from some of my siblings and the others just couldnt be botherd,after all these years you would think that they would love sending there sister a card at this moment intime i cant be botherd with them either we are from different worlds and our relationship was doomed from the start if only i had talked to other adoptees before i went searching,then i wouldnt of ended up feeling the way i do angie xx

Liz many Thanks for the reply it has really helped and helped me sort things out (family wise) in my mind, as i felt i was going round in circles