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Roseanne So Very Sorry to read of your tradegy. As Moms & Dads we are not supposed To lose our children first. When Children are taken from us ,I "need" to believe They are special and needed for greater things.Please know you and your family are in my heart and thoughts. Ronalda

Dear Roseanne, You have my deepest sympathy and I wish you continued strength in how you cope during this time. Just remember, your ""extended family" is here for you. with love, Sue

Roseanne I am so sorry to hear of the death of your son, Callum. My youngest son is 19 and I worry each time he goes out in his car. I can only imagine how you and your family are feeling. My thoughts are with you and your family. Sue

Roseanne, I am so sorry to hear your sad news about your son, I cant really find any words that would make you feel any better but wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and that my deepest sympathy goes to you and your family. Allie.

So sad to read about your son. Take Care Sarah.

Dear Roseanne I really don't know how to express my sorrow for you and your family. I have looked at the sites you listed and saw a picture of Callum, how handsome he is, and what lovely things are being written about him, you must be very proud. I do hope that all the messages are bringing you some comfort. I saw that you wrote that you showed him that you loved him, I'm sure Callum knows this. I do hope that everone keeps talking about Callum and that in time you will smile again. I'm sure Callum would want you to. My deepest sympathies Lynda

Dear Roseanne I really don't know what to say, I feel so much sorrow for you.My eldest Grandson is fifteen and a half and I idolise him, I can't begin to imagine how I would cope if we lost him. I hope that you can continue to get comfort from all these messages and I echo the letter that says he has brought all of us together in our sympathy for you. I am sure that you will get much comfort from Colin's beautiful poem and I hope that Bob does too. My heart goes out to both of you and I will be thinking of you at Christmas especially because I am sure that it is going to be so hard for you. Love Ann

My deepest sympathy. Unfortunately these things happen, you always think it is to someone else and then suddenly it isn't. There is only so much that one can do to protect your children and family, you can't blame yourself if things go wrong. Nearly ten years ago my son's best friend was killed at 19, coming off a motorcycle. All my immediate family (self, wife, son and daughter) use motorcycles or scooters and I remember Bernard's parents talking to us before he got a bike and hear myself saying that it's safe so long as you realise the limitations. Two years later he had his accident. I can't help feeliong responsible at least in part. Bernard's mother works next door to me and every time I see her I wonder that she doesn't kill me for putting her boy on a path that led to his death. So: Remember the happy times and your son's achievements, celebrate what he did rather than grieving for what could have been.

Roseanne, Just come online and read all the lovely caring messages and that beautiful poem. I believe we are all here for a reason, for a purpose, and although I know it must be so hard for you, but just look what your son has done! without even knowing it he has brought this board together in unity, in love our hearts and love pouring out to you and one another. Just a few weeks ago when I first logged on and came across the little grips and moans, I thought 'not again'. Now the difference and that's what your Callum has done. The Lord took him early but used the person he was to bring unity and love across the nations, people from all walks of life. It was not in vain, at this time of the birth of His Son, he used a very young man to bring the message Peace on earth and goodwill to all men Let us all carry on through the new year what this young man has shown us. God bless to you and your family Roseanne and may His peace reign in your hearts this Christmastime. To all on this board, let us remember this on Christmas day, let us celebrate in love with our families,friends and neighbours. remember 'peace' starts with 'us' Meri Kirihimete from Aotearoa the first place to see the sun

Dear Roseanne & family, I am sending you my heartfelt sympathies and prayers. Please know that your family is in my thoughts. My nephew died in 1985 at age 7 and I know although my sister thinks of him always, she found great support in a group called Bereaved Families of Ontario. This group is comprised of people who have suffered similar tragedies to their children and it really does help to be with others who can really understand where you are coming from. I hope that when you are ready you can find a similar organization in your neighborhood. If there is one, please take advantage of it. Sincerely Sandra in Ontario, Canada

Roseanne I was so sorry to read of your sad loss. Please accept my depest sympathy. Loss at such a young age must be hard to bear, but I hope in time you will be able to remember the good times you had and take consolation from that. Stan

My dear Roseanne, I am sitting here and crying so much I can hardly see to write this. I feel so much for you. I have 3 grandsons the oldest of which is 16 and I cannot bear the thought that something terrible might happen to them. My thoughts and heartfelt sympathy are with you and Bob in Redditch and I will be thinking of you both and your families and hoping that in time you will find some sort of peace. Jean.

Roseanne - So sorry to read your sad news. My thoughts are with you and your family, take comfort in each other. Sue.

Dear Roseanne So sorry to hear about your sad news. God bless Sarah xxxxx

as i sit here with my three yr old screaming for attention my 6 month old over my shoulder and my eleven tyear old nicking my make up its time like these i thank god i think if your a mum you can feel the pain for tother mums and i feel your pain oh how i feel your pain you will never getv over it but try not to look to the futre you MUST TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME THATS HOW YOU WILL GET THROUGHT THIS TERRIBLE TIME YOUR BOY MUST OF BEEN SPECIAL COS I BELIVE GOD TAKES THE BEST FIRST JUST LOOK FORWARD TO THE DAY WHEN YOU WILL BE REUNITED I LOOK FORWARD TO THE DAY I SEE MY BABY AGAIN . GOD BDLESS U AND YOUR FAMILY . DEB XXXX IN AUGHTON LANCS

Roseanne, I nearly lost my daughter in a terrible accident in Greece but by some wonderful miracle she survived. Some go because its their time, others stay because there is work to do here . Your son is an very advanced soul, he knew he didn't have long in this world, he provided others with so much pleasure, and now he has joined the other advanced souls to try and make this world a better place from another dimension. He would have touched so many hearts and minds while he was here and that will send him soaring. He is just a thought away, and in your quiet moments think of him with love , not grief, and he will reach out and touch you and you will just know its him. Believe me I know this is true. Marion

My boys are 12 and 17 and I, too, am sitting here crying. So sorry to hear of your loss and of those who have left messages regarding their children. My heart goes out to all of you. I will keep you in my prayers.

Can't really put into words what I want to say to you at the minute Roseanne. My thoughts are with you and don't forget that you have many friends on here if and when you need us. God bless you and your family, Love Maggy

Dear Roseanne & family. So sorry to hear your tragic news. I lost my son as a baby. Remember the precious times you had together. In time they become a great comfort. My thoughts are with you & your family. Sally

Roseane You will never get over this tragedy. You will learn to live with it. You will find a brave face for the world. Your friends will stop talking about him but you won’t and he will always live in your heart. You will find a way to get on with the day to day business of living but it will never be the same. You will ask over and over, “Why him, when there are so many horrible people out there?” and no one will be able to answer because there is no answer. It will get worse before it gets better. At first there is the whole business of dealing with sudden death. Stuff you only ever saw in TV drama suddenly becomes real and you are in the middle of it. There are decisions to make, stuff to arrange. How you will deal with all this in a home full of Christmas is beyond me, but you will. All of this `business` will keep you going but after, when it’s all over and there is nothing more to do, there will just be this big empty space in your life. You need all the help you can get. Most people have no idea how to help, what to say, what to do. Try to help them to help you. There is no “right way” or “wrong way” to behave. One day you will laugh again – and then feel guilty. When you see other people with their sons you will envy them. When strangers boast of their son’s achievements you will bite your lip. I promise it does get better. Little things at first; you will mention his name without crying; find something of his and not burst into tears; sleep through the night without the nightmares. Slowly, eventually life takes over again. Not the life you planned but another life. Life without your son. I lost my 19 year old son in a car accident on 6th October 2003 and not an hour goes past that I don’t think of him. Bob