Genealogy Chat

Hope it goes Ok, good luck

Yes Tom, she's going on my tree....... Will get the certs when I am more composed........ Merry

You are quite right Heather and thank you everyone else for your thoughts........ No dad to talk to about this:o(( Can't decide whether to tell my mum. Don't think she will be that bothered about it (that sounds harsh, but true!) so maybe I won't just yet........... On the other hand......feel I should tell cousin who reminded me about this (which was at the back of my mind somewhere) and let her know that without her I would never have looked. Still don't know why I did........ Hmmmm.....can't tell cousin without telling mum........ Thinking............. M x

My dear dad lost his elder bro when he must have been about 3 - he still talked about him when he was telling me about the family. Ive added him.

My grandad lost his twin sister when she was three weeks. he never talks about it even after 81 years, put her on your tree so that others can remember her too.

Hi Merry, It's so hard to understand these things and even harder when you can't talk to the people who are involved. I hope the wonderful people on here cheer you up and you feel a little happier soon - god that sounds naff but I do mean it!!! Jayne x

I think one of the really good things about us lot doing this anoraking is that we bring to life people who have gone. Without us doing all this noseying about these people would be forgotten but we have changed that. Do add her to your tree Merry.

I know how you feel Merry, I apparently had a sister - I sort of knew this - she apparently lived for only 8 hours, but when I found her details and birth reference etc. It somehow felt very different. Her name was Lynn and she would have been a couple of years older than me - I can't bring myself to send for any details or put her on my tree yet. It's really strange. Dea x

Me too, but even so, the baby was a real person. Id really love to have a big bro.

It's allright Jess, I am still larffing too, but there's a bit of me that isn't too...... M x

I suppose I had got used to the idea of the stillbirth. I have ''always'' known about that. Merry

Oh sorry Merry, you must feel gutted. Its a real loss isnt it. I wish I had the big brother mum lost before me. I often think of the fun he may have been.

Merry Oh, how sad! I can't really think of anything to say. Hugs (((((((((())))))))))) nell

LOL you lot....you are cheering me up a bit already! Merry

Have either of you got one of them pretty pink ones, or don't they make them nowadays?? Dea x

why are we waiting why are we waiting........... ps i have a numb bum, by the way if anyone cares **Sorry merry , we are now all squirming with embarrasment, I am

My parents married in 1963. I knew my dad had been married before and had always understood there were no children with his first wife. She died in 1953. Well last summer a cousin told me that dad's first wife did have a child, but that the baby was stillborn. I put this info to the back of my mind, as I imagined I would never be able to find out anything about it. However, for no particular reason I decided to trawl the birth reg's for the length of dad's first marriage, ''on the off-chance''. Six years into my quest I found a birth registration (there turned out to be no more). I could have had a sister.........Looked for a death. There is one in the same Q. All these years I have imagined a ''baby''........Now I know the sex and her name.............I am quite shocked at how upset I feel........... She was called Pamela.............. and would have been 18 years my senior......... Merry

King skin Jess? The boy has some in his room (though he dont know I know!)

Got a spare paper, Heather?

Anyone for communal singing?