Genealogy Chat

Hi Sheila Happy Birthday to you Happy Birthday to youuuuuuuu Happy Birthday dear Sheila Happy Birthday to you........ I have to say I hope I have sung on the right day !!! With the time difference I am not quite sure. If not I will have to sing again tomorrow, are you all up to that? Seeya Mel

Hi Sheila Just in case I got my timing wrong with the different countries. Happy Birthday Sheila Seeya Melisa

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Hi Mel, Thank you, another year older another year wiser ;O) not! :O) wil be going out for a meal later and will have a drink for you and all other adoptees on this thead . Glen Glad to see you back on here, where have you been ? don't give up with your brother, you just have to give it time and find your own relationship together, glad to see the way you have bee handling your Social Worker reckon I would have thrown a fit by now :O( JD Enjoy your time together with your grandad appreciate each day as it comes, the time you have together now is what matters,and if the worse happens you will deal it with it by remembering your happy memeories, Good Luck Sheila

Hope you had a lovely birthday Sheila Sandrax

Hi Sandra, Thank you , being spoilt now as I am of for a meal tonight with my family, there goes the diet :O( Just wanted to say to all ' HAPPY MOTHERS DAY ' whether your an adoptee with children of your own, an adoptive mother, or a birth mother, have a good day ! Sheila

Hi to all Hope everyone had a great weekend. Belated birthday greetings to Sheila. Not much happening here. Still havent got the answers to my questions.....time difference doesnt help...........Waiting is not my strong point.........Oh well back to the house cleaning....yuk Annxx oh yeah changed last name......

Hi Sheila & all, Yes I'm back, Thanks for asking, I'm fine how are you? I am going to go to library just trying to find the time,only just seen your msg, sorry for delay, Louise.

Hi all Sheila Where have i been,busy trying to become 'au fait' with the computer and type/print my sloppy verses for the other half mostly.(making amends for hours talking about dear old granny etc) Took out an ancestry sub as well so i have been busy with that and found most of one generation lived in the very area i now live in, Slightly strange in that i'm filling in my time looking back from the 3rd generation backwards as opposed to constantly checking to see if the longed for e-mail arrives,more of a busy mind than burying my head in the sand,but it's my way of coping with the long wait. Big hug for everyone who needs it. Glen xx

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Well hello to all Had my first conversation with the BM this morning and it was, .....awkward..... I think is the best word to describe it. I tried to be as friendly as possible and had to more or less pull the words out of her mouth. Um and yes I ask the burning question about the bf and I got that it was a one night stand type of thing.....ok.......well next.....oh no she had to go.......So that was all I got.....hmmmmm no I wasnt impressed and yes a bit down by it. So I had to write and tell you all...........Thanks Annxx

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Hang in there Ann from Oz - at least you got something, and maybe you will get more. When I found my birth mum she was very hazy as to even which one of her children I was, and yes, getting info. was very bitty. An odd sentence here and there over the course of several years, during which time we met and talked of everyday things like the weather, our likes and dislikes, the price of this and that, how my new baby was doing etc. Non confrontational sorts of conversations, then a bit of info. would come out, maybe triggered by some memory. Sometimes this would be when one of my children did or said something. So don't be too down, you may just have to store up crumbs of info. for some time before you get a good picture. My bm insisted that she had wiped her memory, and I truly believe she had. The feeling of loss, and the guilt, even if it was for a better life for the child, must have been impossible to deal with. Stay strong Eileen

Hi Ann, Don't feel to down, Eileen is right, it may take quite a while to get some info from her if ever, quite a funny situation when you think about it, she may be your BM, but she is still a stranger, and it could be quite hard for her to talk openly to other people anyway, let only someone she has only just spoke whether you are her daughter or not. Also, as Eileen mentioned she may have blotted it out, or she could be embarrased about it, its not great scandal for a pregnany to result from a casual fling nowadays, but to her generation there may still be some stigma attatched, there could be very many reasons why she was not forthcoming with you, it may just be necessary to bide your time for now, and take it one step at a time. :O) Glen, So you have been busy writing poetry, hope it works with your other half, as long as you dont start writing versus about the wonders of Ancestry and the 1861 census you should be ok :O) Mind you know what you mean actually started properly on my tree now, and I must say its quite addictive ! Take Care all Sheila

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nudge for all adoptees - Where are you Jennifer Ann, born 22.9.1945 in Woking, our mother lived in Bisley. You are my full sister

Hi all Well my super duper S/W has been in touch today (Saturday),with a slightly bemused answer about my court records,suprise suprise they were lost .......................in a fire. I seriously think a trip to Lincoln is on the cards,even if it's just to kick someone up the a**e. I have had 3 pm's in the last couple of days on this very subject,either fires or bombing raids being the cause. Am i alone in thinking that there is no real effort made to even look for the records? It seems very strange that the Germans or the arsenists always managed to find the local office storage facilities,but no one ever found the adoption register or central files and managed to 'lose' so many of us for life. I suppose it's now a case of really kicking up a stink,and trying to find likely candidates for adoption agencies that operated in Lincolnshire in the mid to late 1960's.Not a prospect i relish,right now i just feel like writing a lettter to the editor of tje Lincolnshire Echo. Now there's a thought.. Glen

Glen, stick with it & give them some agro, I was told 6 months ago mine couldnt be found, they were destroyed in a fire, then surprise surprise, last week my S/W phoned they located my files in the area where I am living, please be very adamant with your S/W this is not acceptable, otherwise they wont do the job they are paid to do.

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