Genealogy Chat

Will catch up later with everyone- glad you are all still hanging on in there. jess

Good for you John. Let's hope you can help each other to find out a little more as time passes. Glen

Hi all, just wanted to write a quick note to say that I got a reply back from my cousin yesterday, he was pleased to hear from me, which is great, although he really doesn't know too much about his dad as his mum and dad got divorced when he was quite young. But, at least we've made contact now, thanks to those here who spurred me on to write, i'm glad I did now. Best wishes to everyone.

nudge

thats great news glen hope you enjoy your new found family angie xxxx

Hi everyone Had another piccy if my b/m yesterday,taken about three months before she died,and had a couple of phone calls from curious people answering my letters. So i now have two nieces in touch with me,and they both have children of their own,the blood family is growing so quickly it is getting difficult to keep up. Now if i can just get my court records sorted out,i can say i really have got somewhere. Hugs for everyone Glen xx

hi every 1 just wanted to let you all know iv become an auntie again this eve a little girl jodie lou i found my brother 3yrs ago with my 2 other brothers im auntie now to 15 angie xxx

Hi everyone I'm a bit early tonight - get moaned at for staying up late, but that is when all the most interesting postings happen - doh - My question is - how long does one go on making 'trying to find' postings - I have been doing it on the 'net' for several years now, as many of you will have seen, not only on GR. Before I got the internet I put out messages on Teletext and the other one, and also in local papers from time to time. Eventually you begin to think, 'yes' - 'they know you are there, and are looking, but they keep silence' or am I being paranoid?Surely with all the postings I have made, someone somewhere will have thought to themselves, 'ah, I know the person she is looking for', and maybe told that person, or maybe not told them. So, my full sister, Jennifer Ann, born in Woking on 22nd September 1945, our mother lived in Bisley - if you are out there and don't want contact, please contact me just the once, and let me know. Eileen

Back at last Hi everyone, from Wales. Thanks to all who wished me a good move - it was 'interesting', several fairly major hiccups, but eventually everyone and everything got here, albeit a day late. Only one night spent on the floor, so not too bad. About 160 boxes unpacked so far, and at last the computer turned up and is now set up as you can see. 73 e-mails awaited me - since turning off on 10th April - many of them from friends at GR. Just been catching up with the 'hints and hugs', what a lot happens in a short time. Lives are changed and turned around. Certainly I empathise with the current thread about seeing photos for the first time. My Canadian birth-half-bro sent me one of a wedding group taken in England in the war. In it is our father, and my mother holding me as a baby. The only picture of my parents with me. Amazing. Yet my Canadian halves had known this picture all their lives, and I had been pointed out to them as their English sister, whom they must find. Actually, despite their trying to find me, it was me that found them. They also knew that they had two English sisters. Sadly we were separated when we were adopted so one is still missing. Where are you Jennifer Ann, born 22nd September 1945, our mother lived in Bisley, and we were born in Woking. - I make no apologies for continuing to post my sister's name and birthdate. One day she, or someone she knows, will see it Hugs to everyone, its great to be back Eileen.

Just come across these messages and found them very interesting. I managed to have contact with my own birth mother after many many years of trying to get her to speak to me. When her husband died she changed her mind and we had over 20yrs of happy times together and also excellent contact with the children from her marriage. Unfortunately when she died over 6 yrs ago now I was unable to attend the funeral being in hospital suffering from another heart attack. Unfortunately my half siblings didn't take kindly to me not being available although I had visited her many times while in hospital until I became ill myself. My half sister was the main problem and her sudden extreme hatred of me was something I never want to experience again and also the effect it had on my own children and g.children. I wanted to write this down just to let people who have such high hopes of meeting their birth families that it doesn't always turn out well even if you have been part of the family for a very long time. Always keep a little back of yourself just in case and take things very very carefully. I am still searching for my full birth sister who was adopted within a few days of myself and we have been parted for over 60yrs now. As far as I know she never tried to make contact with them. After having a few bad years trying to get over what had happened I managed to find my half sister on birth father's side. We are in constant communication but have yet to meet - hopefully soon. At first she was devasted when she heard that she wasn't the only child of her father - another point when searching - it could make you very happy but it could also be quite devasting for another person. Luckily she has accepted what happened in the war years and now calls me her 'sister'.

