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Well, no one has told me either!

Maybe its us TS ;-)

Who is the GR police person? Am I the only one who doesn't know. I'm beginning to have an inferiorty complex :-D :-D :-D

I think I add too much at times, and perhaps it could confuse someone is is new to this hobby
I recall one post that I made, adding every census year in order for one single family
Unless I am mistaken, it was our self appointed GR Police Person who TOLD me
( didn't ask) to cut it down because there was too much info on a single post

Being somewhat green at the time I amended the post as per the direct order!

I agree MC

I try to remember to put the source at least briefly if not the full url, but sometimes get carried away by having found something that was a bit obscure and forget but usually remember to put what it is.

It frustrates me when looking at a census return that has been posted if I have to calculate which one it is using the age and yob mainly cos my memory is not what it was and I forget and have to work it out again when I go back to the page after reading page 2!

Very good point about including sources Pam, I do get a bit concerned when people just plonk a load of info down without saying where it's from or what the relevance is.

Fair enough when it includes a self explanatory heading like "1901 English Census" or "England & Wales Death Index" but when people are taking info from e.g. other trees and just saying she married Joe Bloggs and they had these children ....... then I personally feel it lacks credibility. I honestly don't mean to offend any helpers on here, it's just my opinion.

There have been many threads started about what is expected of new posters or the problems with them so it probably does us good to have a look at ourselves. I wouldn't go so far as to say we should have a service level agreement or charter as people volunteer on here and give their own time so it wouldn't be fair to expect any more than that.


EDIT: Have sent pm to Wendy

I don't normally engage in the general chit chat, but this one is important.

I agree with Cynthia and everyone else wholeheartedly.

I give my apology to anyone I have offended for any reason. :-D And hopefully, haven't scared anyone off the boards.

I was brought up with "If you cannot say anything nice, do not say it at all."

I do realize that I can be abrupt sometimes, but it is more due to excitement for having found something useful than any intent to be malicious or hurtful.

I do also try to include where I found the information, so the person can try and find further information for themselves.

Pam

I haven't any idea who the 'board police person' is. Please will someone enlighten me via a pm

Wendy :-)

It's good to hear that Janey is fine. Miss her sometimes "off the loop" personality on here. She was quite a character.

Some more excellent points raised I see - thank you. :-D


Thank goodness the majority of folk on here are so friendly, helpful and a pleasure to come into contact with :-D


I was in touch with JaneyC a couple of weeks ago to let her know about FannyByGaslight's illness. Janey seems fine and is beavering away happily on another site.

Vanessa, a timely thought re "manners". This was in yesterday's Sunday Express

Many years ago, the actress Mia Farrow was dining with the Queen Mother at Clarence house and asked the monarch which aspect of child rearing she considered to be the most important. "Manners," she replied. "Without them, it doesn't matter who you are or what you do - you will never leave a good impression."

So there you go!

Jude

I think people also sometimes forget that not everyone has a MENSA brain, but just because they are less academic, does this mean they are any less entitled to want to find out about their history??

I know many people have said about how quiet it is on the boards recently, and I feel that can be attributed somewhat to the manner of some 'helpers'.

A kind word always works wonders and doesnt damage anyones self esteem.

I was always taught "Manners cost nothing, use them freely"

So many of you are wonderful in the way you assist and guide, but it only takes the one or two that make you feel belittled to stop you from returning to the boards.

I've only just seen this thread, and had time to read it through.


I fully agree with Cyn's OP ..........


...... although I have to admit that there are times when I get frustrated, and maybe what I post comes over as more abrupt than I really meant it to.



and then there are the posters who are abusive to the helpers :-(

Thank you Marie Celeste re my avatar :-)

AnnCardiff....Sorry no not J/Canuck.

Really nice to know there are some very kind & welcoming members here & I thank you very much.

K/Regards,
A/Canuck

second thoughts - don't think it is Janey

could that be our Janey? I do hope it is - I know she's still around :-)

I always say "welcome" to new posters and always do my best to help - do get a bit frustrated when someone posts "looking for Smith from Epsom" or something of that ilk ;-)

Ann - now there was a character!

Jude - rugby union - it has to be as my son still plays occasionally

it's a long long time since I actually went to watch Blackpool - children rather required attention on Saturdays - but I did like listening to Ian Holloway on the telly

long time since we have seen a name with Canuck in it!

Just saw this thread!
Unless I am much mistaken I know EXACTLY who the 'board police person ' is. Strangely absent from here.
Interestingly, I have challenged this person's manner once or twice and never had a response to my comments. On one occasion at least they have just removed the 'offending' posting.
Obviously they choose their victims carefully!
Jan

AnotherCanuck - do like your avatar, it's the feeling I get when I read some new posters requests and have to put myself into friendly, constructive, helpful mode.

I agree with MarieCeleste. The best way to treat a curt reply is to follow it up asap with something friendlier and more helpful.

I admit to being a rather "to the point" person and never look to see if it is a new poster but try to treat any poster with respect. If I can help then I will but if I can't say anything constructive, I prefer to say nothing.

It does no harm to remember the quote "do unto others as you would have then do unto you" (often mis-quoted as "do unto to others as they do unto you").