Genealogy Chat

"Where there is conflict has GR ever asked a member to remove all their posts refering to a member or stop posting on another members threads or writing any thing about them."

NS,

It occurs to me that as phrased, only GR, not its any of its members, could possibly answer your question for you.

May I respectfully suggest that you ask someone in authority at GR if they can provide you with an answer to your question.

This suggestion smells very strongly of censorship, denial of the Freedom of Speech, dictatorship, and disapproval of anyone else's opinion when that differs from "you" (in the generic sense)

I thought we lived in a democracy???

I doubt very much that GR would go to that extreme.

These are Community Boards, and no-one can be forbidden from posting on any thread that they like.

If you want to have a purely private thread and discussion only with like-minded people and friends, then you have to set up your own site on FB, or on the internet.


I do know that people who have been in conflict with someone else are asked if they could not please come to an agreement about civilized behaviour.

I have heard that some people have been asked to apologize to someone else who has been offended by a posting

I do know of people who have received a ban for a longer or shorter time because they refused to stop posting incendiary remarks.

I also know of people who have received a ban because they responded to the instigator, and the instigator managed to turn the misdeed around, claim innocence and victimisation, and get his/her victim removed.


Cynthia and Jonesey have both offered very reasonable and reasoned solutions.

I would also like to see NS return to this thread, and respond to the concerns expressed by other members.

Is there actually a Genealogy point on this thread ?

nope!!


it would actually be better on General Chat ..........................

and GR did once state that they would move threads to the more appropriate Board ...............

............... but there'll be no-one in the office with the ability to do that ............. not until Monday 8:30 am, anyway :-D

You want the 'ignore' function function nana Sue.
you have the option of ignoring one, a few or all
Top right.

If you do not wish to have posts added to your thread(s)...refrain from starting them.....simples!

Peter,

I take exception to being accused of victimising anyone. I have never done so either on my last membership or this one. I am not victimising NanaSue. I am responding to her threads with an opinion which, in the main, is not in agreement with hers.

I am not running with the crowd either, the opinions I express are my own. Some will agree with me, some will not but only by having a discussion can issues be resolved and hopefully things move on.

This is the first time we have spoken but I do hope that when we speak next time it will be under better circumstances.

Cripes Peter, that's a little inflammatory, I thought people were discussing the OP!

NS, I guess anyone wanting certain members to 'not' post on their thread could either:

a) Not start lots of threads

b) Make (post) a list of people they would rather not have post on their threads


Can't see either option working though, we don't live in Stalin's Russia...thank goodness :-)

Thank you Porkie for the PM you sent me, still totally befuddled but do not worry that is a constant state for me!!!

I am quite happy... I am safe in the knowledge that I am not part of a "most" ... in fact I am wondering who is... how many does it take to make a "most"?

Peter, with ref to the person you mention, whilst it is laudable that you were concerned, it was not easy to know beforehand that said person's attitude and responses were because of a specific condition he seemed just a rather aggressive and rude poster as he had been on other sites. However by the end of the searches he seemed more able to respond without anger and was happy with the help provided I believe .

I hope you also have some sympathy for the people wrongly reported in that event, who were only trying to help, and also I hope you have the same level of concern for the elderly 'relative' who was being sought, who was only 'related' by a marriage, did not know the poster from Adam, and whose address details were being handed out willy nilly ...I believe someone even gave out a phone number FGS.

I hope you also have sympathy for the people NS has upset deeply and to whom she has offered NO apology , just 'more of the same'.

Sorry, this probably isn't the right board for this query but, as it is prompted by this thread .....

As a frequent reader but rare poster, I was so shocked by the sweeping accusation made by the poster at 9.25 this morning (Peter, was it?) that most posters on this thread are guilty of always gathering together to victimise other members, including the disabled and himself, that I tried to find the other threads to which he was referring, especially as the implication was that they were relatively numerous.

Am I right in thinking that there is no facility on GR to find All Posts/All Threads Started by specific members? If that is the case, is there a way of sorting general search results by date order? Thank you.

FB quote - Very apt for this thread

Two thoughts:
1. Never be bullied into silence.
And
2. Do not be bullied out of your common sense by the specialist; two to one he is a pedant.

JustGillian, the search facility is not the best for finding old threads unless you have a specific search term as well as the name, and know which board it was on.

I have had a look and I don't think that thread is still on the boards, though other more recent threads by the same poster are.

It is always worth trying putting the poster's name in the 'keywords' and 'author' box. But even that is very hit and miss.

Thanks RamblingRose :-)

Of course there is one very simple explanation for the same names appearing on threads, whether they are contentious threads or 'normal' threads...

and that is just because those members have been here a long time! ( they were here helping when I joined ) they are the helpers who spend long hours on almost every query thread, every search for relatives, they have expertise and patience and a willingness to help others.

Can I post!!!???

What a silly carry on ....again

We are here to post on threads if you dont like peeps posting on your thread
1 go away
2 Pm them
3 dont make a thread
4 make a list of peeps you dont want posting on your thread and we will ignore

The WWW gives us all the chance to use the net in the way we decide ......in the right way or wrong way is up to us!!!

Well said Rose, I agree with your sentiments.

Peter,

That is quite a statement that you have made, accusing certain members of GR of gang like activities to victimise and harass posters.

The "Accused" are indeed amongst the most active GR members on the message boards. Each spends a great deal of their time looking at MOST posts/threads that appear and respond to them if they are able to provide an answer to a question or offer advice how to obtain an answer. Equally if they see a thread that they feel is inappropriate or inflammatory they are likely to comment on that also. Consequently it is not surprising that you often see more than one of them appearing together on a particular thread, that does not however mean that they are acting mob handed, merely that they have advice to offer or share a similar view.

I know most of the members who I suspect you have included in your list of names who victimise and harass. I do not know them personally, only through their posts on these boards which I spot on lots of threads. If you take a look at any page of the "Genealogy Chat" or "Find Ancestors" boards I am fairly confident that you are likely to find that more than one and often several of the "Names" will appear together on a single thread of ALL types. I have never seen or heard any evidence that they collude with one another with the intention of causing distress to any other GR member.

One thing that I do agree with you on is that on this particular thread NS has not up until now said anything to cause others to be unpleasant. Unfortunately that has not always been the case on some of her other threads. May be that is why her threads attract the attention they do. Remember that flies are not only attracted to jam.

Perhaps after fully examining the evidence you may wish to consider withdrawing your accusation.