Hi All, Hi Sheila, I hope you had a lovely holiday, but I'm glad your back. At the moment there must be something in the air over there as I have just received an email from my BM. It was nice to hear from her, after she had finished making excuses why she hadn't emailed me because of her various ailments she did invite me to her wedding next year !!! Not that I think we will be spending $6000 on air fares alone for myself, hubby and kids to go to a wedding but it was a nice thought none the less. Maybe had I already had much more regular contact and for a lot longer with BM I may have thought about saving, but at this point I do not know if it is right to say I do not want to waste approx $10,000 on a whim !!! or Maybe if I won the lotto I may re- think it as she did say all the family would be there, what a great opportunity to see and meet everyone. Gee Impatient or fickle, LOL Seeya Mel

Hi all Sheila,missed you recently,did you have a good holiday? The photo thing does seem strange.Yes there are a few similarities,mostly the hair colour and we look very similiar around the eyes.(weird when you see my earlier posts,i mentioned eyes and hair then.) Anyhow let's see what the postman brings in the near future. Glen

Hi everyone, Glen Hope you got the JOB..........Good Luck. So happy that you have finally got a photo of your BM. It is a strange feeling to see a photo of your BM....especially when you have the same features. Do you think you look like her? And now you might learn more with other relations popping up. Your having a great week. Welcome Back Sheila.....Hope your holidays were relaxing? Annxx

Hi All, Just wanted to check in after my holidays, if anyone is waiting for a reply to an e.mail, sorry but got back and the compter was playing up just had to replace my graphics card. :O( hopefully its OK now, Glad to see that things are turning out so well for you Glen, and hope the interview went well today :O) John, Fingers crossed you hear something positive back soon too! Catch up with you all soon, Happy hunting all :O) Sheila

Glen, I didn't think my post would really spur anyone on, but i'm glad it has, and I really hope you find what you're looking for. I hope the road won't be too bumpy for you. We've had a few shocks while researching the family, but overall, I think it's been worth it. Best of luck with everything.

Hi John I just want to say 'Thankyou' to you. Your post last week made me get my act together and start looking for the living rellies and not just going through the census and finding gg g/parents etc. Up till then i had only bothered with my half siblings and had run into various problems. It might be a bumpy ride ahead,but unless you start you never know,at least now i have started rolling. Thanks Glen

Hi Glen, it's fantastic you getting a photo of your birth mother, I guess it's one of those things all adoptees would like. I was going to post a quick note as well today thanking people here for spurring me on to write to someone I think is my cousin. I finally sent the letter off today, so I hope I get a response (hopefully not a bad one) from him, i'll let everyone know what type of response i've had, if any. Also, I wrote to my great uncle again to update him on the family tree, I kind of got the feeling he was holding something back when we were in contact the year before last, but I guess you can't really tell from a couple of letters. Anyway, best wishes all in your searches.

hi glen what a shock for you getting that pic of your b/m when i first met my brothers,they bought picture with them of my birth parents,at first i didnt want to see it but then curiosity got the best of me,out of the five of us kids i looked the most like my b/m and my sis looked like b/d iv not actually met them,only when i was little cus we had to have visits but i was about 9 when i last saw them good luck glen bacardi xxx

oh glen thats great news.what a week.good luck for the job. i'm in tears reading how well things are going for you.;you've searched so hard.

I was talking to my cousin when the e-mail came through,i wish i had checked it because my cousin only met her the once,and his description was spookily accurate. The uncle i found is in his 90's and has dimensia,he lives in a care home,after speaking to the home i have sent a letter to them and they are going to forward it on my behalf to his family. I bit the bullet and rang another rellie,she is my half sisters daughter,she confirmed that her mom had recently moved,was quite suprised but interested,and says she will e-mail some photographs from her childhood (pictured with her mum/my bs).She also said she will pass my address etc on,and get some contact details for other family members back to me. Glen