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Dear Roseanne, You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Love Cathy.

My heart goes out to you, words can't help right now but please know there are people thinking of you!! Have a safe and happy new year if you can!! Dee

I have just read your post, Roseanne. My heart goes out to you. I have not lost any children, for I am only 20 years old, but I have lost some dear friends these past years, one was just last month, she was 19. I cannot begin to imagine the extreme sense of loss you are feeling, especially at this time of year. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time, may you find comfort, for you and your family. Take care, Chloe

Sharon What a lovely gesture Thank you Roseanne my daughter is called Charlotte

Roseanne I dont know what to say, My sons are 17, 15 & 2 years old and my daughters are 14 & 7 and the thought of losing them just fills me with dread... You see I had another Daughter 'Charlotte' and 12 years ago when she was just a baby,, she died I have never got over it and I never will but I have learned to live with it. Your son sounds like a lovely boy who you were right to be proud of and I know it wont help much but I have a little book that his name will be added to, It has the names of children who have lost their lives, I keep it so that they are always remembered even by a stranger! I found that after Charlotte died only the family remembered her and one day I was talking to a lady that had actually attended her funeral and when I mentioned how old Charlotte would've been she said "Oh thats right I'd forgooten you lost a little one" So Know I make a point of remembering and every now and then I open my little book and remember these children and I remember that there are parents out there just like me that will never forget. My thoughts and prayers are with you Roseanne and I'd like to share this with you..... You still have a treasure that will rate above all other You have known True Glory you are still his MOTHER This comes from a poem given to me after Charlotte died. Take Care Sharon

you are in my thoughts and prayers i have 2 sons aged 8 and 4 and can only imagine what you are going through deepest sympathy thinking of you at this sad time lorna keast

Bob I have e-mailed you directly. I hope you don't mind. I have been there myself and come through the other side. May God give you strength to bring you through too. Roseanne Will send the booklets in the post tomorrow when postal services resume. I know all these wonderful messages on the board are a great help to you, and I hope they will continue. With empathy and compassion, Kathy

Dear Roseanne, We were so very sorry to hear of your very sad loss, of a dearly loved son, please remember all the good times that you have had with callum and all the things that he achived in his short live. You had a son to be really proud off. I can't fully understand what it is like to lose a child, but have lost 2 brother's one in 1999 and in 2000 and i know how hard my mum has found it, my brother's were in their early 50's(although age does not come into it) and my mum was in her late seventy's but she is getting through it and it help's her when she thinks of all the good times. God willing, he will help you through this very difficulty time. When you lose somebody that you love its always difficulty but especial more so at this time of year. Take care and godbless you and all your family we are thinking of you. Cynthia, John and Rebeccaxxxx

Thank you all once again for your support. Kathy I will email you direct because things are getting harder and reality is now setting in. Thank you your emails are still helping Roseanne

Dear Roseanne, As Bob has said, you will never get over losing your beloved son. You will just feel less pain than you do now, and learn to put on a face for the public, so that eventually you will be able to function like a normal person again. I lost my beautiful sensitive 26 year old son suddenly ten years ago, and I had never thought I could survive such pain. That pain was so great it just made me want to die also. The tremendous emotional shock will leave you unable to concentrate or function normally. For about three months it is almost unbearable, so don't give up, because the worst of the pain will diminish eventually, but your life can never be the same again. The most important thing to remember at the moment is YOU CAN SURVIVE THIS!!!! There is a wonderful society called "The Compassionate Friends" which is especially for parents who have lost a child in any sort of way. Their Helpline is 01179 539 639. They can put you in touch with a local contact who has also lost a child and who will come out and speak to you. I have only just seen your message, and unfortunately I have to go out to my son's as promised. However, I will contact you again later directly. If you can let me have your address, I will post you some literature which gave me help when I most needed it. You will need to express your pain and grief, but please know that you can survive this awful time. With much love and my deepest feelings of sympathy, Kathy Bicester, Oxon.

Dear Roseanne, I too have just come across your posting. The tears are pouring down my face as I type. The pain you must be feeling is beyond belief. God Bless you and your family. With affection - Linda

Dear Roseanne, I just found you message and now I find myself crying. I have two young sons of my own and my world would just end if anything happened to either of them. I just wanted to say that you have my deepest sympathies and your son sounds like a wonderful young man. I saw a film once where this man's son had passed away young and he said that for a long time he was struggling with the fact that he believed everyone is here for a purpose but his son hadn't had a job or a wife or children or anything like that so what kind of purpose could his life possibly have had. But then the man realised that the main purpose of his son's life was so the man could love him and be loved in return. My thoughts and love are with you and your family Angie

Dear Roseanne My heart goes out to you, I have 2 children and I cannot imagine what you must be going through. Words cannot express how sorry I am, I hope that the messages on here can help ease your pain a little. You are in my thoughts, your son sounded a fine young man. Love to you and your family. Jane xx

Rosanne,I read your message the other day and could not bring myself to add a reply ,my son is 28 and I love him to bits,yes we sometimes disagree,and can fall out for a while,but hope fully I show him how much I love and appreciate him like you did with yours,

hello roseanne, my name is mel and i kinda stumbled upon your message and felt the need to say something to you. not that i know what to say really. i am a parent of 2 children and i cannot begin to imagine what pain you are feeling. i feel useless really with what to say, i keep writing things then erasing them.. so i'll just say that you are in my thoughts and i send my love for you and your family..

Thank you all again for pulling me through this past 6 days, and sharing your messages. I am taking one day at a time and you are helping Thank you everybody Roseanne

Just come across your message and wanted to add something to the messages already gone. I hope you are coping with each day, and there is a moment during Christmas Day this year when you remember his laugh really clearly. He sounds a great lad. I've got two boys, 3 and 1, and my heart goes out to you. God Bless, Stuart Murphy

Roseanne Words don't seem to be enough at a time like this, you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope the verse below can bring you some comfort, Take care Tracy We can shed tears that he has gone Or we can smile that he has lived We can close our eyes and pray that he will come back Or we can open our eyes and see all that he has left Our hearts can be empty because we can’t see him Or we can be full of the love we shared We can turn our backs on tomorrow and live yesterday Or we can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday We can remember him and only that he has gone Or we can cherish his memory and let it live on We can cry and close our minds, be empty and turn our backs Or we can do what he’d want, smile, open our eyes, love and go on

Roseanne Please accept my deepest sympathy on the sad loss of your son Callum . My Prayers go out to you and your family Bren

I cannot believe how many compassionate and warm-hearted people are out there, sharing the grief that we feel. You have lifted my spirits and shown me the world is not as black as it felt after my loss. I know I will never ever forget my son - and obviously do not want to, but you are helping me survive one day at a time. I know when I am down you are online for me. Cannot thank you all enough; I am getting my comfort from each and everyone of you. I am sorry that some of you have endured the same grief and I can only hope someone was there for you. Roseanne