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MaureeninNY

MaureeninNY Report 13 Dec 2009 08:49

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Joy

Joy Report 12 Dec 2009 15:24



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SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 12 Dec 2009 00:54

No Julie

you are not the only one to be bothered about this


We all go to some length (varying lengths!) to hide our own identity on here

...... and then too many post the most personal information about their immediate forebears.


I squirm when I see those requests ..... and the fact that some helpers answer in detail on the thread instead of sending a pm


I was a teenager in the 1950s ..................... and it was still very much a disgrace then to have a baby out of wedlock. Girls were sent away to have their baby in secret, the baby was then adopted. OR the couple was forced to get married.


Many of the women went on to marry other men ........ but the secret was usually kept within her family.


I actually refuse to help with modern lookups



Yet ...... like you, I do understand the desire to find one's family.


I just don't think it should be done through an open site like this













Thanks Joy ....... and sorry about the deletions!

Joy

Joy Report 11 Dec 2009 22:15


Don't mind at all :-)

- just posted two posts of advice, went back to my threads a few minutes later: gone! grrrrrr!!

TheLadyInRed

TheLadyInRed Report 11 Dec 2009 22:13

Am I the only person who is bothered by people trying to find birth parents on here and submitting really personal information? I have visions of someone who has given a child up for adoption under very difficult and painful circumstances who may have then gone on to marry / re-marry and not told their spouse about the earlier birth. They then read about it on here and irreperable damage may be caused to those relationships.
There is a reason why social services and adoption agencies act as go betweens in such circumstances.
My own mother had a child to a man not her husband but I wouldn't dream of posting his details on here and causing unncessary upset to his innocent family.
Whilst I fully understand the need of adopted children to know their birthright I would just ask that they consider the implications of what they might post on here.

SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 11 Dec 2009 22:07

Joy

that's a good tip


I've stolen it, and added it to the header message


...... hope you don't mind!


sylvia
xx

Joy

Joy Report 11 Dec 2009 21:52


And please don't delete as soon as you have been given information; such a waste of time.

SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 11 Dec 2009 21:22

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Cynthia

Cynthia Report 11 Dec 2009 20:25

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SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 11 Dec 2009 01:03

I'm watching you two! lol!!

Cynthia

Cynthia Report 10 Dec 2009 22:38

Must stop meeting like this Robert!! lol

Robert

Robert Report 10 Dec 2009 13:30

Again.

Joy

Joy Report 9 Dec 2009 23:53



For new readers

pdh

pdh Report 9 Dec 2009 23:28

n :-)

SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 9 Dec 2009 20:49

lol!

Robert

Robert Report 9 Dec 2009 13:19

I do try. I am trying.

SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 9 Dec 2009 05:13

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SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 8 Dec 2009 22:35

n for the late evneing crew

SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 8 Dec 2009 19:01

Maria and straydog

Thank you both very much

I'm glad that you found the tips helpful.

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you both





sylvia

straydog

straydog Report 8 Dec 2009 11:17

Hi sylvia thanks for the tips reminder and thanks for all that the people on this site do to help other's.
merry xmas and a happy new year to you all.